How have you found common ground?

It is SO incredibly hard to come to terms with folks who piss you off so incredibly!

We feel how we feel....and SO strongly!

How have you "met in the middle" with opinions that grind you to the very core of your being?

LMAO!!!!!!.......not angry, just curious hahaha

I cut off all contact with people who piss me off; life is too short to waste it obsessing over ******** with ******** people. So yeah.

Forgiveness , its that simple.Trust me ive been pushed to my limits , as hard as it is think of the other persons feelings , hurt because they were hurt, always have compassion , and and you will get it in return , grow spiritually.

Same.
Life is short.

when we 'meet in the middle' , it takes more than just the effort of one

Im not sure how I do it, but it seems to start with relating to the other(s) with common experience or common perception

when it comes to 'differences' , I just realize we are all human, that is forefront in my mind so that I don't expect perfection or perfect agreement or perfect cooperation

from anyone

When i catch a little fish i throw it back!!!

I have a strange quirk.
When someone pisses me off, they get my undivided attention until they cut all contact.
Its's fun.

You're giving them power over you though. Someone pissed me off the other day; I'm ignoring them. No matter what they say, or what they do, it will not have an effect on me and I will never respond to them. I win.

Yes...I have met in the middle.
I agree...life is short.

I try to work things out or apologize, if necessary.
I do this for MY peace.and I feel, I win.
Only things I can count on one hand have I not forgiven and worked through.,
but I'm trying.
I will always be a work in process.
Jmo

Well, first I forgave him, and then some. . I'd known him for a few years. He was always quite nasty to me, and I used to wonder why he still wanted conversations with me, when he was treating me like that. He was quite young, so I'm guessing his hormones were all over the place. As much as I tried to resist talking to him anymore, it seemed it was never that simple. He was in the same circle of friends that I was, so we were constantly talking to each other. I usually would, or is it COULD, ignore anyone treating me a bit unpleasant, but in the end, he apologized, and still ever remained my friend. And to this day, no-one in our friendship circle ever knows what we did together, when away from them. It was odd, but we found a way to have fun with it. Not so simple, when you both have feelings for each other. That's why it was complicated.

That's different; I've forgiven people that I've loved/had feelings for too. I was talking about everyday people, or random acquaintances that I don't give a **** about, but yeah, when you have an actual "relationship" it can be very complicated.

Agreeing to compromise, agreeing to disagree about minor differences, or just trying to ignore a minimum number of people you find intolerable are all good coping systems but there are points were you feel like you are paying to high a price and selling yourself out it isn't so workable.

I think has to do with how often the offending insult is repeated. You can forgive someone for aggrieving you once, maybe even twice, but when it becomes chronic it also becomes accumulative. Just as success breeds success failure breeds failure. The old adage the apple does not fall very far from the tree applies.

People who grow up and live under and even later pick to live with toxic people end up having ulcers, constipation, dehydration, dental grinding, nervouse ticks, hair falling out, inflamatory diseases like arthritis, IBS, even cancers not to mention various emotional disorders like chronic rage, depressions, self depreciation, self mutilation, promiscuous behaviors. fetishes, and addictions to name a few. Anything that will distract them from or help them escape the pain, humiliation, isolation, and loss of personal dignity from being betrayed by the ones that are suppose to love, protect, teach, and nurture them.

Makes one rethink how much they want to try to stuff and not face down when someone wants to be a jerk.

To be honest usually I get very angry and just eliminate them from my life then in a little while I feel foolish and say I'm sorry, forgive them and move forward.

Sometimes I can do that just go on a vacation from someone until I get over being mad, sometimes I still want to bite nails. Today is a day I could spit nails through a brick wall. I need my Peppy hug!!!!!!

I always forgive my enemies, it's what pisses them off most

Just accept that other people have their opinions. Even if they are wrong. Knowing you can't fix stupid helps. hahaha

First both parties find a guy name Malcolm & then beat the **** out of him!
Second, sleep on it / each other!

I celebrate difference as diversity, an evolutionary precept and necessary for species survival in our case.

That said I deal with too much difference summarily, with the awareness the issue is mine, not theirs.

Well said.

Compromise or agree to disagree on small things but not on important issues. A "force fit" relationship is likely to produce negative results and to be unhealthy / unrewarding.