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Topic: a question for the ladies
coryM18 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 442	Mon 10/15/07 05:26 PM
why is it that some of you, when we guys ask you "whats wrong" you say "nothing" even though its obvious something is?

Clancybee Joined Fri 07/06/07 Posts: 3479	Mon 10/15/07 05:28 PM
You'll know the answer to that when you reach 60 yrs old..

coryM18 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 442	Mon 10/15/07 05:30 PM
i cant wait that long!

pipahx Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 71	Mon 10/15/07 05:31 PM
The only reason I ever say "nothing" is because a) you should know the answer, as you're the reason for how upset I am or b) I don't want to talk about it.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Mon 10/15/07 05:32 PM
When they say 'nothing', they mean if you have to ask, dumbarse, then you are in BIG trouble!!!!

Posey10 Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 7	Mon 10/15/07 05:33 PM
"What's wrong" is so generic...and usually when you ask you know something is wrong! Change the question - show you thought about it - and we are more likely to answer. Instead of "what's wrong", say "I was thinking about our conversation about (blank) and it feels unfinished. What do you think?" Remember - we generally like to talk about things, but we want to think you really care about the answer. How's that? :)

SarahsF8 Joined Sat 10/06/07 Posts: 141	Mon 10/15/07 05:35 PM
The reason I say it is because I don't want to talk about whatever it is. In that case, it's usually 1) grave, or 2) I feel like it's stupid. Many people in my life feel like they should keep asking until they get an answer. This is not the case; it only makes things worse.

hotandspicey Joined Thu 07/12/07 Posts: 1516	Mon 10/15/07 05:35 PM
I'm with Posey and Jess

peachiegirl28 Joined Sun 09/16/07 Posts: 19292	Mon 10/15/07 05:36 PM
whats wrong?? thats the question u shouldn't have to ask cause u should already know or at least act like u do and make things better

coryM18 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 442	Mon 10/15/07 05:36 PM
well, i'm not trying to start an arguement or anything, but if you dont want to tak about it, shouldnt you make it less obvious that something is wrong?

coryM18 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 442	Mon 10/15/07 05:38 PM
did you really need to call me a dumbarse? i was just asking... and when I ask what wrong most of the time, i know its not my fault, and when it is, most of the time i know what i did

sincereman51 Joined Wed 07/11/07 Posts: 3058	Mon 10/15/07 05:39 PM
OH CRAP, I'm not a lady so I better get outta here.

Drowning Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 2	Mon 10/15/07 05:40 PM
There could be several reasons, but one is that we don't want to cause an argument, so we let it go, sometimes we may just need to GET OVER IT. Sometimes we need time to think about the issue like anything else and hopefully come up with a simple solution rather than blow up at the time over something that can be solved at a better time? And yes, sometimes we do believe that you should already know what is wrong!!!

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Mon 10/15/07 05:57 PM
It's called emotional blackmail. The woman expects you to be able to read her mind and know what is bothering her. Or somethings she doesn't know why shes upset and instead of being truthful "I'm upset, but I don't know why", she will say "nothing" and get pleasure from torturing you.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Mon 10/15/07 05:58 PM
yep that's it Spider!!! Women are EVIL...evil I tell you...horrible things they are...

coryM18 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 442	Mon 10/15/07 06:00 PM
hmm i see, if you loved your man why would you do that?

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Mon 10/15/07 06:03 PM
Corey, I am joking.... Women and men are too easy to generalise, compartmentalise, label, box, and deliver.... We are all unique,we are the sum totals of our personal experiences, irrespective of gender.

coryM18 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 442	Mon 10/15/07 06:05 PM
why do people always spell my name with an E in it?

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Mon 10/15/07 06:06 PM
Cause I'm blind and ignorant...sorry CORY.

looking4u52 Joined Mon 10/01/07 Posts: 333	Mon 10/15/07 06:10 PM
Women expect men to be mind readers. And good communicators. So when you can't read their mind and ask what is wrong. They give back good communication like. "If you don't know I'm not going to tell you". Now if you can figure this all out please let me know. Thinking like a guy, wouldn't it just be easier to give a straight answer to the men and solve the problem on the spot? As you can see I am very confused.