It's seem a 30 year old man will be all over a woman that a 50 year old man thinks isn't attractive enough.

I guess context , motivation. and intentions are a factor .

No, you got that wrong: Less HE can do for a woman when his erm... thang goes down... Which starts to happen with most men over 40. Still comes up, but the umph goes out of it.
Men call that "I finally have control!"
I guess that makes them feel better about it.

unless you have slept with most men crystal .. you are making assumptions

On that happy note .. I am off to get my beauty sleep .. thanks everyone for your input

I guess either the woman just wasn't it for him or he simply isn't ready for real love.
I know a woman who looks worse than the Grand Canyon, and in this case it is not a joke, she really truly looks 20 yrs older than she is and I don't think I've ever seen a woman with so many (deep) wrinkles and ridges in her face.
Yet, she found great love some 3 years ago, and a good-looking man at that, and he proposed within a year. As far as I know they're still happily married.
Meaning... if a woman really makes a man feel 'it', her face looking old doesn't matter one bit. The same goes for a body by the way. Most women don't have a super-model body, nor do men. Yet they do find love.

So either she didn't make him feel that way or -and I think it is this- he is too picky meaning he isn't ready for true love, too superficial, still controlled by ego stuff etc.

What you can do? Send him to a personal development course, hihi. Or, if he himself is bothered by his single-status, sign him up for one of David Wygant's workshops for men on finding love.

It's kind of depressing when you think about it. I told a friend he should get out and date. He said you don't understand, if I had my choice between a woman and a sandwich, I would choose the sandwich. He is 5 days younger than I am.

You don't need to sleep with most men, you just gotta talk to a lot of women And read a lot. Like for instance on anatomy or Kegels.
I think it's to do with people sitting on their rear end too much these days for work. That doesn't do the PC muscle any good and that will have an effect on a man's performance ability. Quite logical this gets worse when a man gets older as everything will loose it's umph when you get older.
Not unlike men saying women's boobs begin to sag, and conveniently forgetting that a man's boobs do the exact same thing -even when they don't have moobs.

Dunno. Only she has the answer

Yes, it's perhaps a shallow thing to say "outloud" but to be brutally honest (and maybe equally as shallow) I see "people" 10 or more years my Sr. who have consistently taken care of themselves who are incredibly attractive. I have also seen people 10 or more my Jr. who may have recently gotten into shape but are haggered by hard living in their early years. At my age personality and je nais se quoi goes a long way, but attraction is attraction and hard to quantify.

blondey you know him better but i know sometimes my simple short answers come off like that cuz i think those that know me well will automatically get all the extra subtext.

i say be a busy body sister and tickle him into submission

Just support your pig brother. You may have higher expectations for him but remember he is still just "a guy".

Sigh. I want dinner on the table at 5:37PM every single day....alas....no such woman can deliver this for me. Where....oh where is this sweet goddess who can?

sorry goof but blondey works the night shift so you need to eat earlier or much later

Oh the innuendo fun to be had with this comment.

You beat me to it Beach.

Now THERE ^^^^ is an innuendo I think I'd rather leave alone.

his wife died ten years ago ., he doesn't need a workshop .. he has 4 sisters to keep him in line

I think you are wrong crystal ..divorce can make some people bitter and they look for ways to put down the opposite sex . The trend I have seen is that a lot of men over 40 are looking after themselves ., very fit and athletic ..it is understandable they seek similar in a partner . Perhaps you are meeting the wrong calibre of men if you are finding their sexual performance is lacking

I have never thought physical attraction was shallow . Anything which ignites passion is powerful