The threads on lying, pretending got me thinking.
I've been active at the forums for some 7, 8 weeks now, I think. And from the word go I've been wondering why I am here. What am I doing here? Of course I became a member, hoping to find Mr Right. Then I figured I was here to practice my English, which was going down the drain. Then I realized I just enjoy being me. Being honest, open, just me and what I am like, for real.
I've done that for several weeks now and I'm now beginning to realize I must be quite confusing to other people, chuckle.
I can be rather crude, sarcastic, but also have a lot of insight, wisdom and so on. Part of me is quite extreme, another part of me is gentle, feminine and very, very sensitive. Both are truly, really "me".
I tremendously enjoy being on stage in a gothic/SM-like outfit to sing, entertain, perform. Absolutely LOVE that!
But I feel just as comfortable and "me" when I'm giving spiritual / intuitive development courses and workshops.
How the he|| do you 'sell' that on a dating-site?
"Hi, I feel comfy in an SM club, but also in a spiritual setting". Lol.

Honesty is a b*t*h. (It would've made my own life so much easier if I wasn't so bluddy honest and open.)
Sigh ...

CrystalFairy,

Keep doing what you're doing. I appreciate your honesty and view points even when it differs from mine because your opinions are mostly unbiased. Right now, my country(America)can certainly use unbiased opinions so thank you for participating on Mingle2.

Crystal,,,,, some times asking ourselves questions is the way to the answers....:self talk is always good.....smile2: we all have our own answers when we open our eyes to see......

You describe yourself as an adynaton, a figure of speech so hyperbolic that it describes an impossibility. The implication of such a phrase is that the circumstances in question (the adynaton, and the circumstances to which the adynaton are being applied) will never occur.

Some of us live as a dichotomy. We are sometimes seen as a lie by others who do not understand how extremes can coexist within one body.

One of my favorite quotes:

"The light that burns twice as bright burns half as long - and you have burned so very, very brightly"

Revel in your time.

I agree that honesty can be confusing.

For example, a woman asks a man if her outfit makes her look fat.
The man replies, "No. Your fat makes you look fat."
The woman responds to that honest answer with anger toward the man.
When a woman punishes a man for being completely honest, the man becomes confused.

It makes ya more interesting

Hey ppl I'm new here how is everyone

Appreciate all the replies, Loovedoove, thx you for your sweet words!

Metalwings, not entirely sure how to interpret your reply :S

Crystal,please dont quit being honest and sincere.But if you want to try dishonesty,know for sure that it can only attract its kind of people to you

I don't think you're confusing, CrystalFairy, you seem pretty normal and down to earth. And honesty is always good, no matter what.

@Metalwing bravo to your unbiased analysis. If you suspect it got to be too good to be true, bet it; it probably is too good to be true.

Metal Wog. That's the kind of "wisdom" I'd expect from an old woman. I prefer this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-bOKsOveYD0

This isn't fiction either. As you probably know the Vikings considered dying of old age to be a cowardly way to die. So they invented a religion fit for warriors. And how powerful they became.

As long as your being honest with yourself, who cares if others think you are lying. In time they will get to know you for who you are,

I disagree! You do not describe yourself in any way as an adynaton.

If you're spiritual, you're probably not religious and that's why you can feel just as you are in an S&M club or a tranquil spiritual setting

The lack of religious "fear" enables you to not associate a loss of spirituality in a very different setting... the club. Makes perfect sense to me.

Shine on you crazy diamond!

Thank you John

I just gave two extremes as an example. Thing is, I can fit in anywhere. You can stick me a posh hotel or restaurant, a dope joint with pot smoking hippies, I felt quite comfy in Camden with all them punks and goths and I get along fine with rockers too.
I can fit in anywhere and have a good time.

You can be honest without being a jerk. Its called using Tact.

Crystal; I can be brutally honest at times but I always do try to be tactful when I am honest. For example; when a man asks me if I need him; I am honest and say "no I don't need you but I like being with you." Men don't want to hear this so I will always remain single and I accept this. Men don't want to hear; "I can do this myself" either but I am being honest but if he insists on helping; I will accept it as the job gets done faster.

Sure, but I was getting at stuff like "would you get involved in a threesome?"
And my answer "Depends on the parameters"
Ppl reading this, will probably think I have no standards, sleep around and so on, while in actual fact I'm very very picky, don't sleep around at all, never have, that's just not me.
I do, however, prefer to have an open mind (about mostly everything in life). Life ain't black & white. And if the setting is right, I might go for it. Mind you, MIGHT, I'm not sure. You can't be sure till you've tried it.

So I answered honestly, which will very likely give ppl the wrong impression about me.

I find honesty to often be more humorous than fiction.