Listen McClintock, I don't mean to be rude, but everything in moderation babe ...enough with the healthy lifestyle cookbooks, it's the weekend hot pants....

Purrrrrrrrrrr...

hye.. just wanna comment about this matter.. most of us know that'love is blind'.. when we are in love, we will not seeing things like others do.. when we are in love, we only wanna hear things that favor us.. we will never listen to advice given by others.. some people might say that u better leave him..blah blah blah... he's married..blah blah blah.. i totally agree with you.. they can say all those things because they are not the ones who face the situation..they are not the ones who fall in love.. in this situation, it's very complicated.. there are many opinions, and perspectives, whether positively or negatively..

if you think that you can be happy with him, and he feels the same way, then you can just carry one.. as matured person, i know u can make a wise decision..

before you make that decision, why don't you spend several minutes, and think.. 'what will you do if you see you beloved one dating other woman?'

i'm sure only then you can make the decision that you hope for.. if you still do not sure about it, pray to God, ask for His guidance..

p/s: i know u can make a wise decision.. :)

I dont want to bash you just talk some sense into you.His wife wasnt wrong for him when she was normal , but now that she's mentally ill living in her own hell her husbsnd wants to abandon her when she needs him the most.

This is verry touchy subject , I comforted the mentally ill woman thst knew what her husband hsd been up to.

You expected a little compassion?



No, your partner in adultery isn't married to the wrong woman. He is simply violating his marriage vows.

H8MREKR, I don't buy your arguments for a very good reason. I used to be on the other side of this argument.

Many, many, many years ago, I was a single man who committed adultery with a married woman. I felt ashamed of what I did, but I was hooked on the emotional and sexual pleasure that I received. Eventually the woman divorced her husband, after which time I married her out of guilt. My relationship with her became Hell on Earth, and it ended when she decided to have sex with a younger man.

During the entire time, I could not be open with others about what I was doing (or had done) because I was ashamed about my actions ... as I should have been.

H8MREKR, it not too late for you to end your adultery with a married man. We are all fallible, and it is possible for any one of us to get caught up in the wrong kind of relationship, as I learned first-hand.

Admitting that we are doing wrong is the first step toward recovery. I hope that you will take that first step before you end up learning a painful lesson the hard way.

oh no someone just stepped in it.lol..Dodo.. I think you need to get transported back up to your ship..lol

To the Dodo alien person.... I know the term adulterer is correct but it feels wrong to say.
Im not sneaking around his house or waiting for his wife to die or anything. Pur relationship is like anyone elses. Its Saturday night and he will be over tonight. He is here every Saturday night. He's a doctor so I can get a hold of him whenever I need him. I cant keep defending us... you guys just dont get it

No1phD in the house

it feels wrong to say, because you know in your heart that it is wrong, you are going to blame everyone around you for not understanding...but when the time comes(and it will) when you are crying and boohooing because he did this or that...you are going to want a shoulder to cry on, but many of them may not oblige because they may think that you sort of deserved it.

H8MREKR, I do get it, and as it was in my case, you really don't have a defense.

As I did, you have talked yourself into believing that there is an excuse for you to commit adultery with this person.

Well, there is no valid excuse for committing adultery. However, nobody here can make you see that.

You are going to do whatever pleases your flesh, because you are currently judging right and wrong according to what pleases your flesh.

Eventually, your standard for judging right and wrong is going to end up harming you directly. How much harm you experience remains to be seen.

That is when people slack off in their eating habits,

The guy is just as likely to cheat on you in the future, when he is bored of you, as he has proven himself to do with his current wife.

Personally, I'd tell him goodbye as I begin to look for Mr. Right.

it's not always once a cheater always a cheater.. I'm sure if Napoleon. No Genghis Khan.. no Hitler..no. Bill Clinton.no. any of the bushes.. wait a minute where was I going with this.lol

most likely he will not divorce her and he will have his cake and eat it to as long as you (and she) let him get away with it

you are being used. what you do about it is up to you.

running for president or conquering the desert? lol

does his wife know about you.???.. I wonder how this would all play out if she did.?!!hmmm.

Folks, we are at an impasse.

The author of the OP has decided to continue doing what she is doing, and she isn't going to get any "compassion" from here.

So, let's just let this thread die.

No1phD.. seconds the motion!!

Stop it David, just stop...We're all involved in this affair now....We need to help her, she's lost....