Lemme explain...
A site where you don't get to see photos until you've exchanged an X number of chat messages.
What if you've been talking with someone for a few days, on and off, mostly in between things, and one longer chat. Convo flows nicely.
Then you can see each other's photos and the man doesn't react to them. Not one word. Yet, he does continue the conversation, at some point asks a question if I can do something (spiritual) as he picked up from my photo I have that ability.
THat's all concerning my photos. Then, when I tell him a short while later I'm off to watch a movie, he says he liked our conversation.

And no, I didn't react to his photos either. I was about to, but then he completely ignored having seen mine, so I decided to sod it.

So... then what?
Personally speaking, I'm in two minds. Partially because I clearly remember how effing good it felt when my ex saw my photo for the first time and was so impressed that he almost parked his car around a tree. He really had to pull over and stop, lol.

That's why I'm in two minds.
My gut tells me I simply don't like it when a man doesn't react to my photos after 2 days of conversation. But maybe I'm still too influenced by how my ex reacted?
So is it really my gut or is it that part from my ex? I honestly don't know

How would it make you feel if something similar happened to you?

Hi crystal . .. the danger in not having your photo up from the start is that physical attractuon does matter when deciding if you want to Get to know someone .. if you bypass that .. then there is always the possibility of disappointment when photos are eventually viewed even if there is a god connection . Personally.. I would not chat with someone who did not have a recent photo unless I felt like a game of Russian roulette

Were they naked photos

I totally agree with Blondey on this one.. except for the Russian roulette. I like to see who I maybe talking with from the start.

This ^^^^

I would so much rather someone fell for mew from my words
than my pictures. The staying power of pics is minimal
whereas the staying power of a good soul lasts.

Me too, in your case they could fall for your words or looks, in my case words are all I have, or BS as some call it.

No comment or reaction is a positive outcome. It would be like me expecting praise because I decided to wear slacks and a sport shirt for Saturday night instead of jeans.

expectations of compliments?
If I am only looking for a friend, I would not care if there was a picture..would not care if I got a comment on a picture. Isn't the picture supposed to show your interests? He found yours through your pics and referenced them by asking about the spiritual thing.
If I was looking for a f**k buddy, a picture would be a must,...to see if there is an attraction. call me shallow, but if there is no physical attraction, if I don't find them attractive, then they are relegated to friend status.

It isn't like that. The site is set up so you cannot see each other's pictures until you've exchanged X amount of chat messages. The idea being that you get to know each other, not based on looks but personality.

The scenario is different as the site is set up so you cannot see each other's pictures until you've exchanged X amount of chat messages. So no, he didn't choose me based on my photos or vice versa.
Also not looking for a f**k buddy, nor a friend. I'd like to meet a potential partner.

I guess I best sleep on it. Inclined to leave it, but maybe I'm then 'discarding' someone who had potential.
So f**king difficult at times to know what's best, that's the result of having been with a narcissist for too long. I sometimes simply don't know anymore when I'm 'putting up' with something because I got used to that when with said narcissist OR if it's my intuition.

I would think he had a different idea of what I looked like, if he said nothing after seeing my photo. We all know, men are visual beings online and offline.
I'm forward and would just ask, "what did you think of my photo!"

Believe me even with pictures you really don't know how recent they are..or if they even look like the person in the pic...

I actually met a guy that the pictures he had posted was him but he had a toupee on... Imagine my surprise to meet him in person with no toupee.. Believe me even pictures at times can fool you..And the wildest part is he sent me a pic after I gave him my cell number and yes with the toupee on.. Ended up he had about 1/2" of gray hair.. he showed up at the meet with no toupee ???

I even asked him WTF happen to your hair... sorry I started I mean really he had a great personality.


But even then pictures at time just don't always look like them either just depends...

This is why if I meet anyone online they have to live within a certain distance and meet them asap... You can tell so much more about a person face to face.. With just their actions and what they say... And if your not sure you can always suggest meeting again or extend the meet..

men are visualize
no pic, no chat period

the first thing i wanna know is if i would
enjoy spending an hour or so kissing her...

bcos you know, who wants to spend all your time
together just talking about stuff ???

not me, i need a picture first...to get my mind right

that is a nice concept but I think potentially it could leave many feeling rejected ....

good on you for trying something different crystal

Yes, with spring well on its way now, sun is out more often, I'm interested on going on a few dates. Nothing serious, just coffees and some harmless convo. Not ready for more yet, but I think I need a few dates to actually get ready if that makes sense.

Crystal would you mind sharing the name of that site pls?