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When you meet someone, how important are their living conditions? Does it matter is they live in a poor neighborhood? Or in a tiny or apartment? What about someone that lived in a trailer far away from city noise? Or someone that lived in a lavish downtown loft? Does this have an effect on your choice of taking the relationship to the next level?
What kind of home do you see yourself living in with that special someone? Being a simple man, I have a strong preference for very small, one room apartments and always have. If I live in a larger space I find that the space itself gets in my way. I like everything to be within my reach, all the time. |
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Edited by
Solace84
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Wed 02/20/13 04:32 AM
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If she's confortable with a room apartment,or otherwise... All good by me... She takes the lead...
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To me their living conditions are their choice. I live in the country far away from cities noise but some live according to financial situations. I have lived in tough neighborhoods due to cash flow. The important thing to me is who they are in their heart.
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Home is very important. as for me, I just need a comfortable house to stay. I don't care about the size.
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But, if they wanted you to move into their home with them, what kind of conditions would it take for you to agree? Would you leave your big place in the country for an apartment in a large city? Or the other way around?
Personally, I have a plan to build myself a very small trailer and once I'm in it, I'm not going to be leaving it as long as I can live on my own. |
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Edited by
AthenaRose2
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Wed 02/20/13 06:33 AM
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When you meet someone, how important are their living conditions? Does it matter is they live in a poor neighborhood? Or in a tiny or apartment? What about someone that lived in a trailer far away from city noise? Or someone that lived in a lavish downtown loft? Does this have an effect on your choice of taking the relationship to the next level? What kind of home do you see yourself living in with that special someone? Being a simple man, I have a strong preference for very small, one room apartments and always have. If I live in a larger space I find that the space itself gets in my way. I like everything to be within my reach, all the time. The importance I would attach to it depends on their circumstances. Do they live in a trailer park or a poor neighborhood because that’s all they can afford, and they’re online just trying to meet someone they can improve their lot with? Or do they prefer living in the country, or poor neighborhood because they’re working close by and saving the money they’re cheaper monthly expenses are affording them… that way when they do meet someone with similar ambitions and they decide to make a deeper commitment they’ll have the money they need to make a change? Being a single woman who is settled and already owns my land/home in the country, furnishings, car, etc… with extra furnishings that my 960 sq ft house isn’t big enough for, so they’re being stored in a unit across town… it may not be necessary that he own as much as I do, because we would have too many belongings when we combined our resources. Under my circumstances my ideal match will already own his own land/house too, preferably one bigger than mine, so if we decided to cohabitate I can bring the antiques out of storage. And, it’s better to have our own homes to return too if our relationship doesn’t work out. This is one thing that really bothered me when I first came online and men would contact me saying how much they love me and could relocate… because I’ve worked too hard for too long to be here at this stage of my life… and I’m not going to allow a man to make himself comfortable at my expense, if he has absolutely nothing to bring to the table himself, except the so-called love he claims to have for me, even when we’ve never laid eyes on each other. At my age, I’m not going to make decisions that could seriously and adversely affect my future security. So, if the man and I are on equal footing to start with, our combining our lives will go more smoothly… This is just a very practical way for me to handle this particular issue that you’ve presented for inquiring minds to discuss. I posted pictures of my house on my profile at DH, so any prospective friends can see how I live, and also so they can see the level of my skills, as I did most of the remodeling work myself. I'm a very independent minded and industrious woman who isn't afraid to get my hands dirty, work wise, to get what I need to make myself happy first, so if a stronger man comes into my life and we hit it off... again, it depends on his circumstances and ability to get what he wants in his life too... we never know where we can go from there... |
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I dont care where they live, just how they carry themself.
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It is a personal choice, but owning your own home is important to me and a partner would need to have the same objective in mind, and an interest in improving it.
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I dont care where they live, just how they carry themself. Totally agree. |
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When you meet someone, how important are their living conditions? Does it matter is they live in a poor neighborhood? Or in a tiny or apartment? What about someone that lived in a trailer far away from city noise? Or someone that lived in a lavish downtown loft? Does this have an effect on your choice of taking the relationship to the next level?
What kind of home do you see yourself living in with that special someone? where they live is not really important to me as it'd be doubtful I'd be moving in with them.. unless of course there were extreme circumstances that would warrant it.. HOW they live is another story altogether though.. I prefer guys that maintain a clean(ish) home and appearance and can take care of themselves.. someone independent yet a team player.. I already own a home, that took a LOT of hard work on my part to get AND I've been investing time and money to renovate & modernize it, to increase it's worth and comfort.. plus I'm where I want to be.. in the country, away from the hustle and bustle of crazy life altering stress which I wouldn't want to give up.. yet minutes away from all the major traffic arteries and about 20 mins to a major city.. plus I've no neighbors to bother me OR tell me how to live.. so why would I WANT to move? I wouldn't.. but I would hope 'he' would share the same passions and drive to want to create a beautiful surroundings together, while investing in our future.. |
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When you meet someone, how important are their living conditions? Does it matter is they live in a poor neighborhood? Or in a tiny or apartment? What about someone that lived in a trailer far away from city noise? Or someone that lived in a lavish downtown loft? Does this have an effect on your choice of taking the relationship to the next level? What kind of home do you see yourself living in with that special someone? Being a simple man, I have a strong preference for very small, one room apartments and always have. If I live in a larger space I find that the space itself gets in my way. I like everything to be within my reach, all the time. The importance I would attach to it depends on their circumstances. Do they live in a trailer park or a poor neighborhood because that’s all they can afford, and they’re online just trying to meet someone they can improve their lot with? Or do they prefer living in the country, or poor neighborhood because they’re working close by and saving the money they’re cheaper monthly expenses are affording them… that way when they do meet someone with similar ambitions and they decide to make a deeper commitment they’ll have the money they need to make a change? Being a single woman who is settled and already owns my land/home in the country, furnishings, car, etc… with extra furnishings that my 960 sq ft house isn’t big enough for, so they’re being stored in a unit across town… it may not be necessary that he own as much as I do, because we would have too many belongings when we combined our resources. Under my circumstances my ideal match will already own his own land/house too, preferably one bigger than mine, so if we decided to cohabitate I can bring the antiques out of storage. And, it’s better to have our own homes to return too if our relationship doesn’t work out. This is one thing that really bothered me when I first came online and men would contact me saying how much they love me and could relocate… because I’ve worked too hard for too long to be here at this stage of my life… and I’m not going to allow a man to make himself comfortable at my expense, if he has absolutely nothing to bring to the table himself, except the so-called love he claims to have for me, even when we’ve never laid eyes on each other. At my age, I’m not going to make decisions that could seriously and adversely affect my future security. So, if the man and I are on equal footing to start with, our combining our lives will go more smoothly… This is just a very practical way for me to handle this particular issue that you’ve presented for inquiring minds to discuss. I posted pictures of my house on my profile at DH, so any prospective friends can see how I live, and also so they can see the level of my skills, as I did most of the remodeling work myself. I'm a very independent minded and industrious woman who isn't afraid to get my hands dirty, work wise, to get what I need to make myself happy first, so if a stronger man comes into my life and we hit it off... again, it depends on his circumstances and ability to get what he wants in his life too... we never know where we can go from there... This is how I'm thinking too. But, I'm in a different situation. I've been rather foolish with the money I've made and trusted the wrong people in the past. So, I'm working on limiting my living expenses to the minimum. I'm learning how little I can get away with spending and still live a lifestyle I enjoy. I don't own a TV and haven't for a very long time and I don't miss it. I do have a few things in storage though and I really don't like paying that bill each month. But, I just don't have space for four guitars on my truck and I'm not ready to let them go. And since I don't want to pay for storing only those few items, I hold onto some other junk, like clothes and such. I'm getting rid of everything that I don't absolutely love or use almost daily. But, I'm holding onto those guitars. My plan is to build a little trailer, park it someplace warm where I can afford to live cheaply and move into it. I want more money and happiness and I'm willing to take living in less space and having less stuff to get it. I think that's a pretty sweet deal. I suppose if I met a woman that had a large place of her own I could park in her backyard and if things didn't work out I'll just roll on down the road and find another spot. It the posh, traveling life for me! |
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Edited by
Zero_Effected
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Wed 02/20/13 07:54 AM
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Being a single woman who is settled and already owns my land/home in the country, furnishings, car, etc… with extra furnishings that my 960 sq ft house isn’t big enough for, so they’re being stored in a unit across town… it may not be necessary that he own as much as I do, because we would have too many belongings when we combined our resources. Under my circumstances my ideal match will already own his own land/house too, preferably one bigger than mine, so if we decided to cohabitate I can bring the antiques out of storage. And, it’s better to have our own homes to return too if our relationship doesn’t work out. This is one thing that really bothered me when I first came online and men would contact me saying how much they love me and could relocate… because I’ve worked too hard for too long to be here at this stage of my life… and I’m not going to allow a man to make himself comfortable at my expense, if he has absolutely nothing to bring to the table himself, except the so-called love he claims to have for me, even when we’ve never laid eyes on each other. At my age, I’m not going to make decisions that could seriously and adversely affect my future security. So, if the man and I are on equal footing to start with, our combining our lives will go more smoothly… This is just a very practical way for me to handle this particular issue that you’ve presented for inquiring minds to discuss. I posted pictures of my house on my profile at DH, so any prospective friends can see how I live, and also so they can see the level of my skills, as I did most of the remodeling work myself. I'm a very independent minded and industrious woman who isn't afraid to get my hands dirty, work wise, to get what I need to make myself happy first, so if a stronger man comes into my life and we hit it off... again, it depends on his circumstances and ability to get what he wants in his life too... we never know where we can go from there... I can relate to just about everything you've said here.. 
however.. my home and lot are quite big so space isn't an issue for me.. 
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Where they choose to live and the type of place they choose to live is their choice. If we end up moving in together, we'd both make the choice together.
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When you meet someone, how important are their living conditions? Does it matter is they live in a poor neighborhood? Or in a tiny or apartment? What about someone that lived in a trailer far away from city noise? Or someone that lived in a lavish downtown loft? Does this have an effect on your choice of taking the relationship to the next level? What kind of home do you see yourself living in with that special someone? Being a simple man, I have a strong preference for very small, one room apartments and always have. If I live in a larger space I find that the space itself gets in my way. I like everything to be within my reach, all the time. The importance I would attach to it depends on their circumstances. Do they live in a trailer park or a poor neighborhood because that’s all they can afford, and they’re online just trying to meet someone they can improve their lot with? Or do they prefer living in the country, or poor neighborhood because they’re working close by and saving the money they’re cheaper monthly expenses are affording them… that way when they do meet someone with similar ambitions and they decide to make a deeper commitment they’ll have the money they need to make a change? Being a single woman who is settled and already owns my land/home in the country, furnishings, car, etc… with extra furnishings that my 960 sq ft house isn’t big enough for, so they’re being stored in a unit across town… it may not be necessary that he own as much as I do, because we would have too many belongings when we combined our resources. Under my circumstances my ideal match will already own his own land/house too, preferably one bigger than mine, so if we decided to cohabitate I can bring the antiques out of storage. And, it’s better to have our own homes to return too if our relationship doesn’t work out. This is one thing that really bothered me when I first came online and men would contact me saying how much they love me and could relocate… because I’ve worked too hard for too long to be here at this stage of my life… and I’m not going to allow a man to make himself comfortable at my expense, if he has absolutely nothing to bring to the table himself, except the so-called love he claims to have for me, even when we’ve never laid eyes on each other. At my age, I’m not going to make decisions that could seriously and adversely affect my future security. So, if the man and I are on equal footing to start with, our combining our lives will go more smoothly… This is just a very practical way for me to handle this particular issue that you’ve presented for inquiring minds to discuss. I posted pictures of my house on my profile at DH, so any prospective friends can see how I live, and also so they can see the level of my skills, as I did most of the remodeling work myself. I'm a very independent minded and industrious woman who isn't afraid to get my hands dirty, work wise, to get what I need to make myself happy first, so if a stronger man comes into my life and we hit it off... again, it depends on his circumstances and ability to get what he wants in his life too... we never know where we can go from there... This is how I'm thinking too. But, I'm in a different situation. I've been rather foolish with the money I've made and trusted the wrong people in the past. So, I'm working on limiting my living expenses to the minimum. I'm learning how little I can get away with spending and still live a lifestyle I enjoy. I don't own a TV and haven't for a very long time and I don't miss it. I do have a few things in storage though and I really don't like paying that bill each month. But, I just don't have space for four guitars on my truck and I'm not ready to let them go. And since I don't want to pay for storing only those few items, I hold onto some other junk, like clothes and such. I'm getting rid of everything that I don't absolutely love or use almost daily. But, I'm holding onto those guitars. My plan is to build a little trailer, park it someplace warm where I can afford to live cheaply and move into it. I want more money and happiness and I'm willing to take living in less space and having less stuff to get it. I think that's a pretty sweet deal. I suppose if I met a woman that had a large place of her own I could park in her backyard and if things didn't work out I'll just roll on down the road and find another spot. It the posh, traveling life for me! That's a really cool and convenient idea, Scoundrel... parking on her property... and going the cost cutting route has always been my thing... I've already had 2 unit sales trying to get out from under that monthly note, but people here want something for nothing... and it gets hard to keep up the few bills I do pay while having to buy monthly meds that are outrageously expensive on my limited budget. I've even been considering renting the spare room to get someone in here to split monthly utility expenses... but I'm such a procrastinator... I've only got an acre of land, and my house is 1,600+ sq ft, I made a mistake on it's size in my previous post, but I'm not done expanding yet either... and letting someone park out back, now that's an idea I haven't considered yet... |
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Being a single woman who is settled and already owns my land/home in the country, furnishings, car, etc… with extra furnishings that my 960 sq ft house isn’t big enough for, so they’re being stored in a unit across town… it may not be necessary that he own as much as I do, because we would have too many belongings when we combined our resources. Under my circumstances my ideal match will already own his own land/house too, preferably one bigger than mine, so if we decided to cohabitate I can bring the antiques out of storage. And, it’s better to have our own homes to return too if our relationship doesn’t work out. This is one thing that really bothered me when I first came online and men would contact me saying how much they love me and could relocate… because I’ve worked too hard for too long to be here at this stage of my life… and I’m not going to allow a man to make himself comfortable at my expense, if he has absolutely nothing to bring to the table himself, except the so-called love he claims to have for me, even when we’ve never laid eyes on each other. At my age, I’m not going to make decisions that could seriously and adversely affect my future security. So, if the man and I are on equal footing to start with, our combining our lives will go more smoothly… This is just a very practical way for me to handle this particular issue that you’ve presented for inquiring minds to discuss. I posted pictures of my house on my profile at DH, so any prospective friends can see how I live, and also so they can see the level of my skills, as I did most of the remodeling work myself. I'm a very independent minded and industrious woman who isn't afraid to get my hands dirty, work wise, to get what I need to make myself happy first, so if a stronger man comes into my life and we hit it off... again, it depends on his circumstances and ability to get what he wants in his life too... we never know where we can go from there... I can relate to just about everything you've said here..
however.. my home and lot are quite big so space isn't an issue for me..
you go girl...
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I wouldn't mind how many rooms, or what area it was in. It would only bother me slightly if he had no bathroom in his home, but I could always use their nextdoor neighbours toilet, if it came to that.
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Who is it that said, something to the effect, a fish and a bird can fall in love but where would they live?
I don't see a reason to worry about that until the situation were to surface. If I decide it's important to me, I can always avoid dating birds. |
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Who is it that said, something to the effect, a fish and a bird can fall in love but where would they live? I don't see a reason to worry about that until the situation were to surface. If I decide it's important to me, I can always avoid dating birds.  cute... 
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Having grown up in large houses, where you knew the help
better than the family, I loathe large homes, they signal the ability to run away and get lost to me, and not have to deal with reality. If someone asked me to live in a large home, I would refuse..keep it small, cozy and filled with love. I am good. |
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That's a really cool and convenient idea, Scoundrel... parking on her property... and going the cost cutting route has always been my thing... I've already had 2 unit sales trying to get out from under that monthly note, but people here want something for nothing... and it gets hard to keep up the few bills I do pay while having to buy monthly meds that are outrageously expensive on my limited budget. I've even been considering renting the spare room to get someone in here to split monthly utility expenses... but I'm such a procrastinator... I've only got an acre of land, and my house is 1,600+ sq ft, I made a mistake on it's size in my previous post, but I'm not done expanding yet either... and letting someone park out back, now that's an idea I haven't considered yet... LOL Yeah, sometimes I get lucky in the idea department. I've never had a desire to live on a place that large. Mainly because I hate doing yard work. So, I've mostly opted for apartments. Besides, I don't think buying a house is a good investment, at least not for me. If I'm renting, I know what my expenses are going to be each month. Owning, if something goes wrong that I hadn't planned for I'd be screwed. But, a little trailer strikes me as a very good compromise. I'll have the ability to pick up and go whenever I want and I can go anywhere. All I need is a truck to pull it. I also like living in large cities. Everything is so close by and there's always something to do. I don't want to drive 30 minutes just to buy groceries. And I don't have to worry about varmints. Technology has made this kind of living so easy comfortable. I can watch most any TV show on the web, listen to music, communicate with friends or watch a DVD all on my laptop. The record collection I had when I was young, that took up a wall, will now fit on a gadget the size of my Zippo lighter! Soon movies will be the same, if they're not already. And I'm fine doing all my cooking on a hotplate and convection oven. I have no use for a microwave. The place I want to build would be about 150 sq ft. That small of a space costs almost nothing to heat or cool, so I'll be saving big time on utilities. If I install solar panels on my roof, it may bring it down to nothing. I can put it in a trailer park for about $300 a month or so. And trailer parks usually have swimming pools that I'd never have to maintain. What's not to love about living this way? |
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