Whenever I read a description of someone looking for a person who can be 'discreet', for some reason, my mind automatically jumps to the conclusion that the person is a cheater looking for someone to cheat with.


I am sure the request could also mean they simply want someone modest, maybe they are famous and do not want it known they are dating anyone in particular,,,but what are the odds on a social site of someone who is famous?

do you think the same when you read someone looking for a 'discreet' relationship/arrangement?

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Have yet to see one.

They could be seeking to make themselves a little more 'mysterious'.
It would certainly pique my interest a little, though a married woman, for me.....no, definitely not.
Guess at my age....i'm still just a little....old-fashioned.

I've only ever seen it used when they were looking for someone to cheat with...

I agree with you Crystal.
I haven't seen it in another context.

I have not seen that request very often, but my own interpretation of it is of someone looking for an extra marital affair, and the reason for discretion is wishing to maintain secrecy.

I would assume the person is married and looking for an affair.

Hy love not every man same

We should trust to understand each other

I only know of two uses for the word discreet, one technical and one social.

In the social application, it clearly means "someone who wont talk openly about the subject." In my experience, the only people who say they want a "discreet partner" or a "discreet relationship," have always very clearly been looking for someone who will keep everything secret. Usually because they expect an publicity will cause them trouble. It CAN be because they are already famous, and want to be able to have as close to a normal experience as possible, but no one who is THAT famous, ever shows up on a HIGHLY PUBLIC venue like this, looking for a "real" experience.

discreet=married

I'm thinking it's Anthony Weiner..

I always insist she wear her leash and collar under her blouse when we are in public.

On a dating site or singles posting "Discreet' means affair.

There are times in real life dating and relationships where discretion happens on purpose.

Discreet
adjective
~ careful and circumspect in one's speech or actions, especially in order to avoid causing offense or to gain an advantage.
~ intentionally unobtrusive.

Discretion
noun
~ the quality of behaving or speaking in such a way as to avoid causing offense or revealing private information.
~ the freedom to decide what should be done in a particular situation.

You don't take your date, lover, friend or spouse everywhere you know because it is inappropriate to the relationship.
You don't say or do things that are inappropriate.

Even people that tell you they have nothing to hide are discreet about some things.
Discretion is not a selling feature for an open relationship.
It is a method of preserving distance, keeping at bay.

I have known people (not married or in a relationship) that prefer to be discreet. They are looking for sex and maybe don't want the real world (family, work, friends) to know

Discreet doesn't necessarily mean unfaithful but unfaithful definitely means discreet~

I agree. I thought of this during the day today as well. It is still in the "family" of wanting discretion in order to behave less than honestly, though. It's just that most of us more or less "approve" of some situations of people being less then open and honest. Most people think it's okay to lie to your boss in certain circumstances, but not to lie to your spouse, for example.

Personally, I don't get involved with people who need to "be discrete," no matter why. It has nothing to do with any sort of moral disapproval, it's just that I don't need the extra stress in my life, of having to limit all my behaviors with someone I hope to have a full relationship with, or have to look over my shoulder all the time that I'm with them.

Discreet does not always mean unfaithful..

I have seen it more then once it is more or less FWB or just sex only... then other times yea they were being unfaithful....

Normally those that are married will even say they are it all comes down to asking the one that has it on their profile~~~

yes, I feel the same