I suppose a LDR can work for some. I have dated a jsh memeber that lives only an hour away from me, (he considers that hour long distance, I don't). I think the problem there is I was willing to commit, he wasn't. He claims he cares for me more than I'll ever know...so what's stopping him?

shutterbug. If a man wants a commit, he will let you know. Try talking to him about it and if you have that open communication. Then he should explain where he stands

You're right. Two people have to be on the same page in the relationship. I don't think she is. When we met she told me she was happy with the way her life was and didn't want to change it. She said she wasn't going to move and I said then it is what it is knowing we could never live together or not for a very long time. When I realized she had a date last week I got a knot in the pit of my stomach but I know we have no commitment to each other and it wasn't wrong of her. I hadn't gone on a date since I met her and had no desire to. I went on a date last night but really wanted to be with her. I would get off the dating site if that's what she wanted but I don't think it is. Maybe as time goes on if we keep seeing each other things will change and she will want to be with only me. We've only been dating for 2 months. I have very strong feelings for her and I know she feels the same. She left a voicemail this morning saying that she went to bed thinking about me and woke up the same way. I realize I'm not getting any younger and finding someone you're compatible with is harder and harder. I have to admit though that not seeing someone for 2 weeks at a time makes you want them more. I think it's more of a fantasy then reality. You do need to be able to be with someone everyday to know how that person really is. I had a 6 month LDR with someone from Ohio which ended so I guess I can see where this may go based on that experience. I was extremely hurt when it ended and hate to have to go thru that again.

distance makes you go find somebody else!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well hoping it will work for me soon coz i have met a guy from one of the dating site also and we get along thru regular emails and hes planning to come over and meet me early next year,
he said emails is different from meeting the person face to face.......distance is not a barrier its more on the feelings and trust you have from each other.

personally.. I believe ANY relationship can last/endure IF both parties are willing to communicate.. and you both work together to achieve the 'same' goals :happy;

Howard, I think you know where you stand on this situation. Even though we feel one way about someone reality does set in. the one thing I don't like is when you said she called you and left them messages. Why let someone hang on, If there not ready for that kinda commitment and your both going on dates? No one can tell you what you need to do. Although I think you know alredy

I agree with shutterbug&zero-effect if there's understanding,truth and upfrontness amongst both persons anything can work but also as others have proven on this forum it was great 4 awhile and then possibly the REAL person came out..it would b hard 2 completely change ur left 4 another and then have it all thrown way i've seen a problem on this site that there r some that won't EVEN CHAT because of distance problems so SAD

ahhhhhh Howard, sometimes you find the one you really want to be with but due to other circumstances you can't act on it. That is when its best to sit down, have a heart to heart with yourself, and make a decision.

Then you need to sit down with the lady, talk things over, and if you have to make a clean break for now, then do so until you both can deal with things.

Whatever you decide may bring some hurt, but isn't it better to hurt for a short period of time, than to keep on hoping for a different outcome?

I think long distance could work for a while...
for me personally, we would have to compromise and figure out where we would live to be together...
just my 2 cents

You're right Shadow. I think I do know what I have to do in my head but my emotions are having trouble doing it. I mean if there's no chance of anyone moving when the time comes then what's the point? My whole purpose of dating is to one day be together with one person. And Snuggles, that's just what I'm going to do this weekend when we're together. I just finished speaking with her on the phone and told her we need to talk about other people meaning dating others. She said we can talk about it. All I know is I have a great time when we're together and I don't want to lose that right now.