Is it possible that I have closed the door to dating men my age or younger... To soon. I feel that every "Young or younger", guys are really
immature. I hope I have not put on blinders and have limited my dating pool.

I just don't enjoy the bar scene, club scene, any video games, off roading,
or backroading (NO LAUGHING) Well not to hard nor do I want to hang drink and be hung over.

I want someone that is stable, mature, goal oriented, established in life.
Don't get me wrong, I'm no gold digger. I have my own home, cars, toys etc.
I bought... I am not keeping of with Jones either. Just planning for future..

I surely don't want a guy that lives with his mom either.LOL
I like men 50 & up. Does that mean I suffer from ageism.
I want to give EVERY NORMAL HETRO male with a job a chance.

But I feel like I'm stuck in the older man phase. No I don't have daddy issues if that's what your thinking.

I like an intelligent conversation. I'm not very intellectual or philosophical Am I cutting my nose off in spite of my face (SEE)

Let me have your 2 cents. Do I try to date in my age range? (43)

Doesn't matter.
Limiting your dating pool in one area opens it up in another which closes it off in another.
In ways you might not even realize.

e.g. "I don't date people younger than me."
So what do you do? Stop going to places where it's nothing but younger people. Start going to places where you feel you are more among "peers." Boom. Just added to your dating pool by switching venues, but then you're going to those places rather than, say, going to the gym, or the library, which limits your dating pool.


Boom. You've just winnowed down your dating pool, eliminating those with common financial sense.
A house for a single person isn't really a good future investment.
Houses are depreciating assets. They "go up" in value over time because of the land they are on. Land appreciates in value. Houses don't, not really. They require constant money being funneled into them in order to keep them equal to your for sale competition in the neighborhood, as well as basic upkeep to keep it habitable.
And there is no guarantee that land will appreciate.

Houses are good investments for families that get enough "value in use" from the space, and plan on living there for pretty much forever, 20+ years.

There's only 3 real reasons to buy a house.
1. Something to give to your children, stability for children.
2. Vanity.
3. To flip it ASAP for profit/rental income.

It might actually be in your best interest to date a guy that lives with his mom. Rent to him room(s) in your house, see if you can set up a rental agreement where you can legally kick him out if the relationship fails. Use the house to generate income to offset the costs of owning a house.
(and as an aside; having male roommates will reduce your dating pool, while slightly increasing it depending on who you rent it to)


Yes. But "normal" people just rationalize and spin/relabel it "preference."
And it's not something you "suffer" from anymore than a 25 year old refusing to date a 14 year "suffers" from "discrimination."


If you're in a phase, then you aren't really seeking something serious.
If it's a phase, it will pass. Enjoy it while you can.

Saying you don't doesn't make it true.
Of course it could have nothing to do with daddy so much as "older approval."
I mean children go through a lot of effort for their parents to "stop treating me like a kid! I'm not a baby!"
You mention you own your own house. Maybe you are attempting to highlight status symbols to showcase your status as an adult, and you need kind of a "daddy" to date so you can compare and say "see! I'm not a baby anymore! I gotta house and older people date me like I'm a peer! Now I am validated as an adult, I'm not a baby anymore and I can prove it!"


Generally when someone who isn't an intellectual is seeking an intellectual it's more about coveting a status symbol.


You have the option of "weeding."
You can read profiles and reject older men and younger men by the same criteria.

Are you looking to actually date? Or are you just looking for a guarantee before you deign to go out on a date?
You have the option to say "no" at any time if someone asks you to do something you don't want to do.
Dating one person doesn't magically dry out all potential other prospects.

All the 'normal' things you want OP,
why do you categorize them by age?

Why not totally remove the blinders
and just see what is available?

Why not date those that just simply..
appeal to you from that bunch?

No, if you don't feel comfy with specific kind of men, which could be younger men, it's actually helpful to narrow your 'dating pool'. It helps to not have to sift and sort through a large group that doesn't really have your interest.
It's the best thing you can do: get clear what it is you really need and want from a relationship and partner and go for that. Try to 'exclude' what doesn't fit in.
Of course if you get too nit-picky it'll work against you. But that won't happen unless you get too detailed. Too detailed would look like: blue eyes, long lashes, brown curly hair, bit of chest hair, full lips, square jaw Etc. You get my drift I think.

I did exactly what you did, which helped me find the man I had hoped to find :) Narrowing it down really helps. It helps you to get clear what it is you need, then you start looking for and attracting the type of men you really want/need.

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Why can't you just date whoever the hell you want and quit worrying about the silly crap?

Loved all the input. I think you nailed it I want someone who has something I am lacking intellectually. I am proud of my farm and home. I worked hard driving a truck 12 years 365 days. to get here. I am accomplished established. Not ashamed, I too independent at times. I am going to try to give some men my age a chance. They might surprise me. But if they say xbox. I'm out..

But I have to admit the renting a no go funny as all get out though

I haven't dated in 15 + years things have certainly changed. I have been married most of my life .

But I think I am going to date whom ever the heck I want throw caution to the wind.

As for the daddy issues. NO NO NO NO I like mature men. Maybe not older.
I have a tendency to intimidate younger men well men my age. Maybe I make
myself hard to approach. Work in progress anyways thanks for all the advice.

FYI there not making more land it always goes up in value!!

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I'm not laughing, neither cry, just smile.

My 2 cent ??..Make it Simple & easy, GO WITH THE FLOW,
be Patient and DO NOT PUSH or RUSH anything...

It also depends on what age bracket you are, how SURE
and TOUGH your put your mind to WHAT YOU REALLY Want/Need.

Remember, MOST OF THE TIME, WHAT WE WANT is NOT WHAT WE NEED.

Now !!..For my age bracket, I wrote on my profile something
REALISTIC and also PRACTICAL..No cut corners

Be ready to have a GIGGLE

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I am here to find a Cute & Handsome  Lady Friend  ^◕‿◕^ ( My Size...One size fits all ?? ), preferable with short cut nails, who Doesn't Bait and/or Scratch Consistently , ❤ loves ❤ water sports like Swimming and Canoeing, Bicycle Riding ( Fishing also, but not a must ), of-course ❤ DANCING ❤, must also have a touch & love for sweet ❤ perfumes ❤, a real home-brew ❤ coffee ❤ & a glass of sweet red in moderation...

As for Age, must be, ( Not too young, just Right ), and who can fit into my Jeans as Height ?? ). As friend/s or Companion to begin with.

Sure, and ABSOLUTELY, with a dash of humour, Common Sense, and Wisdom, sprinkled with some Fun & Good Manners, these are a plus, being a Positive Spiritual thinker with a pleasant Personality is a Bonus, but full of Integrity, and mostly Kind & Gentle, would be IDEAL ✌.

I also wrote some-were that..

- I'm here to make friends first, NEXT, can be the following chapter.

- I'M NOT DESPERATE, I STILL HAVE MYSELF & MY FAMILY.

- BE YOURSELF, THIS OLD TIMER CAN SNIFF A WROTEN BONE

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LOL...I HOPE I didn't asked 4 too much.
Suits me, my age ( 65 ), and fits my shoes.

HAVE FUN and ENJOY THE TRIP, STICK TO ONE PLAN ONLY.

Try me

Lol great way to sum it up.

I love your response dont know hoe to clip the quote but it's cute!!

I would think "backroading" would make you quite popular with the guys.

There is a 'Quote' feature beneath every post,
you can edit for up to an hour then your post
is set in stone :-)

I think you should date whoever the hell you want to date.
Place restrictions on whatever the hell you feel needs restricted.
Have confidence that you will choose the right person for you.
You seem to know what you want.
You don't need anyone else's approval, its your life.

If you are not sure you know what to do, why not?
If you are sure, just do it.

Try to remember that everyone is different and nobody is going to fit your expectations exactly. Be prepared to be flexible.

Hmm..well op.. let's see you live out on .. Farm probably far from town and a big major city... and you drove a truck for a lot of years..hmmmm...
That just Screams Come and date me..
Lol.... so I would think your options in the dating pool where you are right now are probably limited as they are...
So I wouldn't be too picky if I was in your boots... I'm just being realistic about this.... yes you should have standards of course.... now if you're living in a large city where there's a lot more available men to pull from the dating pool... then you can sample all the varieties you like....... but it sounds like you only have one sample to choose from vanilla....lol... dont look at me like that!! I'm just keeping it real

Since you haven't dated in 15+ years, maybe the best thing to do is just start...with whoever! Dating isn't a marriage proposal, it's just dating. And gives you a chance to see what you like and don't like. And may clear up any preconceptions you might have on who they are based on their age.

And sometimes we can spend way too much time just thinking about it, rather than just doing it, and the next thing you know it's 16+ or 17+ years.

Just a thought! Good luck to you.

I am literally rolling on the floor, I'm an hour from OKC but your right slim pickens out here in the sticks. NO VANILLA..

Something I see ever so much woman making themselves unapproachable. Believe it or not!
Dealing with people today isn't easy. Yes frustrating to say the least. But what do I know I've been off work for a year and I have had the opportunity to see what it's all about and how it is out there in today's society. WOW! How is that for a positive note?! I feel better now. Thanks. Keep on keepin on!

Right you are!!! I'd better go downtown and choose my date...The first one I could see on the street... lolzzzz....

I believe you need to have a clear idea of the type of person you want to meet otherwise you will just drift into dating unsuitable people for you. If it's just dating you are interested in then it really doesn't matter because you know it's going nowhere, but for something more serious and long term you need to date those close to the type of person you are looking for in my opinion, and an age group is a preference, it is either important to you or not.