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Topic: A little tip for all the men around here
mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Wed 07/09/14 01:49 PM
Curious to know how men feel ... If I sent you a message .. Saying Hi gorgeous man ... Would you be offended and delete my message .. Gidday Blondey, If it's coming from someone here in the forums it's okay......but a total stranger that has looked at your profile and them messaged only one minute later or not even looked at your profile is a bit much.

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Wed 07/09/14 01:58 PM
Curious to know how men feel ... If I sent you a message .. Saying Hi gorgeous man ... Would you be offended and delete my message .. Gidday Blondey, If it's coming from someone here in the forums it's okay......but a total stranger that has looked at your profile and them messaged only one minute later or not even looked at your profile is a bit much. so you would delete my message Do you post on the forums, sweetie......delete or save.....I dunno know lol

premierblue Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 361	Wed 07/09/14 02:07 PM
Curious to know how men feel ... If I sent you a message .. Saying Hi gorgeous man ... Would you be offended and delete my message .. Since I'm average looking, my first thought would be . . . she's a scammer . . . especially being in the kind of business I'm in! my experience of scammers on this site is they have poor use of the English language :-) Most of them probably do, but not all. Rather surprisingly, the last few have been (or atleast they say they are) from the good ole USA. Earlier they were mostly from West Africa.

premierblue Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 361	Wed 07/09/14 02:13 PM
Curious to know how men feel ... If I sent you a message .. Saying Hi gorgeous man ... Would you be offended and delete my message .. Since I'm average looking, my first thought would be . . . she's a scammer . . . especially being in the kind of business I'm in! my experience of scammers on this site is they have poor use of the English language :-) Most of them probably do, but not all. Rather surprisingly, the last few have been (or atleast they say they are) from the good ole USA. Earlier they were mostly from West Africa. how many from New Zealand have you met None . . . so far. Why, are you from NZ? Just kidding!

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 07/09/14 02:21 PM
yes ,it's sweetie pie, baby ,honey Buns .gorgeous man,.stud muffin... ..the list is as long ,as your girls list. ..however i do not Get offended by it. it's better that then some...nasty names They can call you...so in the big picture Its not that bad..

Mrberlean Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 53	Wed 07/09/14 02:23 PM
Agree :) How ever , maybe it is you who triggers this? If you look sweet , many people will call you sweetheart. I admit it can be creepy if a stranger calls you this way,but it is all based on given situation. I have had many times woman on the street, or in a store asking me:" Sweetheart - Darling - honey , can you please reach this for me?" I somehow do not feel offended by it. I never upon placing a compliment call any woman that I do not know this way. Just common sense. If you have any of the man here, calling you those sweet names, and it is not vibrating with your nature, then just do not respond. You do not have to react to it. Blocking is not necessary right away. If some one gets on your nerves, then you block and that is it , you move on. We are all of different nature here, some man think it is a nice gesture , some man do not take it serious.... So you filter out who is. I for example am annoyed by your young fellow girls (18-26 years of age) that are promoting their sexual content on third party websites, acting as if they want to meet, but referring to third media websites and asking or giving emails. So what I am going to do? I posted a question to others, but hey, I filter those girls out, do not respond to them and move on. So we man deal with other things on here. (Like Web-cam Girls that collect emails) Do not feel to bed. We all just move on. But it was nice to read what you have explained to us man. Some of us know already , some will learn and some of us still do not care, and there is those other man, that never learn :) You must not be aware: the world culture generally preys on women and caters to men. Some men try to insist its equal even tho evidence points the other way. women will respond differently to the same treatment because of their position in the world. Yes so make it your post then instead of copying and pasting my work and giving you two liners to it. It . Stating I must be not aware. Oh really ? Did I not mention this in my writing? Read , take your time and think. klc didn't copy and paste your work. She quoted you since she was responding to you, sort of like how you quoted her just to be a jerk. That goes for you to, Calm down your emotions and start thinking. Everything is there in my writing I have no need to argue with you nor do I need your pile or klc on top of me. Wish you great time.

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Wed 07/09/14 02:25 PM
Curious to know how men feel ... If I sent you a message .. Saying Hi gorgeous man ... Would you be offended and delete my message .. Gidday Blondey, If it's coming from someone here in the forums it's okay......but a total stranger that has looked at your profile and them messaged only one minute later or not even looked at your profile is a bit much. so you would delete my message Do you post on the forums, sweetie......delete or save.....I dunno know lol typical sit on the fence Australian :-) I'll think about maybe making a decision.....after another beer.

BiancaNeve84 Joined Tue 07/01/14 Posts: 17	Wed 07/09/14 02:25 PM
Most of them probably do, but not all. Rather surprisingly, the last few have been (or atleast they say they are) from the good ole USA. Earlier they were mostly from West Africa. Interesting, I have experienced that too - it seems to me that irrelevant of the location stated on the profile, 99% of the people I've interacted with on this site are of different origin than they claim to be. It just shows, and not only by the blatantly obvious fake pictures some use, but also by the expressions they use, the poor grammar and articulation, the very characteristic way of addressing me etc. Good thing I found this forum, otherwise I'd think the whole site is a scam. :)

red6mist Joined Sat 08/31/13 Posts: 948	Wed 07/09/14 02:29 PM
If I got a message saying, hey gorgeous man, I wouldn't be put off by it. Actually it would make me want to zone in on her. It's not often you find a woman who appreciates that sort of thing. I'd connect with her immediately.

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Wed 07/09/14 02:51 PM
Curious to know how men feel ... If I sent you a message .. Saying Hi gorgeous man ... Would you be offended and delete my message .. Gidday Blondey, If it's coming from someone here in the forums it's okay......but a total stranger that has looked at your profile and them messaged only one minute later or not even looked at your profile is a bit much. so you would delete my message Do you post on the forums, sweetie......delete or save.....I dunno know lol typical sit on the fence Australian :-) I'll think about maybe making a decision.....after another beer. so much for honest and brave .. You can say what you feel without offending me :-) Ohhh, but I want beer......this kinda gets back to the topic if the posters were honest then maybe they would be more accepted. Or maybe they are like that in real life...thats a scary thought.

Tanzy14 Joined Sat 06/14/14 Posts: 1672	Wed 07/09/14 03:23 PM
Great post op....I have been maybe a month and I have 75 men blocked...too much nonsense...are men that ...forget it..

BiancaNeve84 Joined Tue 07/01/14 Posts: 17	Wed 07/09/14 03:33 PM
Great post op....I have been maybe a month and I have 75 men blocked...too much nonsense...are men that ...forget it.. I have only just discovered the wonderful usefulness of the block button, so far I've only went through the trouble of closing the annoyingly popping chat windows with pretty much the same messages in a different, poorly spelled wording. But today I found the forums, and that is where I intend to hang out from now on. :)

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Wed 07/09/14 03:37 PM
Great post op....I have been maybe a month and I have 75 men blocked...too much nonsense...are men that ...forget it.. I have only just discovered the wonderful usefulness of the block button, so far I've only went through the trouble of closing the annoyingly popping chat windows with pretty much the same messages in a different, poorly spelled wording. But today I found the forums, and that is where I intend to hang out from now on. :) Yeah good for you .....your getting the hang of it

Tanzy14 Joined Sat 06/14/14 Posts: 1672	Wed 07/09/14 03:37 PM
That's awesome welcome....

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 07/09/14 03:39 PM
yes ,it's sweetie pie, baby ,honey Buns .gorgeous man,.stud muffin... ..the list is as long ,as your girls list. ..however i do not Get offended by it. it's better that then some...nasty names They can call you...so in the big picture Its not that bad.. have never called any.one stud muffin perhaps I will give that a go :-) ... .. well here's your opportunity ,give it a go! see how it feels try it on so to speak...

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Wed 07/09/14 05:13 PM
Dear men, I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect. Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct. What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc? Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst. Have some respect, please! i made a note of that, sugar cake

Tanzy14 Joined Sat 06/14/14 Posts: 1672	Wed 07/09/14 05:16 PM


Mrberlean Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 53	Wed 07/09/14 05:18 PM
Dear men, I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect. Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct. What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc? Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst. Have some respect, please! i made a note of that, sugar cake You have made a note of it and 2 seconds later you have lost the place you made the note on and have come back to the same perception you did have, before making the note.

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Wed 07/09/14 05:22 PM
Dear men, I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect. Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct. What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc? Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst. Have some respect, please! i made a note of that, sugar cake You have made a note of it and 2 seconds later you have lost the place you made the note on and have come back to the same perception you did have, before making the note. it's baby steps

Mrberlean Joined Wed 12/18/13 Posts: 53	Wed 07/09/14 05:24 PM
Dear men, I assume you all have your various reasons for joining this site, but what probably unites you all is the need to meet someone, to connect. Now I am sure everyone has very different motives and ways to achieve that, and surely you all have your own style and manner of conduct. What still amazes me, though, and not in a good way, is how on earth the majority of you expect to be taken seriously when you decide the most suitable way to approach a woman on here is by calling her "honey, sweetpea, baby, sugar", etc? Don't get me wrong, pet names have their own purpose among friends or lovers, but they are ONLY suitable when you actually know the person very well. And for a complete stranger to refer to you in such manner is annoying, at the best case scenario, and utterly creepy - in the worst. Have some respect, please! i made a note of that, sugar cake You have made a note of it and 2 seconds later you have lost the place you made the note on and have come back to the same perception you did have, before making the note. it's baby steps :)