Well, first of all, if you truly expect a woman to reply to you, you have to make sure you:
-address her properly. Which means - no sugary terms of endearment like "babe, sweetie, honeypie, doll" etc.
-you have to form coherent and thoughtful sentences
-you have to show interest without seeming TOO eager or lecherous, and show her that you have at least checked her profile out before deciding to chat her up. Questions which could have been answered, had you taken the time to look at her profile, tend to be a very big faux pa.
-Be respectful.

Being rather temperamental myself, I often feel my blood boiling over situations or people, but I try my best to vent that out as quickly as possible, finding more productive ways to sublimate it.
Anger is a powerful emotion, and it can give you that adrenaline buzz at first, but the damage is soon to follow. It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die - you are letting whatever angers you have control over you and therefore rule you.

Now, after those words of wisdom, here's the answer to what you actually asked in your post:
What angers me:
-intolerant people
-overzealous fanatics
-cruelty in any form
-narrow-minded and/or shallow people, hellbent on putting others down, in order to get a false sense of superiority
-people with NO sense of humour, unable to grasp even the simplest of jokes and taking it oh, so very personally

Nailed it! Very well said, precisely what I have been thinking and well done for the eloquent and diplomatic way of putting it. My compliments, msharmony!

Very well said, I couldn't agree more! I've added a little addendum to my profile just yesterday, and for a very similar reason. It is not that I want to come across as badass or bitchy, or scare anyone off, but sometimes the frustration trumps discretion and it has to be said.
Also, being able to filter certain countries is a brilliant idea. Not to sound racist or discriminative in any way, but I have noticed from my personal experience on the site (a mere few days) that Indian and Middle eastern men in general seem to be the vast population of the site, at least when it comes to contacting everyone. This is not just my opinion, because I've read other women's complaints on the forum.
So yes, the general idea of the profile is to attract the right kind of attention, and of course, we have all heard the old "you have to kiss a lot of frogs first..." adage, but when the only attention one gets is unwanted - overly eager and shallow men, fake profiles, indecent proposals etc - then what? You set some clear boundaries. Although even that doesn't stop them, it seems. :)

Good luck to you and welcome to the site!

Thank you, klc! I, too feel that we have stirred quite far from the initial topic of my thread, it's been kind of abducted in places, even :) I guess it is drained now. The people who understood me, did so at the very beginning, and of course there were those, who were determined to misunderstand, no matter how clearly and eloquently my point has been presented.
Anyway, wish you well, to all of you who found the time to comment!

also, your example doesn't serve much purpose, because pointing out a specific ritual characteristic for an ancient culture has nothing to do with a manner of conduct, characteristic for men not of certain culture and background, but rather of certain concept and perception of themselves, the world in general and the women in it, irrelevant of their culture or nationality.
I am sure every self-respecting woman anywhere in the world, including America, would be able to distinguish between a well placed term of endearment, and an unpleasant and unwanted attention of an overly eager and lecherous stranger. I am not at all a prude, and like I said - have nothing against pet names, but there is a time and place for them, and it is NOT between strangers, especially in a setting of barely getting acquainted and gaining first impressions.
I am sorry, but a message saying "hi baby, your so hot, i wanna make relation with u" is never going to fly with me, not just because of the inappropriately intimate way of addressing me, or the ridiculously illiterate writing, but mainly because what it tells me about the person is that they are shallow and do not approach this with the necessary respect.
I think most women would agree with me, as will the real men around here. The rest would probably feel offended, as they would recognize themselves in my post. :)

Thank you for the input, esebulldog. You are right, I should have been more specific in my addressing "all men" in general, when it was actually a specific ethnicity that this applies most to. But it does apply to everyone else still. It is not about the word in particular they use, it is the way it is used and what follows after, that creeps me out.
Of course, I am aware of different cultures and had it been a texan gentleman approaching me that way, I would not have been offended at all, because I know that is a part of your normal way of communication.
But my post is NOT about that.

As for this post:


No need to be so passive-aggressive, I don't think I have offended anyone to get veiled hostility in response. You do not have to feel personally involved. I already explained what I meant above!

That pretty much sums up my red flags, agree with almost everything said.
Ever since I registered in this particular site (although I would imagine it is similar in every other "dating" site), I feel like my alarm bells are constantly ringing, it's deafening sometimes. :)
For example:

poor grammar/spelling, incomplete sentences
one-word messages
overly lecherous way of addressing me - pet names (honey, babe, sweetheart)
blatant sexual innuendo
attitude not appropriate even after years of interaction, let alone when said by a complete stranger. Ridiculous.
no picture or obviously fake pictures
instant offer for changing the means of contact to skype or any other messenger

and many more.

I have only just discovered the wonderful usefulness of the block button, so far I've only went through the trouble of closing the annoyingly popping chat windows with pretty much the same messages in a different, poorly spelled wording.
But today I found the forums, and that is where I intend to hang out from now on. :)

Interesting, I have experienced that too - it seems to me that irrelevant of the location stated on the profile, 99% of the people I've interacted with on this site are of different origin than they claim to be. It just shows, and not only by the blatantly obvious fake pictures some use, but also by the expressions they use, the poor grammar and articulation, the very characteristic way of addressing me etc.
Good thing I found this forum, otherwise I'd think the whole site is a scam. :)

Distance doesn't matter if what connects you is genuine. However, if you don't have some plan to eventually get together in the long run, it can be very taxing on the psyche for both parties.
I have been in a long distance relationship and therefore spent most of my time seeking a way to interact - laptop at home, phone when I'm out, it can have the positive sides of having more than enough "me-time", meeting your friends more often etc, but it is very hard when you cannot experience the simplest of things - to look into your loved one's eyes, to reach out and touch them, hug them, hear their voice or feel the warmth of their physical presence, even if you are not discussing anything in particular.
It all comes down to this: Do you love that person? Are they worth the inevitable hardships of such relationship? Will any of you consider relocating to be with the other?

Well at least you are honest, Blondey...
To me it's irrelevant of his appearance. Yes, if a man is not my cup of tea, and he is openly lecherous, that would repulse me, but it is not like I expect anything better anyway.
But it is somehow more disappointing when it comes from a decent looking man with a relatively well written summary, and then he goes out and blurts something like "hi hun, wanna have a chat to see your ****".

You have a point there. That same also applies for men of muslim beliefs and generally men raised in a strictly religious and patriarchal societies - the hypocritical "rule" that women must be respected and treated like delicate flowers, but only "their" women, the rest are fair game. Pun intended.

I agree. Maybe it is a cultural difference, perhaps that is how they have been raised - to openly go for whatever they want, no matter the means and methods. It clashes with the unspoken "rule" of subtlety, of taking things slow, of approaching with care and respect. Instead, they are jumping right in the deep end of the pool. :)

As all the famous tv show lawyers like to say..."I rest my case"... lol
Oh, dear...See what I mean? :)

Earlier I had a direct proposition, assuring me "our children would look good"...
If anything, I am having such a hearty laugh on here, that it almost trumps the annoyance.

Thank you, All. :)
Perhaps I should take part in this forum more,it seems here one is able to interact with nice, normal, genuine people, for a change.
Also, this is an international site, it is the context of its very name, yet it seems to me that I am predominantly being contacted by Indian men. Before anyone says anything - I am NOT racist, nor discriminative here, but simply wonder why that is - I would prefer if I was able to interact with ALL the rest of the nationalities.
Thanks again for the nice comments!

Dear men,
I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect.
Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct.
What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc?
Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst.
Have some respect, please!