So your waitress is hot. She's wearing tight jeans that make her butt look awesome! She's sweet, has a nice smile, keeps your water glass full, asks you what you guys are doing later... you want to ask her out. Bad! :-)

I think it's tacky to ask out your waitress/bartender. It's almost like you're cornering them because they're at work and can't leave if they're uncomfortable. Not to mention that you don't know how much of their behavior is just them working. It's hard though, 'cause some or them look real good and have cute accents...

So what does everybody think? Should you ask out the waitress? Leave your number on a napkin? I'd definitely like to hear what waitresses/bartenders think.

ask someone else who works there what time she gets off and wait for in the parking lot.......or find out where she hangs and be there..... hummmm not really sure

Write them a polite note expressing your interest, ask when things are slow there & if it was alright for you to be there then ,so yu could chat, during their work hrs. Then go back at the appointed time & chat. This gives them a chance to get to know you without divulging their personal info. at the beginning. I have gotten to know a few wait/staff using manners.

if your interested go for it nothing to lose why hold back? lol ~Alanna

LOL Whatever you decide is cool, just don't take her out to where she works for your first date! LOL That would suck

OMG, just go to the place she works a few times have a little converatiton. Then open your mouth and say hey would you like to go out to dinner or movie ect some time then hand her your number tell her to think about it no pressure that you will come back in a few days after she has time to think about it and see maybe if she would like to or not.

Humm at least that is how I would rather it happen I bartended for 10 years and the next 10 was a waitress.

But if she says no respect it and don't ask why.

"ask someone else who works there what time she gets off and wait for in the parking lot.......or find out where she hangs and be there..... hummmm not really sure"

That kinda sounds Stakerish

Oldsage has the right idea, that way she can see that you have respect for her and that you are polite and not some crazy guy.

Stalkerish...need Edit Button LOL

i agree...do not wait for her in the parking lot! You'll just make her think your crazy...leave her a nice tip, and a note saying you'd like to talk to her sometime, leave your number or email address. simple :) good luck

Txs, nice new pic.

YES RANDOMX IT DOES Some advise you were starting to give .Yah...wait for her in the parking lot?ok then what whn she says were you waiting for me in the lot what are you stalking me ? EXACTLY ...not the right thing to do.Ask someone at her work? ....depends some women think thats creepy too Not really sure about how to ask a women out period anymore actually. But,if I were in that situation that I thought my waitress was "HOT" <<<oh yah they don't like being called that either...... whatever lolol.Anyway I would ask her for her phone number and say somthn like not to disturb you at work but,would like to get to know you a little better .So can I give you a call sometime and chat when your not at work?

i waitress at a resturant on the weekends and ive actually had a few guys leave a number on napkin.. i personally think its cute... but the only problem with that is if the waiter/waitress isnt the one clearing off the table... they may never get it... i suggest maybe asking what time they get oof work... maybe you can meet up later and do somthing... if the person is interested then they probably wont decline :)

And by the way a" note "says you have not got enopugh guts to ask yourself....

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Maybe, but it also means, "i didnt want to put you on the spot while you're working." I waitressed, and i think that and some polite conversation is the way to go...if you leave the note with the tip, better chance of her getting it.

Forgot, if you use the note thing. Hand it to her with the tip, makes sure they get it.

the other thing is if someone else gets that number... you might have some one else calling you... or whoever picked it up might start a scene that might embarras the person that it was intended for

You could also say it in a way where it didnt put her on the spot anyway.It all depends on how good with words you are.I am a salesman so I pretty much know how to read a person. Except when to ask out a women Sad isnt it ?
I can sell a $200,000.00 house but have a hard time asking out a women lolol .
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don't rush her just go in to eat or drink when she is working, let her get to know you first, always be polite she will remember you after a few visits. Just ask if it would be ok to talk to her during break time or after work, if she says yes good you have made the right impression, if she says no, then by all means respect that it is her decesion, for all you know she may have a B.F. or S.O. so never get pushy, take my word for it regardless of how you handle the situation the other employees will soon hear about it. (*_*)