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What do you think of a potential date that has been married more than once and is single again? Does that raise questions of why that may be? Like yu've Rightly Stated, red flag! Really; you can pass judgment on someone that has been married twice? How would you feel if someone said there is a red flag that you have never been married at age 35? Would they be justified in saying that?  Yu Got a Point there  Maybe I'll have a Second Thought First from Now on. The Red Flag Might Still be Waiting in the Wings tho  That's nasty!!!!!! Flying a red flag with wings. EEEEEEEWWWWWWWW!!!    Gatto be Prepared for the Likely. Don't really intend 2 be Harsh, but Women dat have been Married twice just Seem 2 not get Along with Men. Majority of them quite Frankly |
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I think it should raise a flag but the person could still be a nice person just not sure what they want in life. Yes, but usually intelligent people don't get married twice because they don't know what they want in life. |
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Edited by
mountainwatergirl
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Tue 02/12/13 10:48 AM
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Personally I don't consider it to be a red flag, but that may be because I am also twice divorced. I was 17 the 1st time and married a smooth talker who was 10 yrs older than me. It wasn't until we were married that I discovered he was an alcoholic wife-beater. After 5 painful years I managed to break free and save my own life. I don't consider that a weakness but a strength. My second marriage lasted for 20 years. We grew apart and no longer had any common interest but stayed together for the sake of our daughter. That is also not a weakness in my eyes but a loving committment to our child. Now I'm ready to start over for what's right for me instead of everyone else. Does any of that make me a bad person or someone to be scrutinized for deficiency's? I doubt it but if that's the way they look at it then they are not worth my time. I outgrew highschool and childish ways of thinking a long time ago.
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Tue 02/12/13 11:35 AM
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I think Society looks more down on those of us who have never married. A woman once told me that ninety percent of her girlfriends would not go out with a guy who's never been married. Says a lot about what's on most womens' minds; not a relationship, not a best friend, not a companion, but just a husband. NEWSFLASH!!! Men think the same thing about a woman that has never been married. So what does that say about a man's mind?  True! Men want to know if you ever been married and do you have any Children. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Tue 02/12/13 12:00 PM
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I think Society looks more down on those of us who have never married. A woman once told me that ninety percent of her girlfriends would not go out with a guy who's never been married. Says a lot about what's on most womens' minds; not a relationship, not a best friend, not a companion, but just a husband. NEWSFLASH!!! Men think the same thing about a woman that has never been married. So what does that say about a man's mind? True! Men want to know if you ever been married and do you have any Children. With me; men think its that I can't commit. Oh well.  Have more important issues to deal with than that.
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Personally I don't consider it to be a red flag, but that may be because I am also twice divorced. I was 17 the 1st time and married a smooth talker who was 10 yrs older than me. It wasn't until we were married that I discovered he was an alcoholic wife-beater. After 5 painful years I managed to break free and save my own life. I don't consider that a weakness but a strength. My second marriage lasted for 20 years. We grew apart and no longer had any common interest but stayed together for the sake of our daughter. That is also not a weakness in my eyes but a loving committment to our child. Now I'm ready to start over for what's right for me instead of everyone else. Does any of that make me a bad person or someone to be scrutinized for deficiency's? I doubt it but if that's the way they look at it then they are not worth my time. I outgrew highschool and childish ways of thinking a long time ago. Good for you, young darlin'. Happy to see you made it out alive. You deserve all the best this life has to offer. I will pray it and/or he comes your way and you can live out you life deeply in love and loved. Damn. You're one beautiful lady! 
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I think Society looks more down on those of us who have never married. A woman once told me that ninety percent of her girlfriends would not go out with a guy who's never been married. Says a lot about what's on most womens' minds; not a relationship, not a best friend, not a companion, but just a husband. NEWSFLASH!!! Men think the same thing about a woman that has never been married. So what does that say about a man's mind? True! Men want to know if you ever been married and do you have any Children. With me; men think its that I can't commit. Oh well. They must not be as smart as you anyway. Keep looking. You are so cute, sweet, kind and accomplished. I really cannot imagine how you are still single and never married...I can't. lol However, I believe some were never intended to suffer a relationship...and I envy them. lol |
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Personally I don't consider it to be a red flag, but that may be because I am also twice divorced. I was 17 the 1st time and married a smooth talker who was 10 yrs older than me. It wasn't until we were married that I discovered he was an alcoholic wife-beater. After 5 painful years I managed to break free and save my own life. I don't consider that a weakness but a strength. My second marriage lasted for 20 years. We grew apart and no longer had any common interest but stayed together for the sake of our daughter. That is also not a weakness in my eyes but a loving committment to our child. Now I'm ready to start over for what's right for me instead of everyone else. Does any of that make me a bad person or someone to be scrutinized for deficiency's? I doubt it but if that's the way they look at it then they are not worth my time. I outgrew highschool and childish ways of thinking a long time ago. Good Response. 
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Edited by
navygirl
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Tue 02/12/13 12:12 PM
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I think Society looks more down on those of us who have never married. A woman once told me that ninety percent of her girlfriends would not go out with a guy who's never been married. Says a lot about what's on most womens' minds; not a relationship, not a best friend, not a companion, but just a husband. NEWSFLASH!!! Men think the same thing about a woman that has never been married. So what does that say about a man's mind? True! Men want to know if you ever been married and do you have any Children. With me; men think its that I can't commit. Oh well. They must not be as smart as you anyway. Keep looking. You are so cute, sweet, kind and accomplished. I really cannot imagine how you are still single and never married...I can't. lol However, I believe some were never intended to suffer a relationship...and I envy them. lol Thanks Mountaingirl but I gave up looking long ago. My friend Lee asks the same question about why I never married but when you move every two years or you are at sea for 10 out 12 months; men can't deal with it and I do understand. Right now most of my time is spent teaching kids cadets 9 to 12 years old and playing with my military band; so no time for dating. I am just glad that I can share some of my knowledge with the younger generation as these kids are a hoot to work with. PS. I love your comment about never intended to suffer a relationship.
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Tue 02/12/13 05:07 PM
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A single man friend told me once, that if a man is not married by the age of 50, first marriage that is. Chances are that he will never get married at all. The man friend is now 62 and he has never been married. But he had a livin woman and has a grown daughter by that woman, they parted after 6 yrs. Not sure why they never got married. Point is, many people do not choose to marry but they have Partners livin and some have Children too. So, to me that is just like a person who has been divorced.
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A single man friend told me once, that if a man is not married by the age of 50, first marriage that is. Chances are that he will never get married at all. The man friend is now 62 and he has never been married. But he had a livin woman and has a grown daughter by that woman, they parted after 6 yrs. Not sure why they never got married. Point is, many people do not choose to marry but they have Partners livin and some have Children too. So, to me that is just like a person who has been divorced. Common law is almost the same as being married especially when the two of you split up. Its settled very much like a divorce; only thing is you don't have a marriage certficate. |
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A single man friend told me once, that if a man is not married by the age of 50, first marriage that is. Chances are that he will never get married at all. The man friend is now 62 and he has never been married. But he had a livin woman and has a grown daughter by that woman, they parted after 6 yrs. Not sure why they never got married. Point is, many people do not choose to marry but they have Partners livin and some have Children too. So, to me that is just like a person who has been divorced. its seems understandable to me that someone that has become accustomed to a self centered life for several decades of their adult life (not in the negative sense, but the LITERAL one), would not necessarily feel motivated to change that |
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Don't really intend 2 be Harsh, but Women dat have been Married twice just Seem 2 not get Along with Men. Majority of them quite Frankly  And the evidence supporting your claim is . . . |
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With me; men think its that I can't commit. Maybe they simply think that you should be committed.
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There are some who have wanted to get married, but their lover sometimes decided after a while to play the field instead. It can depend very much on what the problem was.
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With me; men think its that I can't commit. Maybe they simply think that you should be committed. Yep; you could be right about that.
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Don't really intend 2 be Harsh, but Women dat have been Married twice just Seem 2 not get Along with Men. Majority of them quite Frankly And the evidence supporting your claim is . . .1. Dat they've been Out of two Marriages Already? 2. The Women I Know dat have been there are just like dat; don't get Along with Men. They have Little Patience |
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Don't really intend 2 be Harsh, but Women dat have been Married twice just Seem 2 not get Along with Men. Majority of them quite Frankly And the evidence supporting your claim is . . . 1. Dat they've been Out of two Marriages Already? 2. The Women I Know dat have been there are just like dat; don't get Along with Men. They have Little Patience REALLY!! That is about as stereotypical as you can get. Like I stated earlier in my post I was married for 5 years to a wife-beater and the 2nd marriage lasted 20 years for the sake of my daughter. It seems you might want to re-evaluate your opinion of women and know the circumstances of why they've had more than one divorce before you pass judgement on the entire female race. |
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Personally I don't consider it to be a red flag, but that may be because I am also twice divorced. I was 17 the 1st time and married a smooth talker who was 10 yrs older than me. It wasn't until we were married that I discovered he was an alcoholic wife-beater. After 5 painful years I managed to break free and save my own life. I don't consider that a weakness but a strength. My second marriage lasted for 20 years. We grew apart and no longer had any common interest but stayed together for the sake of our daughter. That is also not a weakness in my eyes but a loving committment to our child. Now I'm ready to start over for what's right for me instead of everyone else. Does any of that make me a bad person or someone to be scrutinized for deficiency's? I doubt it but if that's the way they look at it then they are not worth my time. I outgrew highschool and childish ways of thinking a long time ago. Good Response. I second that motion. |
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