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| Topic: A little tip for all the men around here | |
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people send messages here, really?
hummm, i'll have to look into this... |
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people send messages here, really? hummm, i'll have to look into this... :) |
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Dear men, I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect. Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct. What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc? Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst. Have some respect, please! had to check your profile before i posted, but i knew i could bet my bottom dollar you were not in the great state of texas see hear babygirl, texas is the friendly state, so only non-texans would get hot under the collar for not using an endearing term. i reckon some of y'all would rather hear a discouraging word. worst thing a texan would say would be "bless your heart". folks 'round these here parts learn to be nice since they were knee high to a grasshopper i know it's a hassle for some of you women to be contacted on a dating website, because even just one scammer gives y'all an itchy trigger finger. block who you feel you need to, but don't come down on all men. plenty of gentlemen on here, and some aren't even texans! i guarantee i guarantee you will find all kinds of really cool people posting on these here forums. godspeed, bulldog (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending) |
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If I got a message saying, hey gorgeous man, I wouldn't be put off by it.  What if it were a man who gave that message to you?
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Dear men, I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect. Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct. What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc? Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst. Have some respect, please! had to check your profile before i posted, but i knew i could bet my bottom dollar you were not in the great state of texas see hear babygirl, texas is the friendly state, so only non-texans would get hot under the collar for not using an endearing term. i reckon some of y'all would rather hear a discouraging word. worst thing a texan would say would be "bless your heart". folks 'round these here parts learn to be nice since they were knee high to a grasshopper i know it's a hassle for some of you women to be contacted on a dating website, because even just one scammer gives y'all an itchy trigger finger. block who you feel you need to, but don't come down on all men. plenty of gentlemen on here, and some aren't even texans! i guarantee i guarantee you will find all kinds of really cool people posting on these here forums. godspeed, bulldog (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending) Ya got that one right sweetheart.... 
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I agree with Bulldog.
What is unacceptable in one part of the world may be perfectly acceptable in another part of the world. For example, Americans believe that a person would have to be insane in order to walk bare-footed across burning embers, but there are Humans who do such a thing.  So, should everything be judged according to the norms of just one ethnic group or nationality? |
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Do not have to answer I guess :)
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hey wanna have relation As all the famous tv show lawyers like to say..."I rest my case"... lol Oh, dear...See what I mean? :) Earlier I had a direct proposition, assuring me "our children would look good"... If anything, I am having such a hearty laugh on here, that it almost trumps the annoyance. but with the recent sexual violence against women in India, it is difficult for me to find any humor...mostly it creeps me out because they are so annoying. Why would they think someone half the globe away would really be interested. |
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Most of them probably do, but not all. Rather surprisingly, the last few have been (or atleast they say they are) from the good ole USA. Earlier they were mostly from West Africa. Interesting, I have experienced that too - it seems to me that irrelevant of the location stated on the profile, 99% of the people I've interacted with on this site are of different origin than they claim to be. It just shows, and not only by the blatantly obvious fake pictures some use, but also by the expressions they use, the poor grammar and articulation, the very characteristic way of addressing me etc. Good thing I found this forum, otherwise I'd think the whole site is a scam. :) They put their initials too. Dumbasses and ese
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Dear men, I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect. Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct. What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc? Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst. Have some respect, please! All I am gonna say here is that when my dad picked up my Mom (some 38 years ago in a bar) he simply said, "Sup sugar booga". And she swooned.  
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I also must add .. The more handsome the man is .. The more tolerable I am to his use of endearments .. Just being honest If I think he is attractive ., his use of endearments does not offend me .. If on the other hand I find him repulsive .. He best not call me anything other than blondey .. Lmao :-) interesting , we agree on this. I think a hello is a hello, and the intent is what matters. I really don't see the reason for outrage over such little things. But, thank goodness, things that we aren't attracted to online,, we have the freedom to bypass. As for me, I also use the term hon and sweety quite indiscriminately in real life and mean it as a term of unity and appreciation,, so, keep the 'sweeties' coming,,,,  just be careful of the content of what comes AFTER sweety,,,,,lol |
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As for me, I also use the term hon and sweety quite indiscriminately in real life and mean it as a term of unity and appreciation,, so, keep the 'sweeties' coming,,,, just be careful of the content of what comes AFTER sweety,,,,,lol OK, Sweety. 
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As for me, I also use the term hon and sweety quite indiscriminately in real life and mean it as a term of unity and appreciation,, so, keep the 'sweeties' coming,,,, just be careful of the content of what comes AFTER sweety,,,,,lol OK, Sweety. 
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As for me, I also use the term hon and sweety quite indiscriminately in real life and mean it as a term of unity and appreciation,, so, keep the 'sweeties' coming,,,, just be careful of the content of what comes AFTER sweety,,,,,lol OK, Sweety. 
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I grew up with honey sweetie shug sugar hon punkin' and cutie pie....guys wanna call me "doll" and "baby" whatever. I can think of bigger problems (and worse things to be called). lol
my nickname was baby with my last BF so I am used to it.....it doesn't bother me at all. it just means more when I know & like the guy. It is meant as a term of endearment. I don;t think they wake up in the morning and say, "HA! NOW to awaken her inner Gloria Steinham, Ima call her Baby...heheheh.." 
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@ inner Gloria steinham,,,,lol |
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@ inner Gloria steinham,,,,lol figured someone would appreciate that :) 
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Dear men, I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect. Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct. What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc? Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst. Have some respect, please! Amen honey, don't even get me started on waitresses and other sugar. |
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had to check your profile before i posted, but i knew i could bet my bottom dollar you were not in the great state of texas see hear babygirl, texas is the friendly state, so only non-texans would get hot under the collar for not using an endearing term. i reckon some of y'all would rather hear a discouraging word. worst thing a texan would say would be "bless your heart". folks 'round these here parts learn to be nice since they were knee high to a grasshopper i know it's a hassle for some of you women to be contacted on a dating website, because even just one scammer gives y'all an itchy trigger finger. block who you feel you need to, but don't come down on all men. plenty of gentlemen on here, and some aren't even texans! i guarantee i guarantee you will find all kinds of really cool people posting on these here forums. godspeed, bulldog (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending) Thank you for the input, esebulldog. You are right, I should have been more specific in my addressing "all men" in general, when it was actually a specific ethnicity that this applies most to. But it does apply to everyone else still. It is not about the word in particular they use, it is the way it is used and what follows after, that creeps me out. Of course, I am aware of different cultures and had it been a texan gentleman approaching me that way, I would not have been offended at all, because I know that is a part of your normal way of communication. But my post is NOT about that. As for this post: I agree with Bulldog. What is unacceptable in one part of the world may be perfectly acceptable in another part of the world. For example, Americans believe that a person would have to be insane in order to walk bare-footed across burning embers, but there are Humans who do such a thing. So, should everything be judged according to the norms of just one ethnic group or nationality? No need to be so passive-aggressive, I don't think I have offended anyone to get veiled hostility in response. You do not have to feel personally involved. I already explained what I meant above! |
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