Unfortunately, MOST (not all) people look at the outer packaging without giving enough time to judge the treats inside.

I agree with Nature Lady, but at the same time, I say this....

Everyone has a someone, but that needle is in that haystack, finding it may take time.

Pictures on a site are wonderful but they do not lend themselves to personality or honesty in most cases.

The descriptions on the profile "Should" be honest, but I have found that sites like this tend to tell the best parts of someone, not their struggles.

Good luck to all and be safe!

That is true. People should think more about the potential that a person might have with the similar interests. It doesn't take a lot of effort to meet for an introduction unless there is great distance. If the person is not a complete turn off, a second or third date might make a big difference in true compatibility.

Thanks for your post Brian! You made good points!

I met a man Inperson who was way overweight. This didn't show in his photo.
He traveled many miles to meet in person from South Carolina. So it was nice date. He was a gentleman with good sense of humor. I wasn't really attracted for a Relationship so we didn't continue . He got married to a another lady about 8 months after that. He traveled overseas to meet her.

I just like meeting men who are Serious about meeting the right woman for a Relationship. They are not into hookups.

That is true!


Mostly Men Online ! IMO

Very correct

Hola preciosa

I am attracted to older active gentlemen.

He doesn't have to be handsome but not bad to look at.

I am active older Lady and don't want a couch potato.

My activity parnter is older but he is very active always on the go.
Even though he has a health problem.

He's single never been married. I t's good to have an activity partner
at times.

Well unfortunately the internet and dating sites are full of people that mislead other people.. I don't think it's intentionally though... lot of people just take headshots no full length body shots.......

I've learned the hard way.. to get as much information and as many realistic pictures before I commit to meet and greet

And sometimes that is a bit of the problem with online dating sites you talk to someone you get to know who they are as a person first.. after a week or two you agreed to meet them in person and when you get there their physical self doesn't really match the image you have... in your own mind... or they sent you pictures beforehand but don't really show the whole physical person.....
And now here you are meeting the person for the first time you like who they are you like their personality but you're taking back a little bit by their physical self... it's a hard spot to be in you question your morality

.. it's the same problem when you get to know somebody you like them..
You like their personality you like their physical appearance... you can totally see yourself being with them... but then you sleep together and they are ... well let's just say less than exciting in the bedroom...
There's all kinds of things that go into a relationship to make them work... some things you can Overlook and something's you can't

hi

Years ago I was studying, and a girl there was not ugly, but very unattractive to my personal taste, so I had no interest whatsoever, but after several months my brain got used to the 'unattractive' parts of her and normalised her image, and I started to notice her. She noticed and sat next to me, and we became friends, and my aversion was flipped to then being attracted to her.
Familiarity reduces aversion.

The movie Shallow Hal should be required watching for anyone joining a dating site

I do website development and design. I used to be part of a group where we would share our sites and other projects and critique and rate them, give each other helpful feedback and what not. Well, I would spend hours on projects until I felt they were "beautiful". A lot of people didn't feel the same way, but a lot of other people agreed that it was beautiful. Some times I would make changes according to the feedback and I wouldn't like how it came out, but would submit them to be critiqued anyway just to see what would happen, of course sometimes those who thought it was ugly at first would think it was beautiful afterwards.

Anyway, yeah beauty is simply individual preferences. Our definition of beauty can change over time as well. When I was younger I used to think spiders were the ugliest of all creatures created, I never bother to learn about them, they were gross and disgusting and deserved to die. Well, I still don't care much for spiders and they're still pretty ugly, just not as hideous as I once perceived them to be. As time went on, I learned a little here and there about them and kinda appreciated them a little more, so yeah they're still ugly, but they have a purpose so they're not all that bad.

I worked with this woman. I thought she was very attractive and she seemed like a nice woman. As I worked with her, I quickly saw how she was a horrible worker and this changed my perception of her completely. I was disgusted and annoyed with her and everything about her.

It is but I am way more complex than I can write in a profile.
My best assets are demonstrated face to face.

I thin that is the same for anyone.The profile isn't meant to show the whole you.
Its supposed to get you interested enough to take the next step.
If it is accurate and on target, the face to face is better.
If it is based on any lies, those lies will surface and then you are tasked with trying to live up to a lie, where does that ever get good?

If my profile is accurate and shows my true self, when we meet, I don't have to 'live up to' anything. Its much easier to live up to myself as I am.
If you 'like' my profile. You will like me.
If you don't like my profile, you need to go your own way.
You wouldn't like me in person and isn't that what its all about? Meeting in person?

Interesting response!

However, men still know what's attractive, in reference to Women and beauty.

Whether he can get her is a whole nother subject.

Hollywood has examples of what a Beautiful woman looks like.
Also what a Handsome man looks like.

Unfortunately, many people would not agree with them.

We all know outside beauty can be, only skin deep.


My Topic is really in reference to LOOKS not character. Men are visual.

They tend to look at face, and Body.

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