Topic: Why not sex on the first date?
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Sun 01/20/13 08:53 AM


But men should realize that women are not as excited about sex as you are and you are not doing them a favor providing your sexual services no matter how good you think you are, therefore they might have something you want and you are not 'entitled' to it just because she is dating you or even living with you.




Women can absolutely be as excited about sex as men are.

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Sun 01/20/13 09:09 AM

I've read in this forum a number of times that women decide whether or not they want to have sex with a man within only a few seconds. If this is true, why would you want to put it off? Are you afraid he'll think poorly of you if you have sex too soon? That he won't respect you? Or is it some kind of power play/head game?


Personally, I would like to see how compatible we are at that level too as soon as possible because I have invested time into bad lovers before and it was wasted time.

But if he shows misogynistic ideology at all then I won't even go there with him. If he believes women can be sluts and hos, then I won 't give him the chance to place me in the catagory.

But it is not a head game ever with me. I am acting on what is happening between us.

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Sun 01/20/13 09:11 AM



But men should realize that women are not as excited about sex as you are and you are not doing them a favor providing your sexual services no matter how good you think you are, therefore they might have something you want and you are not 'entitled' to it just because she is dating you or even living with you.




Women can absolutely be as excited about sex as men are.


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Sun 01/20/13 09:43 AM
Edited by Jeanniebean on Sun 01/20/13 09:53 AM



But men should realize that women are not as excited about sex as you are and you are not doing them a favor providing your sexual services no matter how good you think you are, therefore they might have something you want and you are not 'entitled' to it just because she is dating you or even living with you.




Women can absolutely be as excited about sex as men are.


Women "can" be excited about sex, but in general, never as much as men.

There are always exceptions I'm sure. Men are driven. That is how they were designed, even in the animal kingdom. It is said that men think about sex every 15 minutes. I doubt women are that driven. I just don't see it. If they were, they would all be complete sluts or they would be selling it on the street.

A woman obsessed with sex as much as any average male would be called a sex addict.





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Sun 01/20/13 09:50 AM




But men should realize that women are not as excited about sex as you are and you are not doing them a favor providing your sexual services no matter how good you think you are, therefore they might have something you want and you are not 'entitled' to it just because she is dating you or even living with you.




Women can absolutely be as excited about sex as men are.


Women "can" be excited about sex, but in general, never as much as men.

How would you even know. You are a woman. Pay more attention. If women were as excited and obsesses with sex as an average male, they would be sluts.

There are always exceptions I'm sure. Men are driven. That is how they were designed, even in the animal kingdom. It is said that men think about sex every 15 minutes. I doubt women are that driven. I just don't see it. If they were, they would all be complete sluts or they would be selling it on the street.

A woman obsessed with sex as much as any average male would be called a sex addict.






I can only speak for myself, but if the sex is good, I'm going to be just as excited as the guy for it.

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Sun 01/20/13 09:50 AM
Edited by navygirl on Sun 01/20/13 09:56 AM
I think despite that it is 2013; men still think if a woman has sex with them on the first date; then she is easy and nothing more than a tramp and this isn't the kind of girl he wants to see again. It may be me but I know just by talking and being in the presence of a man if I have chemistry with him and certainly don't need to sleep with him to know if there is chemistry. I guess bottom line is what are you are looking for in that person. If you are just horny and want sex; then I say go for it on the first date but just keep in mind that there is a possibility that he won't call you again or have anything more to do with you. Mind you there is no guarantee that even if you wait for sex that it won't happen as well. I guess no matter what you take a risk but hopefully this risk won't result in someone abusing you, raping you, or robbing you.

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Sun 01/20/13 09:51 AM





But men should realize that women are not as excited about sex as you are and you are not doing them a favor providing your sexual services no matter how good you think you are, therefore they might have something you want and you are not 'entitled' to it just because she is dating you or even living with you.




Women can absolutely be as excited about sex as men are.


Women "can" be excited about sex, but in general, never as much as men.

How would you even know. You are a woman. Pay more attention. If women were as excited and obsesses with sex as an average male, they would be sluts.

There are always exceptions I'm sure. Men are driven. That is how they were designed, even in the animal kingdom. It is said that men think about sex every 15 minutes. I doubt women are that driven. I just don't see it. If they were, they would all be complete sluts or they would be selling it on the street.

A woman obsessed with sex as much as any average male would be called a sex addict.






I can only speak for myself, but if the sex is good, I'm going to be just as excited as the guy for it.



There is the proof. A man will get excited even if the sex is not so good. LOL


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Sun 01/20/13 09:52 AM

I think despite that it is 2013; men still think if a woman has sex with them on the first date; then she is easy and nothing more than a tramp and this isn't the kind of girl he wants to see again. It may be me but I know just by talking and being in the presence of a man if I have chemistry with him and certainly don't need to sleep with him to know if there is chemistry. I guess bottom line is what are you are looking for in that person. If you are just horny and want sex; then I say go for it on the first date but just keep in mind that there is a damn good possibility that he won't call you again or have anything more to do with you.




Until the next time he gets horny... LOL and that could be soon.


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Sun 01/20/13 09:57 AM


I think despite that it is 2013; men still think if a woman has sex with them on the first date; then she is easy and nothing more than a tramp and this isn't the kind of girl he wants to see again. It may be me but I know just by talking and being in the presence of a man if I have chemistry with him and certainly don't need to sleep with him to know if there is chemistry. I guess bottom line is what are you are looking for in that person. If you are just horny and want sex; then I say go for it on the first date but just keep in mind that there is a damn good possibility that he won't call you again or have anything more to do with you.



Until the next time he gets horny... LOL and that could be soon.



Yep; unless he finds someone younger and hotter; then you are history. laugh


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Sun 01/20/13 11:03 AM



I think despite that it is 2013; men still think if a woman has sex with them on the first date; then she is easy and nothing more than a tramp and this isn't the kind of girl he wants to see again. It may be me but I know just by talking and being in the presence of a man if I have chemistry with him and certainly don't need to sleep with him to know if there is chemistry. I guess bottom line is what are you are looking for in that person. If you are just horny and want sex; then I say go for it on the first date but just keep in mind that there is a damn good possibility that he won't call you again or have anything more to do with you.



Until the next time he gets horny... LOL and that could be soon.



Yep; unless he finds someone younger and hotter; then you are history. laugh




true. :tongue:

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Sun 01/20/13 11:17 AM






But men should realize that women are not as excited about sex as you are and you are not doing them a favor providing your sexual services no matter how good you think you are, therefore they might have something you want and you are not 'entitled' to it just because she is dating you or even living with you.




Women can absolutely be as excited about sex as men are.


Women "can" be excited about sex, but in general, never as much as men.

How would you even know. You are a woman. Pay more attention. If women were as excited and obsesses with sex as an average male, they would be sluts.

There are always exceptions I'm sure. Men are driven. That is how they were designed, even in the animal kingdom. It is said that men think about sex every 15 minutes. I doubt women are that driven. I just don't see it. If they were, they would all be complete sluts or they would be selling it on the street.

A woman obsessed with sex as much as any average male would be called a sex addict.






I can only speak for myself, but if the sex is good, I'm going to be just as excited as the guy for it.



There is the proof. A man will get excited even if the sex is not so good. LOL




My point was that some women can and do get as excited as men about sex. If you don't, that's cool. If other women don't enjoy sex as much, that's fine. But, some women do enjoy sex quite a bit. There's nothing wrong with it.

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Sun 01/20/13 11:20 AM



My point was that some women can and do get as excited as men about sex. If you don't, that's cool. If other women don't enjoy sex as much, that's fine. But, some women do enjoy sex quite a bit. There's nothing wrong with it.



This is why I don't put a woman down if she has sex on first date, she is, after all, a human. I don't put males down for having sex on a first date either. Just be sure something is there or pass on the opportunity if you get it.

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Sun 01/20/13 11:20 AM







But men should realize that women are not as excited about sex as you are and you are not doing them a favor providing your sexual services no matter how good you think you are, therefore they might have something you want and you are not 'entitled' to it just because she is dating you or even living with you.




Women can absolutely be as excited about sex as men are.


Women "can" be excited about sex, but in general, never as much as men.

How would you even know. You are a woman. Pay more attention. If women were as excited and obsesses with sex as an average male, they would be sluts.

There are always exceptions I'm sure. Men are driven. That is how they were designed, even in the animal kingdom. It is said that men think about sex every 15 minutes. I doubt women are that driven. I just don't see it. If they were, they would all be complete sluts or they would be selling it on the street.

A woman obsessed with sex as much as any average male would be called a sex addict.



I can only speak for myself, but if the sex is good, I'm going to be just as excited as the guy for it.



There is the proof. A man will get excited even if the sex is not so good. LOL




My point was that some women can and do get as excited as men about sex. If you don't, that's cool. If other women don't enjoy sex as much, that's fine. But, some women do enjoy sex quite a bit. There's nothing wrong with it.


I never implied that there was anything wrong with getting excited about sex, or that women don't get excited. My statement is a general one. There are exceptions in any case, man or woman.


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Sun 01/20/13 11:23 AM



I never implied that there was anything wrong with getting excited about sex, or that women don't get excited. My statement is a general one. There are exceptions in any case, man or woman.





I don't think women getting excited about sex are exceptions.

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Sun 01/20/13 12:55 PM
There are plenty women that are excited about "sex" as most men are.

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Sun 01/20/13 01:02 PM
Okay, here's what I've picked up from this thread. Once a woman decides she wants sex, she may hold off for one of several valid reason. Or she may hold off as some kind of head game or power play.

But, all this stuff about getting to know him better really means YOU HAVEN'T REALLY DECIDED YET. This is, of course, valid reason.

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Sun 01/20/13 04:24 PM
This has been an interesting topic to read.. it seems like if 2 people click, then they click and if they don't, then they don't.. I think it all depends on what each of them are looking for.. once things move to the next level then there might be more expected.. going on a date is a great chance to learn more about someone else and see if there is anything they have in common.. it might take a couple of dates to see if there is something there.. some might be only looking for a friendship and others might be looking for a new relationship, so it still comes to what the person is looking for..

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Sun 01/20/13 09:06 PM
My opinion is sex on the first date is nothing but sex. An empty exchange of body fluids and lust. Never should be where to start. A lot of people dont realize they dumb down the most magical form of intimacy by just using people for sex. It was meant to be a sacred act of love. A bonding, fulfillment, comfort, security... all missing when sex is all youre having. Might as well have solo sex with an oraphis... no feelings needed.

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Sun 01/20/13 09:09 PM

My opinion is sex on the first date is nothing but sex. An empty exchange of body fluids and lust. Never should be where to start. A lot of people dont realize they dumb down the most magical form of intimacy by just using people for sex. It was meant to be a sacred act of love. A bonding, fulfillment, comfort, security... all missing when sex is all youre having. Might as well have solo sex with an oraphis... no feelings needed.



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Sun 01/20/13 09:45 PM

Okay, here's what I've picked up from this thread. Once a woman decides she wants sex, she may hold off for one of several valid reason. Or she may hold off as some kind of head game or power play.

But, all this stuff about getting to know him better really means YOU HAVEN'T REALLY DECIDED YET. This is, of course, valid reason.



Its not rocket science. A woman knows within a few minutes if there is chemistry, but that does not mean she will say yes.