I'm stuck in a relationship and we've been together for 5 years. I still lover her but as a friend. I tried to break up with her several times now but she still sticks with me. I feel bad whenever I try to break up with her, I don't wanna hurt her but the feeling is really gone. idk what to do anymore.

Sometimes we are not blunt enough, and the other person uses our words to suit themselves. I suggest you sit down together at a quiet place, not in a busy restaurant, possibly at a house on a sofa. Be blunt. say what you just wrote above.

I do not love you, except as a friend. I need to take a different road and that road leads away from you. You must find your own way. I cannot continue in this relationship. I don't want to hurt you, but you are not understanding me. I care about you as a friend, and nothing more. If there are tears or anger, just leave the room. There is never an easy way to break up.

shortest and best is, ''close the doors'' better short real ''painful'' then years dregging on

I asked for a cigarette. She acted like id asked a kidney. I asked that we clear the air before we got back in the car. She didn't want to wait. We argued in the car going home. Halfway home i told her I'm taking my things and leaving.

There's no point messing about once your mind is made up. That's like picking at a scab.

I've found, that it sometimes becomes
necessary, when i'm dumping someone,
to give them an itemized list of reasons,
why i don't want them in my life anymore.

Oftentime, the crueler, the better.
Gets the point across.

I'll take your advice and lets see what's gonna' happen. Thanks btw .

Honest communication is important no matter the relationship's condition.
Once you 'Know' it is over - make it known plainly without emotional expression.

If you have been in a relationship with that person for awhile, long enough, there is obviously many things about that person that are positive. I mean you 'loved' them at one time right?

Instead of putting them down and making them feel loss, encourage them for their good qualities and reassure them they have qualities that many would like.

Then, end it.
Lose their number, avoid encounters.
When you can't avoid, graciously excuse yourself from their presence and walk away quietly.

If you interact, they could think you are still interested.
After awhile, you may see them again. Treat them as a friend but limit the personal vibe to acquaintance.
You have history with them, you can't unknow them.

If they persist, they may need counseling.
If you broke up with them right, they will probably understand it is over and accept the change.

Lots of good suggestions given here already, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. 5 years in a relationship is a long time, but some people divorce after 25 years of marriage, and parting as friends is not always possible and remaining friends is not always the best idea. From what you say is happening, that she still sticks with you, a clean break maybe the best option for both of you.

Or you can simply say its OVER.
and Move far away.

Throw her out of your life, burn all memories. Being friends with someone, you broke up with, doesn't work.

there is no greater wealth in this world than peace of mind.... at some point you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life... ....

But if the ex stays in your heart, there ain't no space for a new partner ...

After 5 yrs, Texting is the most effective way of breaking up

Good luck

But only via Whatsapp. Otherwise you have to spend more money on your ex

Try pushing them off a cliff...

Only comes in handy, when the tide goes away from you

Reading what you've written here, your problem is entirely within yourself.

That problem is, that you don't know WHY you want to break up. You believe you DO need to break up, but you haven't figured out anything else.

Until you know in detail, why, you wont be able to move from your spot (excepting taking one of the unilateral actions others have suggested, of course).

Essentially, you are like a person who wants to go out to eat, but who hasn't worked out what they are hungry for or which place they want to eat, so they continue to stare into their refrigerator, that hasn't got anything they actively want in it.

I just hope for your sake that you're not going through what many youngsters(anyone under fifty) do, and thinking that if you just get out on your own entirely, that something will magically come to you, about what you want your life to be about. Lots of those folks dump their mates, only to find out that they STILL don't know what they want, and then go rushing back to their ex again, after it's too late. You could look up "seven year itch" for some thoughts about that common phenomenon.

But again, most of all, I recommend you figure out what you want to actively put your life energy into DOING. That usually results in a person being able to work out solid and logical reasons for who they need to be with, where they want to live, and so on.

We have a saying here in the States called 'going postal'.
Anytime you break up with someone you must avoid them 'going postal.'
'Going postal' is the person that enters a post office and
shoots everyone over bad news.
Avoid that, if you can.

Just toss all her crap onto the front lawn and tell her it's over.

Tell her the Truth, it's over and if she doesn't want to be a friend then that's up to her. You at least still want to be friends.

Truth hurts Sometimes!