Do they work?
i tried and failed misserably. she cheated on me after just 2 months. My buddies been in one for 2 years, and they're goin to hawaii together next month and hes proposing... whats the deal?

oops.. i hope she doesnt read this. this could be bad.

hun, it shouldn't matter if she reads it. If its over, its over, let her think what shes going to think. Its irrelivant now. You sound like your down in the dumps from your posts, i hope things get better for you!

I can never understand long distance relationship. It works for some but not for others. I guess you should try closer to home.

they can work but its alot of hard work

and its not easy ive had more than my share

i did almost marry my LDR gf tho

it lasted 2 and a half years til she lefted me

If you can make a long distance relationship work, then its going to work great in person. Lots of hard work. I haven't had luck with them. People don't get to see eachother that often. I guess it all depends on that persons need to be with someone in person. If they can handle the using the phone and maybe the net without the face to face talk then it should work. Some people can't handle that though.

I married my LDR. Yes, it was hard him being so far away (only 90 miles, but might as well have been 90,000) and only seeing him every other weekend. We talked on messenger daily as soon as he got home from work til he had to go to bed for work the next day. Once in awhile we talked on the phone too. I stayed and I loved him. Then he said he wanted a divorce, wouldn't chat with me on messenger unless it was about a divorce, and I never saw him again. The last time I saw him was on an Easter Sunday. I don't think he was as ready as he had let on.
Had he not asked for the divorce, I would have stayed. with no problems doing it. It can work, but only if you both feel the same love for the other. And never give up, ever.
PMS

The 'meet' and 'greet' style of relationship?

The meet someone, online, on holidays, in a store, who lives a vast distance from you, that you can only spend short moments with, in real time together?

Challenging, as most have expectations of how it must look.

There are those, that accept that both must be in different 'rooms' for a time, and allow the 'relationship' to develop into a strong and binding friendship, before they can both be in the same 'house' together, as a couple.

They have the strength, as a couple, as they choose to allow the natural course, and rhythm of life to grow with them.


May I ask something of posters?

Who has had a relationship with someone who had to work away, for any great length of time, and still their relationship stayed strong? To have a partner in the services, or worked on oil rigs, or construction sites where they are in 'lock down' for months or a year at a time?

Was it hard work?

I can answer that, as I have lived it, yes it is.

Did it end our relationship?

No, distance didn't take away from our relationship, and gave us room to grow as people.

Did I miss him? Yes, often, he was my bestfriend, of course I missed him.

Long distance relationships can work, with an open mind, acceptance of the other, and no 'locked in' expectations.

I was in one for 2 years me here in Ireland him in C.T. as I was a regular visitor to U.S. and he could get here no prob it went fine. We broke up due to other stuff nothing to do with distance, at end of day I was only 5 hours away, even the pond is small.

Its different for everyone. I've never had a ldr last very long either. Just keep ya head up love, you'll find one that will treat you right as you sound like a sweet guy.

hey guys... thanks for the advice. jayme, thanks for the compliments.

LDR's take a ton of work on both sides and it's never easy...

I was in one for nearly 4 years (she was in Michigan, I was in Connecticut) and the topic of wedding bells did come up more than once.

Unfortunately, the distance thing played a huge role in the end of the relationship...I had no problems with the distance thing, as I'm extremely loyal when I date someone, so it wasn't a "wandering eye" on either part that caused things to collapse. It was mostly due to the fact that she insisted I move out there on a near daily basis after a while (and I never really harped on her to move East..I figured if it was gonna happen, it would, ya know?).

Still, LDR's vary in regards to the person...just because it might not work for one person doesn't mean it's something to be avoided. If your heart says it's worth it, go for it.

Good luck if you are in one!

The only way they work is if one person is willing and able to pick up and move to the other's location at some point.

Regular visits are important too...you cannot go to long without physically being together in the relationship.

Been there, done that.

i just can say that their are a risky thing.
but if the person is nice it's worth it

I am having a long distance relationship with a gal ive never met here how it works, right now ere just friends anddate other people when we meet we might bcome more

The 'meet' and 'greet' style of relationship?

The meet someone, online, on holidays, in a store, who lives a vast distance from you, that you can only spend short moments with, in real time together?

Challenging, as most have expectations of how it must look.

There are those, that accept that both must be in different 'rooms' for a time, and allow the 'relationship' to develop into a strong and binding friendship, before they can both be in the same 'house' together, as a couple.

They have the strength, as a couple, as they choose to allow the natural course, and rhythm of life to grow with them.


May I ask something of posters?

Who has had a relationship with someone who had to work away, for any great length of time, and still their relationship stayed strong? To have a partner in the services, or worked on oil rigs, or construction sites where they are in 'lock down' for months or a year at a time?

Was it hard work?

I can answer that, as I have lived it, yes it is.

Did it end our relationship?

No, distance didn't take away from our relationship, and gave us room to grow as people.

Did I miss him? Yes, often, he was my bestfriend, of course I missed him.

Long distance relationships can work, with an open mind, acceptance of the other, and no 'locked in' expectations.
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Nicely Put Lee

One can only hope , right?

a ldr is a little like wearing a raincoat. it can be warm and comfy and protective. but you don't really get wet.

i like to feel the rain. pounding. huge warm droplets. like a hundred tropical showerheads.

I met a guy online and knew right away that he lived in New Zealand but i only msg him to say he was cute and we have been together every since. However it is very hard saying bye to him when his visits end I cry for days and feel like my heart was ripped out of my chest when he leaves. Sometimes I feel like he is too good to be true, everything i ever wanted in a man. But do to the fact that my friends are getting married and moving on and I don't have any children and a life that i am willing to leave behind. Moving there is a risk I am willing to take, I can't believe I met the man of dreams online and hope everyone who is looking for love finds it with the right person at the right time in their lives. Take care everyone!

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TK

No..i dont believe that LTD relationships work...not for me anyway...