Are you a JEALOUS person with all your loved ones(family and friends included)??

Jealousy can become very fool,crazy and without control...and dangerous!

jealousy is a waste of an emotion

Depends. I can be jealous, to be honest I think everybody sometimes is, even the ones who claim to never be.
It just depends on circumstances.
Let's say I prefer to be in a relationship where I have no reason to be jealous, then I won't really be jealous either. If I look back at situations where I was very jealous, I had very good reason for it. And I don't want a partner who makes me feel that way.
I know from experience that when a man really loves and respects me and doesn't show any interest in other woman, it doesn't bother me in the slightest when he interacts with another woman, not even when she is pretty, younger, or whatever.
I think it comes down to that a lot: having that trust and knowing in a relationship that no matter what you want the other person, and that person only, and aren't interested in someone else.

I have to disagree with you on that one Crystal.

not everyone is jealous, Ive learned a long time ago that envy and jealousy is based on insecurity and as soon as I learned that not everyone is going to like you for ( insert reason) it goes away.

Yes it harder when you're involved in a relationship because you will be tested but only you can control the emotion.

at least that is what my old Jujutsu taught us, confirmed by my parents and grandparents.

Jealous behavior is an emotional symptom of poor self esteem and lack of self confidence. When you are confident in yourself, there is no reason to be jealous of someone else because you know you are as good as or better than them.

yes, I have a friend who got " hurt" on the job.. city job. It was like he hit the lottery.. He is fine.. always was. living life to the fullest.. vacationing at will... houses all of the place.

he was a lucky b*st*rd!!.. and yes, I was jealous.. still am.

Only in a relationship with a man, I tend to be somewhat jealous.

I think there are different degrees of jealousy and perhaps even some feelings that aren't true jealousy but we call it that anyway.

For instance, can anybody really say he/she doesn't mind if a member of the opposite sex flirts with his/her significant other? I doubt it. But IMHO not liking it is not jealousy so much as finding that person's behavior in poor taste. I think it can only be called jealousy if you are threatened by it and it changes how you react to it, which goes back to what gears was saying about insecurity.

I said that cos I have been there with a man who said he was never ever jealous. Then at some point during our relationship he was, and he was totally flabbergasted about it, lol. He really couldn't believe it, but he did feel jealous.

I personally think it's quite normal to occasionally feel jealous. As long as it isn't a form of jealousy that makes someone's own life miserable, and that of another.

Oh I understand Crystal Fairy, but I'm from the school of I hold much value in what a persons says compared to what to what they do.

An ex girlfriend used to say to me its not natural to be not jealous, because she couldn't understand why I wouldn't get upset when other men were chatting her up.

Why would I?I know she is coming home to me at the end of the night.

If I'm out with a woman and men are eye balling her I'm smiling on the inside because I know Im with her and they wished they could be, now if I'm with a woman and the men are running away or holding up crosses with holy water then I might be concerned.

Nope, they are jealous of me.

In a relationship, based on trust, there is no need for jealousy. Sounds so easy

Possessive jealousy is like the emotional version of staying in bed all the time instead of getting up and doing things that you, in fact would rather be doing.

If you find yourself doing it keep in mind the most likely response you'll get if you don't stop is a slap down. Affection is a guardianship and confusing desire with dependence reduces your intellectual age and can begin to feel intrusive, in turn reducing the affection you desire and resulting in a tantrum of infantile behaviour, which winds up putting the object of your desire in opposition to you at best, in which case they simply leave you, or forced into a parental role with you, in which case they must discipline the intellectual-child throwing the tantrum with cruelty to teach independence. From there if you still don't get it you're likely to become quite aggressive and are you seeing a pattern here?

Self discipline is essential to adult relationships, the fact there is so little of it in "developed" western cultures and it's actually far more socially popular to be undisciplined, with the mind of a perpetual teenager to feel forever young; still doesn't diminish this truth.

Yes everybody feels all the feelings anybody has ever felt, same biological engine so that's unavoidable. It's what you do that counts and that means sometimes looking beyond what you feel, or placing someone else's feelings ahead of yours. That's adulthood.

In a new relationship I think it's possible to feel jealousy caused by some event, because you know so little about your new love. In a way it can be a good thing providing it's not excessive, because it shows you do have feelings for them so perhaps it's not all negative. However, I don't think you should experience jealousy in a more long standing relationship, if you do, maybe you need to think about why you feel jealous because I agree it's not a good thing.

Jealous definition is - hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage :


I do not get jealous because I know no one's life is only what can be observed on the outside, and everyone has their struggles. I dont presume to know the situation of others so well as to feel 'hostile' about their perceived 'advantages'

as far as relationships, I am of the mind that whatever I find appealing about a person is just enough reason that someone else will too ... so that also does not incite jealousy.

I try to commumicate what I want so as to not be jealous of feeling like I dont have enough of their time or whatever.

I think the root of jealousy is feeling someone else has something that you think you deserved more. I cant get into that frame of mind very well, and hope not to.

uh no

not jealous
however, if given reason
I will walk away
for I do not tolerate
bad behavior

if he wants to
see other women
flirt online
text other women all day long
flirt with other women on a date with me
look at the waitress's butt on the way by


uh no just no
this woman does not tolerate low behavior

This. I don’t consider this jealousy. Sometimes the primce you kiss turns back into a frog and needs to be returned to the pond. Jealousy can be a sign of low self esteem, but so is staying with a frog who openly flirts with every pretty thing he meets. It’s disrespectful to the woman he’s dating.

People tend to think being civilized means they can turn off their instincts.

Jealousy is an animal instinct rooted in protecting what you consider yours from others.
Anyone that has tried to take away a dog's bone or put their hand near the cat food dish experiences natural jealousy in the form of a growl, a scratch or a bite.

Caveman Bob likes how Cavegirl Sue smells. He grabs her hair and drags her back to his cave for some lovin. He growls at anyone that comes near her.
Caveman Jim also like how Cavegirl Sue smells and want to drag her back to his cave for some lovin. But Caveman Bob will not let him because she is his. Caveman Jim is jealous of Caveman Bob. Caveman Bob is jealous of any other cavemen near is Cavegirl Sue. He has to protect his possession against anyone that might try to take her.

Being jealous of someone else's possessions is called envy.
Many people see defending their possessions as being jealous.

Jealousy can be reduced if one does not view a human being as a possession.
Realizing that he/she does not 'belong' to you reduces the need to defend him/her from being taken away.
He/She is with you by His/Her choice.

jealousy involves HOSTILITY about an ADVANTAGE someone else has.

I would debate whether animals have a consciousness to understand 'advantages'. And I would insist that humans can condition themselves to be more or less like 'animals' if it is something important to them.

I think this is a good answer. I've been in similar situations. I've found that jealously is always from an action that shouldn't be happening. If you don't trust someone it's best to let them go.

I was jealous of my ex on father's day. It pisses me off that he clears a day of recognition to be with our daughter. She cleaned his house for spending money.