When you meet someone, how important are their living conditions? Does it matter is they live in a poor neighborhood? Or in a tiny or apartment? What about someone that lived in a trailer far away from city noise? Or someone that lived in a lavish downtown loft? Does this have an effect on your choice of taking the relationship to the next level?

What kind of home do you see yourself living in with that special someone?

Being a simple man, I have a strong preference for very small, one room apartments and always have. If I live in a larger space I find that the space itself gets in my way. I like everything to be within my reach, all the time.

I dont care where they live, just how they carry themself.

When you meet someone, how important are their living conditions? Does it matter is they live in a poor neighborhood? Or in a tiny or apartment? What about someone that lived in a trailer far away from city noise? Or someone that lived in a lavish downtown loft? Does this have an effect on your choice of taking the relationship to the next level?

What kind of home do you see yourself living in with that special someone?

The importance I would attach to it depends on their circumstances. Do they live in a trailer park or a poor neighborhood because that’s all they can afford, and they’re online just trying to meet someone they can improve their lot with? Or do they prefer living in the country, or poor neighborhood because they’re working close by and saving the money they’re cheaper monthly expenses are affording them… that way when they do meet someone with similar ambitions and they decide to make a deeper commitment they’ll have the money they need to make a change?

Being a single woman who is settled and already owns my land/home in the country, furnishings, car, etc… with extra furnishings that my 960 sq ft house isn’t big enough for, so they’re being stored in a unit across town… it may not be necessary that he own as much as I do, because we would have too many belongings when we combined our resources. Under my circumstances my ideal match will already own his own land/house too, preferably one bigger than mine, so if we decided to cohabitate I can bring the antiques out of storage.

And, it’s better to have our own homes to return too if our relationship doesn’t work out. This is one thing that really bothered me when I first came online and men would contact me saying how much they love me and could relocate… because I’ve worked too hard for too long to be here at this stage of my life… and I’m not going to allow a man to make himself comfortable at my expense, if he has absolutely nothing to bring to the table himself, except the so-called love he claims to have for me, even when we’ve never laid eyes on each other.

At my age, I’m not going to make decisions that could seriously and adversely affect my future security. So, if the man and I are on equal footing to start with, our combining our lives will go more smoothly… This is just a very practical way for me to handle this particular issue that you’ve presented for inquiring minds to discuss.

I posted pictures of my house on my profile at DH, so any prospective friends can see how I live, and also so they can see the level of my skills, as I did most of the remodeling work myself. I'm a very independent minded and industrious woman who isn't afraid to get my hands dirty, work wise, to get what I need to make myself happy first, so if a stronger man comes into my life and we hit it off... again, it depends on his circumstances and ability to get what he wants in his life too... we never know where we can go from there...

Being a single woman who is settled and already owns my land/home in the country, furnishings, car, etc… with extra furnishings that my 960 sq ft house isn’t big enough for, so they’re being stored in a unit across town… it may not be necessary that he own as much as I do, because we would have too many belongings when we combined our resources. Under my circumstances my ideal match will already own his own land/house too, preferably one bigger than mine, so if we decided to cohabitate I can bring the antiques out of storage.

And, it’s better to have our own homes to return too if our relationship doesn’t work out. This is one thing that really bothered me when I first came online and men would contact me saying how much they love me and could relocate… because I’ve worked too hard for too long to be here at this stage of my life… and I’m not going to allow a man to make himself comfortable at my expense, if he has absolutely nothing to bring to the table himself, except the so-called love he claims to have for me, even when we’ve never laid eyes on each other.

At my age, I’m not going to make decisions that could seriously and adversely affect my future security. So, if the man and I are on equal footing to start with, our combining our lives will go more smoothly… This is just a very practical way for me to handle this particular issue that you’ve presented for inquiring minds to discuss.

I posted pictures of my house on my profile at DH, so any prospective friends can see how I live, and also so they can see the level of my skills, as I did most of the remodeling work myself. I'm a very independent minded and industrious woman who isn't afraid to get my hands dirty, work wise, to get what I need to make myself happy first, so if a stronger man comes into my life and we hit it off... again, it depends on his circumstances and ability to get what he wants in his life too... we never know where we can go from there...

This is how I'm thinking too. But, I'm in a different situation. I've been rather foolish with the money I've made and trusted the wrong people in the past. So, I'm working on limiting my living expenses to the minimum. I'm learning how little I can get away with spending and still live a lifestyle I enjoy. I don't own a TV and haven't for a very long time and I don't miss it.

I do have a few things in storage though and I really don't like paying that bill each month. But, I just don't have space for four guitars on my truck and I'm not ready to let them go. And since I don't want to pay for storing only those few items, I hold onto some other junk, like clothes and such. I'm getting rid of everything that I don't absolutely love or use almost daily. But, I'm holding onto those guitars.

My plan is to build a little trailer, park it someplace warm where I can afford to live cheaply and move into it. I want more money and happiness and I'm willing to take living in less space and having less stuff to get it. I think that's a pretty sweet deal.

I suppose if I met a woman that had a large place of her own I could park in her backyard and if things didn't work out I'll just roll on down the road and find another spot. It the posh, traveling life for me!

I can relate to just about everything you've said here..
however.. my home and lot are quite big so space isn't an issue for me..

Who is it that said, something to the effect, a fish and a bird can fall in love but where would they live?

I don't see a reason to worry about that until the situation were to surface.

If I decide it's important to me, I can always avoid dating birds.

That's a really cool and convenient idea, Scoundrel... parking on her property... and going the cost cutting route has always been my thing... I've already had 2 unit sales trying to get out from under that monthly note, but people here want something for nothing... and it gets hard to keep up the few bills I do pay while having to buy monthly meds that are outrageously expensive on my limited budget. I've even been considering renting the spare room to get someone in here to split monthly utility expenses... but I'm such a procrastinator... I've only got an acre of land, and my house is 1,600+ sq ft, I made a mistake on it's size in my previous post, but I'm not done expanding yet either... and letting someone park out back, now that's an idea I haven't considered yet...