Are you sure that's love....or is it lust? A nice greasy cheeseburger ....or some ice cream

OHHHHHHHHHHHH FOOOOOOOOOOOOOD!!!!

Some of the men that respond on these forums are so anti-women. Well one in particular actually. Get off the soap-box. I'm tired of reading your "women suck" comments.

As for the topic. Being my first dates are usually for a quick cup of coffee, whoever gets to the counter first pays. I have no problem paying the bill. Never have seen men in the light as they have to pay. I like the idea of sharing....

which one was anti woman???

Call me old fashioned or tired of supporting men when it comes to who pays, but I think the man should pay. As one person on here said if they can't afford to buy dinner then you may end up supporting them.

Seriously, I think men should pay especially for the first date.

Other alternatives to finding out what one should do, is get to know the person a bit better before asking them out, or just ask them what there opinion is on the matter.

Another idea is for the man to say I will pick up the check if you don't mind? If she does, you can either say I will pay this time and you can pay next time or suggest she leave the tip.

Good luck to all!

i dont have a certain standard that has to be met as far as who pays. i make sure that i have enough money to pay... but i dont mind at all if he pays...

i say dont pay. BUT at the same time why cant you take her to the park why cant you take her to a fun place thats free. i never take women to eat. i take them too have fun. and get to know each other. no money needed for that

Ummm, she just might think your cheap!

If a man asked me out for a meal I would assume that he would want to pay (unless he said differently). To avoid awkwardness I would suggest I paid for a drink before the meal and if he then refused to let me pay for that It would confirm he would be paying for it all...I know men like to treat a lady, it makes them feel good and I am the first to admit that it makes me feel good too but ..come on guys it works the other way round too.. I love to spend money on someone I care about. You shouldn't have to pay all the time.. worrying about money is a real passion killer, and gets in the way of the important issues, friendship, understanding and having fun! Maybe I am being way too "English" about it all

if u play ur cards right u wont have to pay for dinner! lol

u should know all about that one frenchie... I think it depends on who is sitting with you at the dinner table whether you pay or not!!!

lets put it this way. a first date is about good impression and if she has fun with you. if you are creative then you dont have to pay money im creative and women but one all said they had a good time.

and if you say for the first date then get ready to keep doing it because you are in here mind the provider. its ok to be the provider as long as she not using you and you aint getting nothing back

I always take money just in case... but if he asks he pays..and if I ask we can split...but I am to independant for some men

it is not all about money, however i have never paid when out on a date.

first date should be equal pay cuz if not then the girl basically gets a free meal or whatever and has no commitment for the future. future post relationship dates should fall to the guy though.

I don't go on first dates that involve money....I want to hang out with the person, so it's some sort of fun activity.

A brought from home picnic lunch, and a thermos, a wander round an art gallery, a wander through the national park...

Or just sprawled under a tree talking by the beach.

It isn't about who pays for me, it's about how creative the first date is...if it's all pretentious and out to impress...I won't be going on a second date, as I am interested in the person, and relaxed, laidback, and room to chat, and laugh is what it's all about for me.

exactly jess.

Nicely put Jess

Just got back from a first date where the guy let me, and seemed to expect me, to pay. He also didn't seem interested in leaving the tip, so I did. It wasn't going great from my point of view anyway, (told me a story about how he left a note for his ex's boyfriend saying he was welcome to 'sloppy seconds' ). Then he acted like I had asked him out, to not look like a cheap skate for not paying for my meal. I will not be going out with him again. If that was him trying to make a good first impression,well, it failed.