I did not say or imply that all people who have an age preference are shallow, I was referring to someone already dating, breaking it off because of age difference.
We are talking about a particular instance, I understand your comment on preference, but the woman in my opinion is shallow, superficial. To date someone their must be an attraction and the hope it will lead to something more serious, at least that is the reason I go on a date. In which case, if I was dating someone it would have to be something fairly serious to cause me to break it off, a lot more than age difference.However, let's say she had age preferences. The lady cannot have been truly interested in developing a serious relationship, if so, when you are attracted to someone in the first instance it is usually appearance, the guys appearance did not change when she learnt of his age, he did not change, he was the same guy. What then was the attraction? Did she think he was a young man? Seems to me she is bally clueless to what she does want.

My problem doesn't lay with age, it lays with how my life is. People are really SHALLOW these days, and society in itself is really sad because of it.

Then I must be shallow too as I would break off a relationship as well for an age difference. Attraction is only one small portion of a relationship. If you aren't comfortable with an age gap; I don't see that being a big deal. I have had guys break up with me because I am too independent, I served in the military,I have never been married, never had any kids or pets, don't have a university degree, or because I am not religious. They were attracted to me enough to date and start a relationship but broke it off when they found out these things. I hold nothing against these men personally and I don't think they are shallow; it was just their preference. Maybe in this relationship; she may have used the age excuse to spare the guy's feelings as there could have been other issues. It would be nice to get her side of the story as it seems one sided by the Op at this point.

Pretty much no woman has any interest in me anymore. I listen to nothing but metal music, I'm a gamer, I'm on disability, I don't work, I don't have a car, yes I did go to college but I never go to finish, it seems too much for anyone to deal with. Needless to say, I'm starting to talk myself into believing I'll be alone forever, I'm getting there.

You know I do have a car, a home, get out all the time, work a full time job, have good health, etc but you know it makes no difference to the guys here. I know I will never meet anyone as guys just simply aren't interested in me. So, just know you aren't the only one that feels that way.

I agree with Navygirl. Having an age preference is not shallow. The guy should have been upfront about his age in the beginning. If the age difference made the woman uncomfortable, she had every right to stop dating him. You may think age doesn't mean anything, but many people do.

Perhaps she goes for something more than appearance. He may still have looked the same, but knowing he was much older than she thought made things quite different, I'm sure.

Your chances though of you meeting someone to be with odds wise vs. me is probably a million to one. On some other dating site, you'd be surprised (and I've never once talked to these people), how much hate mail I get, it's unreal. Probably the biggest turn-offs are the metal music, I'm on disability, and I can't do out everywhere as one of my disorders is severe social anxiety.

I am saying that it appears the only reason was age difference, when the guy remained the same guy, by personality and appearance. If I was in a serious relationship with someone it would take a lot more for me to break it off, none of us are perfect, and I would accept things as a compromise. I am not inferring you or anyone with age preferences are shallow.

You're also one of those age is just a number kind of people. You have to remember that not everyone thinks that way. To me, a big age difference is a big deal. Even if I got along wonderfully with someone who was much older, soon after it would be clear that we're in different places in life. It's also likely we'll enjoy different interests. I expect someone to be upfront about their age in the beginning. If they lie or hold that info back in the beginning and tell me something different later on, of course I'm going to break it off with them.

The lady should have enquired at first about his age if she places such importance on it.
I have commented on what I think of her, based on my opinion of her actions.
I am not saying all people who have an age preference are shallow

We do not have all the information, but the lady should have enquired about his age if she places such importance on it.

I have commented on what I think of her, based on my opinion of her actions.

I am not saying all people who have an age preference are shallow, I do not see age as a barrier, but I respect the views of those that do.

You are correct. We do not have all the information. I just find it strange that he didn't make his age known for whatever reason in the beginning. And all I can say is if I found out later on a guy was older than I thought, I'd be wondering why he hadn't been honest.

I do understand where you are coming from. I have been on a lot of other dating sites but actually no one ever contacts me which is probably better than getting hate mail.

I recently dated a 21 yr old and I am 50. Neither one of us intended for it to happen, but it did. I fell hard. it was great. then something changed. Seems like someone may have helped her change her mind. Hard to get over. It would be easier to settle for someone but I couldn't be happy without love so I remain single. I am not sure why I have such an attraction to younger girls. They seem so less poluted. Less hangups. Purer love. I am young for my age and I think that helps.

Do you think someone actually helped her change her mind? Could it be she may have been questioning the relationship and maybe asked her friends what they thought? Maybe; her friends were looking out for her best interest. There could have been the concern that you may develop health issues as you age, or maybe she wanted marriage and kids with a dad that wouldn't be thought of us a grandfather. Or maybe they thought you were just using her for sex. I am not trying to be mean but rather I am taking a more logical approach. As for hangups with older women; let me tell you its not just the women that have hangups as I have met my share of bitter divorced men. I think we can kid ourselves all we want about being young for our age but that doesn't make us younger which I think is the reason older people are attracted to a younger person. They think that younger person will keep them young. Personally; I would rather be with someone that can age gracefully and stay active rather than date someone far younger but however to each his/her own. We have one life and we need to live it the way we see fit.

That is a huge age difference. You were old enough to be her father. Perhaps that was enough for her to start feeling differently. Also, you're probably at very different places in life.

If she remembers seeing Gone With The Wind during it's original theatrical run, that's too old for me.

Just an update, the younger woman and I had are first date together and had a lot of fun together, we have found that we share a lot of the same interest, I must admit that most woman I date are younger then myself, but that is only because I am a very active person for my age, most woman around my own age don't usually like to the things that I enjoy, and as far as the younger woman we are now planning our next date together and we talk almost everyday together since our date.

Yeah; I can understand where you are coming from about being active. Not many men my age can cycle 40 to 50 kms with me; walk 20 kms,or stay up much past 10 or get up before 10 in the morning. I stay up very late and get up very early just to work out.

For me I intend to stay some where around my age. But my ex bf of 10yrs was 17yrs older then me an the last guy i dated was 5 yrs younger then me. But then again if it happens it happens. Don't know if i could date any one at least over 10yrs older then me again.