me

.....damn it all to Hell......

it all depends on fate and time
and even distance...

i think im goin to reread this whole thread lol

coffee doesnt make a couple....but a couple a coffees may...

"I mean take trustingfate for example. I bet because of my confidence right now that if I asked her out for a date right here on the forums... she would say yes."
If you asked her out on a public forum like this, she would only say "yes" to try to prove some sort of point, whether or not she actually had some degree of interest in you. No doubt if I did that with a girl who lived (roughly) in my neck of the woods, she'd be playing it all up just for the sake of looking nice too. If you had given her invite to her via private e-mail, your chances of a positive outcome would be DRAMATICALLY cut short. Think you that I'm wearing my Cynical Face when trying to e-mail? I'm always sure to be wearing my Happy Face since, as trustingfate would observe, who wants a cynic? Nonetheless, despite being positive and confident, only 1 out of 12 girls I write ever take the chance to talk to me, and despite my efforts to keep the conversation going, the 1 who DOES reply to me stops talking a week (at most) later without one single warning of waning interest."


What kinda silly person do you truely think i am? I say what i mean..and i would never do anything just to prove a point...i'm way to old for that.

Good thing to know....I'll stick to the coffee...lmao

well isn't that nice. If I was down in FL I would go out with trustingfate too. But then I might be a bit too nerdy for her

"I say what i mean..and i would never do anything just to prove a point...i'm way to old for that."
Well, at age 29, MAYBE you mean what you say, but in my preferred age group of 18-25, I see way too many girls who say they want one thing but go after another.

I'm glad SOMEONE got something worth telling their future grandkids out of my predicament, anyway..... :(

I don't know what to say other than I can't wait to meet her. =D

Bobzeaux - Actually what I meant was your attitude and thinking is probably having a bigger impact on your behavior than you think it does. You seem to have convinced yourself of how things are before things actually happen.

well i re read tha thread
you sure are interesting people
lol
but love takes a very long time, if one does want to be with someon and they have tha distance then they go for it lol
doesnt take long for one person to like someone
if i had tha money id go see this one girls in chicago already lol
and who knows lol
but really it all somes down to time and chemistry and fate
some people are shallow
but not everyone is
and theres plenty of fish in tha sea
sometimes i feel i wont find dat wonderful woman
but i praically talk to many lol
it just i want to be with tha "right girl" for me
and like i been told im still young, so i have alot of time, but still i do quest for her
being on this site has made me open my eyes more on how you humans interact with each other, so toall who think they wont find dat person..
you will give it time..and think positive!

"your attitude and thinking is probably having a bigger impact on your behavior than you think it does. You seem to have convinced yourself of how things are before things actually happen."
Actually no. I scan around to see if there are any new users in my area (here and on a handful of other dating services), and every so often there will come a new profile that catches my eye. "Hey, would you look at that," I think to myself as I read her stuff, "an attractive young lady who lives less than 25 miles away from me with a bunch of interests that correspond with my own! Jackpot! :D" I remind myself again and again that in this horrible Numbers Game, I need only be rejected so many times before I finally stumble on one girl who will actually find me attractive and want to be with me. I keep pushing myself with the prospect that the next one WILL be the one who wants to spend some time with me. As cynical as I'm coming across, there IS hope in this scarred and jaded heart and mind. Would I really be coming back in here and elsewhere if I had already reached a concrete conclusion and just giving women up cold turkey?

when you all know what a lady is looking for e-mail me lol

But do you think if you have a scarred and jaded heart that anyone wants to share that? Isn't there a part of you that you want to share that is positive that someone else might be attracted to?

bro how are you rejected?
im not really rejected
i just come across some girls who wasted my time
why should you have some girl reject you?
i mean were all different i dunno how it is for you
but i can praticaly talk to anygirl not trying to make me think i want her exactly lol
i mean cmon why should you let a girl think you want her so instant?
even im not dat stupid
play tha game bro!
make her think she not even worth it
dats how i view myself
lol my love is too good for a woman unless she totally prooves me wrong..and so far i talk to many girls how just love my charm and love lol

so really why think negative??
cmon man get out there and talk to dem ladies!

But I've always been this way....that's why ive never had a relationship less than three years long...dont count us all bad...

"But do you think if you have a scarred and jaded heart that anyone wants to share that?"
As to my understanding, part of the supposed appeal behind the Bad Boy is that he was once scarred early in life (a possible explanation for his projection of his Bad Boy persona) and it's up to the women (being the helpful, nurturing creatures they apparently are) to try to heal the poor, tormented soul. But then you have to wonder why women don't like trying to help the sexually inept?...

"Isn't there a part of you that you want to share that is positive that someone else might be attracted to?"
This is something I still can't come to a solid conclusion over. Do women like people who are unique and artistic, or don't they? :S I think I've got a LOT going for me that someone else could be attracted to, but I'm playing to an empty house here.

I'm sorry, CaRisLOVE, but I can barely understand a word you're saying. I myself normally dislike it when someone attacks someone else for their use of grammar, spelling, and punctuation, but I'm only catching about 20% of what you're saying. "Why think negative"? Didn't you just reread the entire forum? I could write a BOOK on why I'm thinking negatively. :S

bad girls dont exist on here!
well tha ones who are in bed too lol
but ye!

wat im trying to say is your time will come and wat im trying to say is dont try too hard
you will come across a woman you can truly show your feelings too and if she likes who you are and just you being yourself
dat's basically all there is to it

i know you know this already
but yet you still show negativity
so really why this negativity?
have you really ben hurt so bad? its hard for you to trust females on wat they even say?

I'm out for the evening....hey AMP give a call, i sent my # over...lets talk....