Topic: Im seeing a married man but I know he loves me
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Sun 02/23/14 03:51 AM

Im making this declaration because no one seems to understand. I wish to explain it. Ive been seeing a married man for a year. He is the sweetest, sexiest guy Ive ever known! And the best lover Ive ever had. Ive come to the realization that I love him! If he would just hurry already and leave that woman he's married to we can finally be happy! I know what you may say.... hes married...you shouldnt be with him blah blah blah but no one knows our love. I wanted to post this because my co worker loves this site. And she talks to you guys all of the time... she said you people make her look at things she hadnt thought of before. I love Bobby very much...other than his wife..who he is divorcing soon. I dont see a downside.


.............and sooner or later he will pull the same Stunt on you!

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Sun 02/23/14 05:14 AM


I hope you don't think I'm trying to put you down. It's just I think you enjoy the sex with him, so much, that you can't get yourself out of it. It's clear you and him get along pretty well. Actually, I almost went and got myself into a similar situation, where he asked me if I'd ever want an affair with him, but we only kissed while drunk, and I told him I couldn't have an affair with him, because the right guy would want ALL of me, not just certain parts of me. It's okay for HIM, having two women at once, but do you really feel loved? How do you feel, every time he gets back into bed with his wife? Apart from sexually satisfied. It must be very difficult. I think a talk with a therapist might help. Incase you end up feeling suicidal. I'm not being dramatic. These situations can end up with one of them trying to commit suicide, because the suicidal person can't express openly, how hurt they can end up feeling. As not many around them will listen. And also, the two people who had the affair, sometimes feel very bitter towards each other, for keeping it a secret.

Yeah, but her case is different, as it isn't an affair, he loves her and they're going to get married and have babies
frustrated

I steer clear from married/involved men. And it never seizes to amaze me how many are looking for some excitement 'on the side' because things got boring with the missus.
But the risk of falling in love with a married bloke, no way am I going there!
Her case is exactly where you'd end up and you'd waste years of your life before you get out and over it.
So sad that so many women still fall for this BS and even defend the w@nker that's simply using them.


Well said.

hellsboy's photo
Sun 02/23/14 05:15 AM
I just have three words for you

LOVE IS BLIND

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Sun 02/23/14 05:19 AM


I just have three words for you

LOVE IS BLIND
and behavior is chosen


And boys will be boys:tongue:

hellsboy's photo
Sun 02/23/14 05:20 AM
Leighflowerforyou drinker smooched :heart:

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Sun 02/23/14 05:21 AM


I just have three words for you

LOVE IS BLIND
and behavior is chosen


When you are in love there ia just one thing and that is love


And leigh klc is a female!!!rofl

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Sun 02/23/14 05:26 AM



I just have three words for you

LOVE IS BLIND
and behavior is chosen


When you are in love there ia just one thing and that is love


And leigh klc is a female!!!rofl


I know that bunnyslaphead ....You are the one who is confusedwhoa ....In a good way wabbit...smitten

hellsboy's photo
Sun 02/23/14 05:29 AM
Im the most confused guy of this forum....

Please HELP ME!!!

LEIGHHHHHHHHHHH

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Sun 02/23/14 07:58 AM

Well you should seriously ask yourself, if he would be with me while he's married to someone else, what's to say that down the line he won't be happy to be with someone else while he's with you?.

Of course it could be that you do have a super special deep and everlasting love, BUT, occam's razor, when you hear hooves expect horses not zebras.

It's far more likely that this guys a cheating scumbag.

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Sun 02/23/14 08:34 PM
Ripple effect... Continuous repercussions from the first day, until the day you die. This will haunt you and every relationship 'Real or otherwise'... Physically, emotionally, and spiritually...


mightymoe's photo
Sun 02/23/14 08:39 PM
not one but two cheaters here... but thats ok, yall will end cheating on the people your cheating with now... just stupid...

clintb74's photo
Sun 02/23/14 08:41 PM
I am liberal on some things but infidelity is not one of them.

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Mon 02/24/14 12:28 AM
In the same vein as last post here's a question that should raise a few eyebrows.
If your in a relationship but your not married or ever going to be and you both spend a lot of time passing each other on the stairs both in life and in the bedroom and the conversation died a long time ago, is it wrong to look for someone else before you leave?
Oh and on the subject of last post, I was in similar position many years ago with a married woman and it ended in complete disaster for all concerned.
If your married and you want something or someone else get a divorce cause it ain't working.



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Mon 02/24/14 07:11 AM
Kabhi Kabhi Kuch Jeetne Ke Liya Kuch Haar Na Parta Hai, Aur Haar Ke Jeetne Wale Ko Baazigar Kehte Hain

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Mon 02/24/14 07:40 AM
Edited by red_lace on Mon 02/24/14 07:58 AM

There is just so much you guys don't know. His wife is mentally ill...

...Im not crazy..there will be no boiled bunnies... maybe Ill post my wedding pics and baby :tongue: announcement after that


We'll probably see history repeat itself soon. :)

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Mon 02/24/14 08:58 AM
my dear go for him if you want, but you must remove that good from there because if he was good he wont be living the wife for you and as you have already read, what he does with you he is going to do it with someone else

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Mon 02/24/14 09:10 AM
it sounds like my situation, im a married guy, our relationship is destroyed, ive tried everything possible to make it work and then some. we have a young daughter and thats the only reason i stick around because i love my child. i need to be there and provide for her. im seeing someone else on here, im open and honest with her, i dont know where its going but for the time being weve found a little comfort and company in each other. life is so short to waste, better to share what you have than to be lonely. lonely is absolutely devistating, believe me.

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Mon 02/24/14 09:56 AM


There is just so much you guys don't know. His wife is mentally ill...

...Im not crazy..there will be no boiled bunnies... maybe Ill post my wedding pics and baby :tongue: announcement after that


We'll probably see history repeat itself soon. :)


thats what i'm thinking too... once a cheater,....

mightymoe's photo
Mon 02/24/14 10:00 AM

it sounds like my situation, im a married guy, our relationship is destroyed, ive tried everything possible to make it work and then some. we have a young daughter and thats the only reason i stick around because i love my child. i need to be there and provide for her. im seeing someone else on here, im open and honest with her, i dont know where its going but for the time being weve found a little comfort and company in each other. life is so short to waste, better to share what you have than to be lonely. lonely is absolutely devistating, believe me.


people can make excuses all you want, but people with children get divorced all the time... i think people like this just want to cheat because they are scared of change... or maybe doesn't want to pay child support

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Mon 02/24/14 03:26 PM



it sounds like my situation, im a married guy, our relationship is destroyed, ive tried everything possible to make it work and then some. we have a young daughter and thats the only reason i stick around because i love my child. i need to be there and provide for her. im seeing someone else on here, im open and honest with her, i dont know where its going but for the time being weve found a little comfort and company in each other. life is so short to waste, better to share what you have than to be lonely. lonely is absolutely devistating, believe me.


people can make excuses all you want, but people with children get divorced all the time... i think people like this just want to cheat because they are scared of change... or maybe doesn't want to pay child support
Ya, is this the kind of relationship you want you child to have. Children look to their parents to model appropriate relationships. Marry someone, then sleaze around. Creep. If you think your child will not sense whats going on, youre mistaken. I was a child of an adulterous father. I knew he was a cheater. I cheered when my parents finally divorced. You are NOT doing your kid any favors. Very much the contrary.
....for the sake of the kids my @ss. Ive always hated that ridiculous excuse.grumble

I would MUCH rather be alone, or lonely, than be a sleazebag.


I respect you. So true.