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Topic: How to stop loving an evil ex?
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Sat 09/15/18 04:55 PM
My ex-girlfriend cheated on me, put me in debt, manipulated me, and humiliated me publicly, yet I still love her. I saw pictures of her today and they broke my heart. I don't know how to get her out of my head. Random memories of us come to mind and the pain is too much.

How do I move on?

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Sat 09/15/18 05:05 PM
One step at a time honey start with forgiving. I know that sounds insane but not for her for you. Once you can do that it's day by day jusy keep swimming. I don't know you but I can tell you life is to short to waste it one someone toxic to you. If you find yourself thinking of her just go out be with friends or family someone who you know has your back.

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Sat 09/15/18 05:34 PM
If she doesn't have a sister,
nail her best girlfriend.

:thumbsup:

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Sat 09/15/18 05:46 PM
It is about you!!! You have to come to the realization and acceptance that you are more worthwhile than that. There is a major difference between loving someone and having sympathy for them.






































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Sat 09/15/18 06:00 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sat 09/15/18 06:03 PM
First off, forgive the person. Then try to meet a nice caring woman and start with a friendship that grows into a relationship.

That is what I did when I was still in love with my ex for years. He was great for years when we were married.

After we broke up I later met a nice man that we had a good relationship. And had laughs and traveled enjoed life.

Best way to get over someone is to meet someone new that is nice and Careing.
Sometimes that takes time.

This is My own Personal Comments.



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Sat 09/15/18 06:01 PM
Go have mind blowing sex with another woman and you will forget all about the evil ex...


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Sat 09/15/18 06:06 PM
Courtesy of my friend, Bob Newhart






https://youtu.be/Ow0lr63y4Mw

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Sat 09/15/18 06:16 PM
Beer, lots and lots of beer.

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Sat 09/15/18 06:34 PM
Pay attention to how you feel about Yourself. Once you realize self love and self worth inspite of whatever happened, you will feel stronger and it will be easier to move on. Maybe you will forgive the person, feel sorry or indifferent coz usually what a person does to you is a reflection of what that person is, not you. Having good friends n hobbies n meeting potential new interests helps too.



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Sat 09/15/18 06:39 PM
I know what you mean, it can be like they died in your life. Just remember the big picture is there. Don’t worship her.

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Sat 09/15/18 06:48 PM
Edited by GalaxyStarz on Sat 09/15/18 06:54 PM

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me, put me in debt, manipulated me, and humiliated me publicly, yet I still love her. I saw pictures of her today and they broke my heart. I don't know how to get her out of my head. Random memories of us come to mind and the pain is too much.

How do I move on?



Take control of your thoughts. If a thought about her comes up, let it pass thru, just let it keep moving along, don't stop it and ruminate.

Decide if she comes to mind, you'll think about balloons going up in the air, a leaf floating down a river or into the wind, ocean waves across your feet, etc. ~ then do it.

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Sat 09/15/18 10:12 PM
You know what to do. You're just anxious to do it. No person would want an evil ex back. Gather yourself up and start over.

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Sat 09/15/18 10:20 PM
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Sun 09/16/18 12:43 AM
Mr.Neuro
Just pick some stuff and suppose it as your ex and bring out all your anger to that object and get relief.

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Sun 09/16/18 03:04 AM

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me, put me in debt, manipulated me, and humiliated me publicly, yet I still love her. I saw pictures of her today and they broke my heart. I don't know how to get her out of my head. Random memories of us come to mind and the pain is too much.

How do I move on?

How is she evil???
YOU allowed this to happen. You were there weren't you? Why didn't YOU do anything about it? Why are you needy & clingy and latch on to someone who doesn't love you and respect you?
Work on yourself, stop blaming your ex. If you want love and respect you have to give that to yourself first. Obviously you don't otherwise you wouldn't have allowed this to happen.
Then you go around blaming your ex, calling her evil? And then you say you love her??? If you'd love her you wouldn't call her evil.
I wonder, 'she put me in debt'... how much of that did you actually GIVE to her yourself?

Grow up, grow some baws, work on yourself and stop blaming other people.
That is the answer to your question "How do I stop loving her?"
You do NOT love her. If you did, your message would have a feel of love, it doesn't.
It screams "Please give me attention, I'm a victim! I feel sorry for me, please also feel sorry for me!"
Needy, clingy.
Yuk.

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Sun 09/16/18 03:21 AM

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me, put me in debt, manipulated me, and humiliated me publicly, yet I still love her. I saw pictures of her today and they broke my heart. I don't know how to get her out of my head. Random memories of us come to mind and the pain is too much.

How do I move on?


She was not for you. One of the biggest challenges in life is avoiding what is not good for us, especially when it involves moments that give us a good feeling. No doubt, the two of you had some good, no matter how small, that your heart is holding onto. There is nothing wrong with that. Maybe it will take time to look at it with perspective, but it is totally fine to love someone from a distance and move on. I had the same with my first husband. I will love him always(thats what real love is, isnt it? unconditional and eternal). But that does not mean we were good together or belonged together. We will love many people in our lives, in alot of ways, and that is fine too.

find someone new to love, love them in the special way that you love THEM. And allow yourself to feel it completely without a sense that you love anyone else any less.

If that makes sense.

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Sun 09/16/18 05:31 AM
Yeah, about the wording, the unbridled passions are the evil, not the ex herself as a person.

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Sun 09/16/18 06:40 AM
You just do nog let it ruin your life. You can recover from allof it.

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Sun 09/16/18 06:59 AM
Delete all phone No's., put photos etc. in a box and bury in the bottom of your old stuff, and move far away; a busy new life may hook you up with a better girl. And learn from your mistakes; don't let it happen again. :thumbsup:

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Sun 09/16/18 08:00 AM


My ex-girlfriend cheated on me, put me in debt, manipulated me, and humiliated me publicly, yet I still love her. I saw pictures of her today and they broke my heart. I don't know how to get her out of my head. Random memories of us come to mind and the pain is too much.

How do I move on?

How is she evil???
YOU allowed this to happen. You were there weren't you? Why didn't YOU do anything about it? Why are you needy & clingy and latch on to someone who doesn't love you and respect you?
Work on yourself, stop blaming your ex. If you want love and respect you have to give that to yourself first. Obviously you don't otherwise you wouldn't have allowed this to happen.
Then you go around blaming your ex, calling her evil? And then you say you love her??? If you'd love her you wouldn't call her evil.
I wonder, 'she put me in debt'... how much of that did you actually GIVE to her yourself?

Grow up, grow some baws, work on yourself and stop blaming other people.
That is the answer to your question "How do I stop loving her?"
You do NOT love her. If you did, your message would have a feel of love, it doesn't.
It screams "Please give me attention, I'm a victim! I feel sorry for me, please also feel sorry for me!"
Needy, clingy.
Yuk.


Well said Crystal

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