I'm happy for all of you that made it work. I guess it does depend on circumstances and what two people are willing to do to make it happen. It is harder when children and ex spouses are involved. You have to be very brave to give up everything and everyone you know to move away and take that risk. On the dating site that I'm on it says in my profile that I'm not opposed to LDR but you have to be able to relocate if it should ever get to that point. I've found most people can't. I think the one that I'm just starting is going to end up with me being hurt and I'm not looking forward to that.

I think it can work.. It just depends on the way both people feel..

And for little preggers.. Hope things work out for you but, they say you shouldn't fly when you're that far along and I remember you writing about having contractions and needing to go to the hospital.. What will happen for you if you go into labor on the plane or while you're there? Have you checked with the airlines about flying?

They are a wonderful waste of time, if you have a webcam that is.

There great untill you meet a ANDROID!!!!

Haha big.. Silly!

yeah misslinds... yeah i got the ok with my ob and my dr to make sure i was golden to fly.. and thumper knows where the nearest hospitle is..... the dr told me the worst thing that might happen to me is heavier breathing and swollen feet.. but like i posted earler... i have that happen every day when i have to climb the three story house i live at to get to my room... lol thanks for worryin

Well that's good.. I know they wouldn't let my friend fly after 6 months.. Good luck!

That's funny Giuliano81. I think you got the right idea, lol.
Good luck Preggers.
I'll just have to see what happens. I'm still keeping my eyes open for someone local.

ahhhhhhh Howard if you are still keeping your eyes opened for someone local than that means you haven't truly met the one you are to be with..........

Ill agree with that one Snuggles Watch, you'll get the but, but, but, lol. Howard, if you want this then work with her but if not, then don't wast your or her time. simple as that.


Yes people have different situations to deal with that they may not be able to start a long distance relation. Although, I know there are people that could start one just they want what they want. Tell you what people. Life is to short and if your looking and have that chance and can do it. Take a chance in life because being stuck on this site for how ever long and keep saying I can't find no one. It's never going to get you anywhere but this ===> then end up being

I think that on here there are some who are willing to go the distance work things out, but it takes two. One can't do all the giving. Yes life is short but very few will take chances, they want to be as sure as possible, and if you look at things you know that not is possible........only two things sure in life.........death and taxes

Yeah it does take two but that is in any relationship. I been on here for over a year now and I can't count how many time I heard from people posting. That I found someone but they live to far away. Knowing they have the means to move and such but they don't fallow it through. To me it's more of an understanding. Although if you really look at it and knowing being on the internet. It's a trust issue more then anything with some people. If your not content with yourself and what you do in life. Then way even bother starting a relationship anyhow, whether it long distance or not. yes some will have situations that will not allow them to start a long distence. What i'm getting at. Is the ones that can and know that they found someone but just give up because there afraid and if you don't over come your fears. This will neve work

Your so right Shadow..........understanding, trust, respect, caring, and desire...........without those a relationship isn't going to work whether it be long or short distance......

Your also right about people being afraid to over come their fears. When one may be willing to overcome their fears, but the other one isnt ready to do that, that creates the sadness.

I must comment Howard I think you should break up with her, because you are only using her until someone in your own city comes along. What you might not know is that trading her in may not be the best idea, you agreed to this relationship knowing the distance and like most people you were lonely and figured you could cope just having anyone you can share your life with. To be already planning to break her heart will only get your heart broken by both women, but if that is the chance you are willing to take then go for it but a REAL man will be honest and tell her the truth about your intentions. I bet she thinks everything cool, you are not getting any younger how many choices do you think you have? Young people are having a hard time finding someone and if you have not met anyone in your city by now... then chances are you never will. Obviously approaching women in person isn't a strong point, other wise this would not be an issue. Take care and do the right thing for your own love karma.

Ok, change of subject hehe. How you doing?

Hanging in there Shadow, just dealing with whatever comes my way. How are you doing?

Things are going good for me Hell better then I expected 4 months ago. I'm about to put up a post. that will explain everything in a bit :)

Long distance relationships can work if both are compatible, both are monogamous, both people agree on when and how they will be able to visit. I think though, you do need to be around the person alot to see the "real" them before diving headfirst into a major relationship. On such visits, they tend to be on their best behaviour...

Like any relationship, its a good idea to see how they act while mad, when sick, when jealous or if they get jealous, how they are with money, how they are with their friends and family, how they treat you!!

AMEN TO THAT!

you forgot to say where the post will be............now to start looking for it Shadow