do u mean to say women don't cheat??

I think people cheat, both women and men, because monogamy as a system is rather silly.
It's basically enforced upon us by church/religion, and it's based on fear. If no one had fear, sharing a physical moment of pleasure with someone else wouldn't - and shouldn't - affect a healthy relationship at all.
But there's few ppl who can actually do this, because most people have deep fears. Fear of not being good enough, fear of losing their spouse, fear of this and fear of that. All to do with ego. Trying to frantically latch on to our partners..

I am unfortunately not free of this myself, even though my common sense tells me monogamy is total utter BS.
Just think about it: most people that 'cheat', maybe once, maybe occasionally, still love their spouses as much as they ever did. Sex with another person does not affect the love you feel for your partner. If nothing else, it may even enhance the relationship.
If you think about it, the chances that ONE person can fulfill your every need, are pretty slim, no matter how much you love each other. So what's so wrong if you occasionally find that with someone else? You either keep looking for the perfect fit for you - which you will likely never find - or compromise for the rest of your life. Wonderful prospect!

And I'm NOT talking about polygamy, having plural spouses, nor plural love relationships. I'm talking about one love partner and occasionally sharing a physical moment with someone else.
If I do that, I don't love my partner any less!

We haven't always had this monogamy system btw. We used to have a maternal culture where these things were possible. It could be that a woman had children from different men, and all were accepted, not regarded as bastards.
It simply meant the genealogy was based on the woman, not the man. And when patriarchal culture started, this was not acceptable anymore. Man became superior, woman got suppressed and so on and so forth.

... this reminds me of something someone once said..
. what goes around comes around lmao... or was it reap what you sow karma's a *****..

i did not get u..those are my lines. what are you trying to say??

Life is all about experiencing the difference between beliefs & unbelievable.

.. there is a saying ..it goes the seven year itch....
.. I've come to realize... and to echo crystal..... I do not believe we are really meant to be in long term relationships... geez Louise just look around us.. a whole site of.. divorced and separated people.... I believe you can keep someone interested for a certain amount of time.... maybe 7 years.... after that I think all the BS...
. all the little arguments.... telling them repeatedly to pick up their socks... telling her to stop hanging her bra on the bathroom. shower rod curtain..lol... but I believe you know what I mean !all those things that just build up after time... start to become big issues..... its funny how at the beginning of a relationship... you are always trying to put your best self forward..... always trying to impress. always trying to . show this person the best you....... and then after a while I suppose you get comfortable with each other..... now breaking wind while they are in the room.... doesn't seem like such a big .. deal..lol.....

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...ohh..you are new .. so it will not.. make sense to you right away..
.... but give it a little while... and I'm sure it will become apparent to you ..
..... thanks for letting me borrow your words..

So any Unreal truth is also there...?

If everyone does more towards others satisfaction than towards his/her own expectations....no one would ever feel cheated.

i'm not married neither willing to.

Yes, there is definitely food for thought in there ...
I like to believe it is possible, but you will have to work on the relationship for sure. Try to keep it fresh, so you don't feel all that comfortable to break wind, walk around without dentures, unbuckle the belt and let the beer belly flop out etc etc (LOL, that sounds SO gross!!)
I do think you should have the intention to stay together but never really expect that to happen just because you got married/moved in together.
In that sense, I don't think I would ever vow "till death do us part", because you simply just don't know. I'd intend it to be till death doth us part, but not vow to do so. And no way will I stay in a relationship that makes me miserable.

As for the 7 year itch... I seem to have something major happen in my life every 8-9 years. Meaning I'm up for another one next year. Brilliant, can't wait
Both my relationships lasted 10-11 years, so if I hurry up, I can wear out another two or three men

BECAUSE THEY CAN!!!

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i have an idea..to all the men and women who are unmarried or divourced, lets meet do everything, have fun and forget the world..what u guys say?

I'm up for it. You're buying the tickets?

if u promise to fulfill my all desires then sure.

I can't , I have a baby to take care of.

Won't say I ever have cheated.

But, if I were to cheat, I'd end whatever relationship I was in, that day.

Gawd, there are any number of reasons both men and women cheat. Whether married or in a relationship. The list of reasons is an ocean.

I've seen my parents be married almost 70 yrs., seen a brother and his wife experience infidelity where I thought there was no way they would stay together and it wasn't because of finances. It was because of trust. Had another sister and her husband get unofficially separated for a year and thought that would never survive. Saw a sister who was married 30 yrs and that fell apart but that wasn't a surprise and it wasn't just his fault.

There is no rhyme or reason, everyone is different. The devotion or commitment is different in each situation. Why they stay together is different. For me? I've never cheated but have been cheated on. I still stayed amiable with the ex, yes it took a year but I don't believe in burning bridges especially when the man still is trying to appease me and get back together. But once the trust is gone, it's gone.

I don't believe anyone will ever figure out the answer to this question. It's situational.