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Topic: Im seeing a married man but I know he loves me
SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33340	Mon 02/24/14 03:36 PM
it sounds like my situation, im a married guy, our relationship is destroyed, ive tried everything possible to make it work and then some. we have a young daughter and thats the only reason i stick around because i love my child. i need to be there and provide for her. im seeing someone else on here, im open and honest with her, i dont know where its going but for the time being weve found a little comfort and company in each other. life is so short to waste, better to share what you have than to be lonely. lonely is absolutely devistating, believe me. people can make excuses all you want, but people with children get divorced all the time... i think people like this just want to cheat because they are scared of change... or maybe doesn't want to pay child support Ya, is this the kind of relationship you want you child to have. Children look to their parents to model appropriate relationships. Marry someone, then sleaze around. Creep. If you think your child will not sense whats going on, youre mistaken. I was a child of an adulterous father. I knew he was a cheater. I cheered when my parents finally divorced. You are NOT doing your kid any favors. Very much the contrary. ....for the sake of the kids my @ss. Ive always hated that ridiculous excuse. I would MUCH rather be alone, or lonely, than be a sleazebag. That's why I have always been pro-divorce if need be. Darrel, when you're daughter finds out what kind of man you are, it might effect her choice of partner in later life, as you are her role-model of what a man should be like. So she might be attracted and get involved with men that cheat on her, lie to her, treat her like shite. So if you want to do your daughter right, have some baws and stop this lying and cheating. Get a divorce and be honest.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Mon 02/24/14 03:40 PM
it sounds like my situation, im a married guy, our relationship is destroyed, ive tried everything possible to make it work and then some. we have a young daughter and thats the only reason i stick around because i love my child. i need to be there and provide for her. im seeing someone else on here, im open and honest with her, i dont know where its going but for the time being weve found a little comfort and company in each other. life is so short to waste, better to share what you have than to be lonely. lonely is absolutely devistating, believe me. honest, yet your marital status says "no answer" if so honest why not say "married"?

Jesusprincessmt Joined Fri 06/21/13 Posts: 11882	Mon 02/24/14 03:55 PM
I was miserable in my marriage and I stayed for my children. My son saw my ex bully me so he mimicked his dad and bullied others. He thought that was the right way to treat others. We divorced. Yes, at first it was hard on the kids, but now they see that it is better that we are not married. We all had to go through counseling, but at least now my kids know how to treat others and how to be treated. It usually ends up hurting the kids more if it is an unhealthy marriage. You cannot truly love someone that is already married. True love is unconditional. This means putting all temptations aside and selfishness and focus on the commitment already at hand. Agape love should not be confused with lust.

clintb74 Joined Thu 02/20/14 Posts: 303	Mon 02/24/14 04:03 PM
I was miserable in my marriage and I stayed for my children. My son saw my ex bully me so he mimicked his dad and bullied others. He thought that was the right way to treat others. We divorced. Yes, at first it was hard on the kids, but now they see that it is better that we are not married. We all had to go through counseling, but at least now my kids know how to treat others and how to be treated. It usually ends up hurting the kids more if it is an unhealthy marriage. You cannot truly love someone that is already married. True love is unconditional. This means putting all temptations aside and selfishness and focus on the commitment already at hand. Agape love should not be confused with lust. The OP needs to read, understand and embrace this philosophy. Well said, thank you for posting this.

smarshall74 Joined Sat 02/22/14 Posts: 1	Mon 02/24/14 04:03 PM
Dishonesty is spoken for it's self. Anyone who tries to make sense of it or justifies the meaning.... well, they are being dishonest to themselves. And that is actually worse than someone being dishonest towards others.