You're right Shadow. I think I do know what I have to do in my head but my emotions are having trouble doing it. I mean if there's no chance of anyone moving when the time comes then what's the point? My whole purpose of dating is to one day be together with one person. And Snuggles, that's just what I'm going to do this weekend when we're together. I just finished speaking with her on the phone and told her we need to talk about other people meaning dating others. She said we can talk about it. All I know is I have a great time when we're together and I don't want to lose that right now.

You're right. Two people have to be on the same page in the relationship. I don't think she is. When we met she told me she was happy with the way her life was and didn't want to change it. She said she wasn't going to move and I said then it is what it is knowing we could never live together or not for a very long time. When I realized she had a date last week I got a knot in the pit of my stomach but I know we have no commitment to each other and it wasn't wrong of her. I hadn't gone on a date since I met her and had no desire to. I went on a date last night but really wanted to be with her. I would get off the dating site if that's what she wanted but I don't think it is. Maybe as time goes on if we keep seeing each other things will change and she will want to be with only me. We've only been dating for 2 months. I have very strong feelings for her and I know she feels the same. She left a voicemail this morning saying that she went to bed thinking about me and woke up the same way. I realize I'm not getting any younger and finding someone you're compatible with is harder and harder. I have to admit though that not seeing someone for 2 weeks at a time makes you want them more. I think it's more of a fantasy then reality. You do need to be able to be with someone everyday to know how that person really is. I had a 6 month LDR with someone from Ohio which ended so I guess I can see where this may go based on that experience. I was extremely hurt when it ended and hate to have to go thru that again.

That's funny Giuliano81. I think you got the right idea, lol.
Good luck Preggers.
I'll just have to see what happens. I'm still keeping my eyes open for someone local.

I'm happy for all of you that made it work. I guess it does depend on circumstances and what two people are willing to do to make it happen. It is harder when children and ex spouses are involved. You have to be very brave to give up everything and everyone you know to move away and take that risk. On the dating site that I'm on it says in my profile that I'm not opposed to LDR but you have to be able to relocate if it should ever get to that point. I've found most people can't. I think the one that I'm just starting is going to end up with me being hurt and I'm not looking forward to that.

Wow, so many different opinions. The girl I'm dating lives 3 hours away. She has made it clear from the start that she doesn't plan on moving till her kids are out of school. I get to see her every other weekend and once in a while I can make the trip during the week. It's frustrating because we want to see each other more but can't. I can't see myself doing this for years. It's very hard.

Do they ever work? It's so frustrating to go into the relationship knowing that it's doomed from the start and do it anyway.
I'd love to hear other peoples experience on the subject.