Blondey my sweet NZ flower, no it is not unrealistic for him to want the total package. Why should he settle for only half of the package he wants? Sure, you only want the best for him but he is the only person that knows exactly what he wants. You need to let him make up his own mind. Give him advice, give him your opinion and let him know what you think of his choices but in the end let him have the final say.

P.S. I have a beach here also. I bought some sand from Walmart and spread it on my front lawn.

If it's just one woman younger than he it isn't a problem. If he isn't attracted to any women in their 40's, he will remain alone. At his age, his sex drive is getting lower and less a woman can do for him.

You cant force attraction, its either there or its not , Its not unrealistic to want to the total package when he probably has the total package,why settle and be left wondering why he settled.

I realize the NZ is a small place but who knows someone might vacation there and he happens to run into her somewhere.

This is how my sister met her hubby, he is from vancouver canada and he was on a business trip here when he met my sis at a coffee shop, a chance meeting.

5 years later, married and expecting their first child and she moved to Vancouver

Tell him not to give up.

Kind of a human thing, we're all looking for the best we can get. It's evolution despite how evolved ppl think they are LOL I've been told by women friends that they don't like to date men too good looking because of the competition of other women.

I worked with a guy who was a Pierce Brosnan double. We were lunch buddies He was nearly 50 (I was a little older, not that it matters) . We took motorcycle lessons together, he to remember and I to learn how to ride a scooter.

He brought her to a special happy hour - she was average looking, thin/small ~~~ they both loved riding motorcycles and met that way. She was very interesting and very different from him. They did get married. It was good to see someone not decide to never marry.

He said all the model looking types were too shallow for him, not intellectual enough. We talked a lot at lunch about being single. It was good to hear a man's outlook.

Im single too

aww mankum I think you are right .. but at some point men do look at faces .. even if it is just when they open their eyes in the morning

Is nightly mounting .75 of the month/year out of the question?..
or perhaps even more with someone of my contemporary age?
Don't even dignify. I'm afraid of the answer either way.

Two options to counter an unattractive face....

1. Light switch.

2. Paper bag.

I understand the whole evolutionary concept where attraction and mating are concerned ., you would think though that as we age our evolutionary drive would mellow .

I always wonder if I hadn't slipped on some lettuce, in the company cafeteria, and my tray, dishes and food went flying, with me on the floor, if he might have asked me out.




* jk, no chemistry

oh, he was talking about a woman

He can always pay for the nip-tuck to make it look better if she wants it done as well...


but I would guess that would turn her off if he is into just the looks...

ok .. but you have to endure a double date with me

ok .. but you have to endure a double date with me