Why is it that my wife can cheat on me and move on. But because im still married i cant move on ? Because women dont want a separated man

If it isn't against your faith, I would suggest you go for a divorce if you believe the marriage has truly ended, then you will be free to marry again if that is what you want. Personally, I would not date a woman that is only 'Seperated', because I would feel that her marriage was not really over, and she would of course be unable to marry.
Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

Ask her how she did it?
Maybe she doesn't feel sorry for herself like you do? That's never appealing.

Another thing ... women usually want to have options for a future, like marriage. Men don't. So her new man may simply not care she's not available (yet) that way.

One more ... look for a separated woman yourself. Maybe that works.

my ex was a cheater and has moved on but when it came time to sign the divorce papers it was a mission to get him to do it. I have not been with anyone else because we were married but Jan 16th that changes and I believe it will make a difference to how I proceed with my life ☺. everyone deals with seperation differently, take your time and everything will be alright eventually

your going about it all wrong your trying to do it all out of spite and revenge, it will never work on your favor. my ex cheated on me and I left and she is already see in the grass I not greener over there so I said ya better get watering into body wants to be someones tool for Revenge its how you approach every situation good luck it sucks and hurts to get cheated on.

When I went thru my divorce it was simple. We layed out the rules of the separation period during our counseling. We had both agreed that there was not going to be a change of our minds when it came time for the judge to sign the papers.

Pretty much we cut each other loose when I was told to leave. And agreed to move on and get our lives in order any way we saw fit.

You seem to be mixing things up with this.

"Moving on," usually refers to recovering emotionally. Not just "having sex." Lots of people have sex with others after a breakup, without having "moved on" emotionally at all.

Whether you personally have moved on or not, is not her responsibility, it's yours alone.

If she was a cheater to begin with, she isn't "moving on" by screwing around, she's just continuing what she was doing before.

If all you are referring to/complaining about is that it seems to be easier for her to find males who don't care that she's still legally married, but you haven't found a woman who doesn't mind that you are, that's just roll-of-the-dice stuff.

It might make you feel "this isn't fair!" in an kid-style playground sort of way, but fairness never had anything to do with what is or isn't factual. Especially when it comes to romantic or pseudo-romantic relationships. Each person goes by their own rules: there is no coordinated cultural rule set that everyone must follow.

I personally would never get involved with someone who is "separated". That is just asking for trouble. If the person isn't willing to cut the ties from the previous relationship they are not willing to be committed to me.

Just my opinion but it is a reason women (and I assume men would be the same) do not want to get involved with a "separated" person.

sf2011, does this mean that you are lying in your Mingle2 profile, in which you say that you are divorced?

I dated a girl who was separated once...
always tried to get her twin to join us.

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Yup, gotta agree with this.

Get your own drama cleared up first before ya get involved in anyone else's.

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the person who cheats has already found at least one person who does not care about their relationship status


the person who is cheated on does not have that


also, it seems much easier for a woman to find a guy who will tell her whatever she wants to hear to sleep with her, and with no concern to her relationship status

for a man though,, women may not be as likely to be looking for the goal of sex,, but instead want 'companionship',, and a potential third party is a threat to that sense of security


and it is not just men who find it difficult though


there are some men who will be concerned with a females relationship status too,


its an all or nothing for many people, single/divorced/widowed or nothing at all , I suspect its because they feel its more of a guarantee, for those seeking a goal of a commitment,

that there is no lingering commitment elsewhere

Maybe this will help?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0H5chfbcWtY