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Topic: The Lady sang
Ladywind7's photo
Sun 12/03/17 04:24 AM
Hmm, I could not write "It is not over till the fat lady sings". That is not pc.
When did you know when your marriage/relationship was over? That your future did not have that SO in it?

Stu's photo
Sun 12/03/17 05:21 AM
When she went home for new years eve to meet someone else and left me home alone.

Ladywind7's photo
Sun 12/03/17 05:33 AM
Edited by Ladywind7 on Sun 12/03/17 05:43 AM
Did you know at the time? Or did you find out later that she was a cheater?

Stu's photo
Sun 12/03/17 05:53 AM
It's a long story.. it was already kinda going downhill after 12 years. I figured it out on new years eve when I figured out why she didn't want me on FB. I joined and it was pretty clear. I knew the guy. Funny thing is, they're married now, and we're all friends, well, family I guess is a better word.

motowndowntown's photo
Sun 12/03/17 07:22 AM
When I moved all of her crap out to the front yard.

Stu's photo
Sun 12/03/17 07:24 AM

When I moved all of her crap out to the front yard.


rofl

soufiehere's photo
Sun 12/03/17 08:17 AM
Edited by soufiehere on Sun 12/03/17 08:18 AM
The very first time he became violent, he became history.
And I mean that minute, called lawyer and filed..30 days
later it was over.

So I would say, the moment you learn who they really are
is the very beginning of the end.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Sun 12/03/17 09:25 AM
When I woke up, took off the rose-colored glasses and saw her for who she had become after my health took my job (and my money).

maybwecan's photo
Sun 12/03/17 10:22 AM
When the red flags became sirens, and so heavy that they broke the flag pole...

no photo
Sun 12/03/17 11:53 AM
When did you know when your marriage/relationship was over?

When I/they made a decision that it should end.

That's part of life being an adult.
You have to make decisions when you might not "know" something.

If the only relationships you have always end after some extreme event that guarantees you "know," then you've been settling and taking the easy path, IMO.

That your future did not have that SO in it?

I'm not clairvoyant. Nor infallible.
Your future does not have that SO in it when you make that decision.

If you're sitting around fantasizing about your future, trying to paint a picture of your SO in it, or not in it, then IMO you're trying to rationalize something.


Mike6615's photo
Mon 12/04/17 07:26 AM
Edited by Mike6615 on Mon 12/04/17 07:28 AM

Hmm, I could not write "It is not over till the fat lady sings". That is not pc.
When did you know when your marriage/relationship was over? That your future did not have that SO in it?


The original phrase is generally understood to be referencing the stereotypically overweight sopranos of the opera. The imagery of Richard Wagner's opera cycle Der Ring des Nibelungen and its last part, Götterdämmerung, is typically the one used in depictions accompanying reference to the phrase. The "fat lady" is the valkyrie Brünnhilde, who is traditionally presented as a very buxom lady with horned helmet, spear and round shield (although Amalie Materna played Brünnhilde during Wagner's lifetime (1876) with a winged helmet). Her farewell scene lasts almost twenty minutes and leads directly to the finale of the whole Ring Cycle. As Götterdämmerung is about the end of the world (or at least the world of the Norse gods), in a very significant way "it is [all] over when the fat lady sings."

no photo
Mon 12/04/17 10:39 AM
Anybody that needs a moment or an epiphany to understand the relationship they're in is over has my sympathy. whoa

Ladywind7's photo
Mon 12/04/17 11:40 AM
That is very judgemental Waterloosunset.
Sometimes you try really hard because of the vows you took, always forgiving.
There is a time when it hits you that nothing will ever change.

no photo
Mon 12/04/17 12:27 PM

That is very judgemental Waterloosunset.
Sometimes you try really hard because of the vows you took, always forgiving.
There is a time when it hits you that nothing will ever change.



Sometimes people live in a world of denial.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 12/04/17 03:09 PM

Hmm, I could not write "It is not over till the fat lady sings". That is not pc.
When did you know when your marriage/relationship was over? That your future did not have that SO in it?

Sometimes the signs were there very very early on but were ignored. I guess that means the relationship wasn't really over then. Hmm...

The second time...
when I had to go back after 2 days away from home and found myself crying whilst driving because I didn't want to go back to him.
It was about bloody time, had only taken me 10 yrs to work out things would never get better.

The first time...
When he was about to come back after being gone for a week for work and I felt I'd rather he stayed away. I still tried to make it work... failed.

Last time...
When he told me...

Ladywind7's photo
Tue 12/05/17 11:50 AM

When I moved all of her crap out to the front yard.


You are a hard man. laugh

Ladywind7's photo
Tue 12/05/17 12:03 PM

The very first time he became violent, he became history.
And I mean that minute, called lawyer and filed..30 days
later it was over.

So I would say, the moment you learn who they really are
is the very beginning of the end.


I admire your strength Soufie x

Ladywind7's photo
Tue 12/05/17 12:06 PM

When I woke up, took off the rose-colored glasses and saw her for who she had become after my health took my job (and my money).


Ouch Tomforyouhere. You are such a kind person, I can imagine you did your utmost in that relationship too flowerforyou

Ladywind7's photo
Tue 12/05/17 12:09 PM

When the red flags became sirens, and so heavy that they broke the flag pole...


I like the wittiness of your reply. Yeah, red flags can be hard to spot whilst wearing rose coloured glasses.flowerforyou

Ladywind7's photo
Tue 12/05/17 12:10 PM

When did you know when your marriage/relationship was over?

When I/they made a decision that it should end.

That's part of life being an adult.
You have to make decisions when you might not "know" something.

If the only relationships you have always end after some extreme event that guarantees you "know," then you've been settling and taking the easy path, IMO.

That your future did not have that SO in it?

I'm not clairvoyant. Nor infallible.
Your future does not have that SO in it when you make that decision.

If you're sitting around fantasizing about your future, trying to paint a picture of your SO in it, or not in it, then IMO you're trying to rationalize something.




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