Really!

Men know when a woman is attractive.

Women know when a man is attractive.

However, Women don't look for the same things Men look for.

A person doesn't Always get whom they are attracted to.
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What comes to mind ?

What comes to mind is that I don't 'get' anything.
I make a choice.
I have never chosen a woman that I was NOT attracted to in some way.
To do otherwise makes no sense to me.

I'm aware that there are cultures that preselect mates for any numbr of reasons but I don't live in those cultures.
I have been set up on blind dates before.
If I have no attraction to her, I respectively decline the date.

Thoughts? Beauty is not only the outer shell. Beauty comes from the inside.

There are men who are attractive and men who are ok in the looks department. Once you get to know someone, they can go from ok to very attractive depending on their personality. If they have wonderful qualities, they become very attractive to me.

Attractive isn’t always on the outside! Unfortunately, some people are shallow and never find out because they are stuck on exterior looks alone.

This

Even those considered to be 'ok' have some attraction.
The opposite of attraction is repulsion.
If you can't stand looking at them their personality will not change that.
At least not in a falling in love with them way.
You might befriend them and tolerate them because they have a great personality but there is no yearning for intimacy with them.

Interesting response !

I presume you are meaning the physical side?
It really depends on maturity. Maturity in both men and women looks beyond the physical to the person if you are looking for a healthy, lasting relationship.

I *think* what she means here is you may have seen and talked to someone you were attracted to, and the feeling was not mutual..meaning, they weren't as interested in *you* as you are to them...

Topic: Beauty in the eye of the beholder


This is true




Beauty, is as much about presentation and
personality, as it is about physical appearance.

It makes me laugh .. those who claim it is shallow to place priority on looks .. Are generally those who are insecure about their appearance .
To have a preference for physical attractiveness is no different to having a preference for a certain height range .

If Beauty is in the eye of the beholder why do some people feel the need to criticise or label how others define beauty .. seek what is important to you whether that be looks or personality or both

There used to be a check box in the internet options for IE that allowed you to replace images with a placeholder. Back before HS internet was common it allowed pages to load faster.

Imagine doing a search at a dating site with pictures disabled.
How popular do you think that dating site would be?
How hard would it be to find potential persons of interest is the image of them were not available and you couldn't see what they looked like till you actually meet them face to face?

Physical attraction is very important in the selection process.

Even when you were a kid in school, you would have seen that person before actually walking up and meeting them.

Ever seen someone you just don't want to meet?
How many of them do you enter into an intimate relationship with?

Okay, unlike you, I have preferences.
To each their own.

Facial features are not the only physical attraction that people consider.

Did you know, a study was done on facial symmetry.
It found that facial features that are too perfect actually turn people off.
Its our slight defects that attract others.

When you see someone at a distance facial features are not really in play.
Posture, body type, grace have a lot to do with whether you approach them for a better view of them.

Lots of women in this forum have expressed an interest in seeing pics of the man's body as well as their face. You can have a handsome face but if you are dumpy or squat, its a turnoff.

Americans have a predisposition to be attracted to the model type.
This is all wonderful if we lived in a perfect world.
The thing is, as we age, our bodies sag and loosen up.
Stuff that used to be high and tight is no longer high and tight.

The 50 year old man that wants a 25 year old woman wants her because he can't understand the changes the human body goes thru when it ages.
I can see beauty in saggy boobies, wide hips and body flab because that is how people my age look.
I don't see the wrinkles around her eyes, I see the vitality in them.

When I look at someone that is 55 years old, I still see how they must have looked in their youth. Most of the time, when I am shown pictures of them younger, its not a surprise.

Attraction is purely personal.
Understanding the ageing process requires a bit of intelligence and understanding.
I don't want a fashion model at 25 years old.
I want a 50 year old that looks 50.

There are many older people that don't look their age. Many age well.

Many Younger people are not that attractive going by body and face.

Attractiveness really has nothing to do with Age.

People who are kind and loving are more attractive than a person with mean ugly character . IMO

I like this response !

Where I understand where you are trying to go with this its not really that accurate.

Age is important when considering attractiveness.

How many 20 year olds are actually attracted to a 70 year old?
Physically, in all the ways that 'attractive' applies.

When push comes to shove and all the cards are laid out face up, which 20 year old prefers a 70 year old?

I also tend to agree with this.
People are very...VERY insecure most of the time.

well..
I guess i'll chime in too.
seeing that im not the Prince Charming look, I get to think about this question a lot.
yet, it is ugly to me for a woman to use her beauty as a crutch.
same as a guy would do I guess.

have something to offer?
not just "they got personality"
basically saying that person isn't attractive.
unless...they have something else to offer.
like making someone laugh, creating an original song or painting, having manners beyond saying "excuse me" at the store.
Mila Jovovich would be a 10 to me...yet all I know of her is movies and what she looks and talks like.
ive already seen quite a few women who are knock outs simply in a selfie, yet theyre not real!!! haha
brains go very far in this world these days.

A big thing that would boost the profile's of men and make them look more handsome is to shave or trim their beards and comb their hair.
Everybody looks better when they have a nice profile photograph.