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Topic: How Old Is too Old
Fixingme Joined Thu 06/07/12 Posts: 21	Mon 09/03/12 08:40 PM
I don.t know about others but I have always been so active and agile and at 57 I still outwork the younger guys. I was a roofer most of my life and maybe that is what kept me young on the inside. I have dated many older women and they just don't seem to want to do the active things I enjoy. I have always felt more at ease with younger women. They tend to be more playful and have treated me like I was their age. I refuse to act my age. I like having fun and I keep up with the younger ones. To each their own.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/03/12 08:50 PM
I'd consider dating someone 7 years older than me, but I prefer men closer to my age or a bit younger.

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Tue 09/04/12 01:44 PM
I don.t know about others but I have always been so active and agile and at 57 I still outwork the younger guys. I was a roofer most of my life and maybe that is what kept me young on the inside. I have dated many older women and they just don't seem to want to do the active things I enjoy. I have always felt more at ease with younger women. They tend to be more playful and have treated me like I was their age. I refuse to act my age. I like having fun and I keep up with the younger ones. To each their own. I can relate...I'm 63 now and I walk all the time. And I love to dance the night away! (Night after night if possible!)...Plus I lift and carry heavy boxes when need be and climb and hike and do most everything. I don't think in terms of being "old" and "frail" now...But most of the people I know who are my age (or close to my age) definitely limit and restrict their activities and don't "attempt much" anymore..My husband was 6 (plus) years older than me and he took pride in being limber and active too. He still cooked and vacuumed and cleaned the cats' litter boxes and walked and danced right up until the day he died. (From pancreatic cancer.)

dconexion Joined Tue 06/08/10 Posts: 168	Tue 09/04/12 07:37 PM
How about 32 years difference me 26 her 59 when we met

boredinaz06 Joined Sun 10/15/06 Posts: 22764	Tue 09/04/12 07:54 PM
Too old is simply when the age of your partner makes you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable to be seen in public with her.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Tue 09/04/12 08:27 PM
I don't get why some think that dating younger people is only a man thing. It so isn't. Too old for me, would be anyone who'd already fullfilled their own life experiences. I still need to pretty much explore mine.

newg78 Joined Thu 03/01/07 Posts: 3672	Wed 09/05/12 12:30 AM
While most people refuse to be recognized as "old", consider this: AGE is just a number, and YOUNG is an attitude! Who cares! I am dating a man I met here 5 months ago, and he is 9 years older than I am but we have the same common grounds - genuine love and trust, that make the LDR real, plus he's got the best sense of humor ever! - I am very happy

BUSHTRUK Joined Wed 09/05/12 Posts: 2	Wed 09/05/12 06:17 AM Edited by BUSHTRUK on Wed 09/05/12 06:18 AM
I am a man 40 years, i will date and marry a woman of 50 years if i found one,what matters to me is true love not age

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 09/05/12 08:34 AM
I don.t know about others but I have always been so active and agile and at 57 I still outwork the younger guys. I was a roofer most of my life and maybe that is what kept me young on the inside. I have dated many older women and they just don't seem to want to do the active things I enjoy. I have always felt more at ease with younger women. They tend to be more playful and have treated me like I was their age. I refuse to act my age. I like having fun and I keep up with the younger ones. To each their own. Hmm, that seems to be my problem too. I outwork the younger guys and more active than the older guys. So, no point dating an inactive younger man when it would be the same as dating an inactive older guy.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4738	Wed 09/05/12 12:56 PM
Would you date a man more then 7 years older then you, I ask this because recently a woman I had met felt I was too old for her, even though there was only an 8yr gap in our ages, she didn't realize my age at the time we met, most people think I am about 7 or 8 years younger then I look. I have just recently came out of a relationship where I was 12yrs older then my former girlfriend, what difference does age really make if you have a lot in common with each other, I have also dated woman older then myself, so it's not one sided with me, when I was only 29 I dated a fantastic woman of 39, we had a really great time together. For her to date you, then leave you when she learnt of your age, shows her for what she is, shallow, better it happened now rather than later. My thoughts are that age is no barrier, it's the people involved in the relationship that decide what is best for them.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 09/05/12 01:40 PM
Would you date a man more then 7 years older then you, I ask this because recently a woman I had met felt I was too old for her, even though there was only an 8yr gap in our ages, she didn't realize my age at the time we met, most people think I am about 7 or 8 years younger then I look. I have just recently came out of a relationship where I was 12yrs older then my former girlfriend, what difference does age really make if you have a lot in common with each other, I have also dated woman older then myself, so it's not one sided with me, when I was only 29 I dated a fantastic woman of 39, we had a really great time together. For her to date you, then leave you when she learnt of your age, shows her for what she is, shallow, better it happened now rather than later. My thoughts are that age is no barrier, it's the people involved in the relationship that decide what is best for them. I don't think the woman is shallow; it was probably just her preference to not date someone that much younger. Not everyone is comfortable dating someone younger than them but that doesn't make them shallow.

SilentlyScreaming Joined Mon 09/10/07 Posts: 10681	Wed 09/05/12 05:56 PM
Its all about preferences. Sometimes age can make a relationship a little more difficult, especially if you really care about what other people have to say about it. My boyfriend is 11 years older than I am, but we never even think about it. We get along well, and i don't have a child mentality and he doesn't have an "old man" mentality, so its fine. But his mother hates me and thinks i'm using him because i'm so much younger. . . all a matter of opinion and whether or not you care what others think about things...

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 09/05/12 07:10 PM
Its all about preferences. Sometimes age can make a relationship a little more difficult, especially if you really care about what other people have to say about it. My boyfriend is 11 years older than I am, but we never even think about it. We get along well, and i don't have a child mentality and he doesn't have an "old man" mentality, so its fine. But his mother hates me and thinks i'm using him because i'm so much younger. . . all a matter of opinion and whether or not you care what others think about things... u go girl! the only opinions that matter are yours and his!

rambill79 Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 5780	Wed 09/05/12 07:22 PM
too old is when inhave to change her diaper during our first date. lol. my best relationshipwas with someone 20 yrs younger than me..

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Wed 09/05/12 10:56 PM
Getting durn hard to find a man that much older than me. The ones that are, mostly they can't remember their own names, let alone if they're married or not.

newg78 Joined Thu 03/01/07 Posts: 3672	Wed 09/05/12 11:09 PM
I only think one thing: People who talk against "age gap" are simply JEALOUS, and that's a fact.

hopscotch1234 Joined Wed 09/05/12 Posts: 12	Thu 09/06/12 05:22 AM
I just dated a 21 year old and things were very very nice until someone talked to her and changed her mind. Broke my heart. I think often it would be easier to date someone my own age but they just don't give me any sparks inside. I like the outlook of younger girls better. Not as much baggage. But it can be a difficult road to trave.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Thu 09/06/12 05:42 AM
If he is close to almost moving to a nusing home, I'm not so sure I'd want that type of life. It would be a bit much for me.

wwebabe1 Joined Sun 09/02/12 Posts: 17	Thu 09/06/12 05:42 AM
You will find different perspectives everywhere. If it matters to her, move on. If it doesnt to the next one, great. Remember its not a question of 'right or wrong'. Its just preferences formed by life experiences, so none of us will bring the same thing to the table. Oh. As for the title question, that will be different for everyone too. For me, if youre old enough to be my child or parent, the energy will likely be off for me. Well said! I agree my opinion if too close to my oldest child or my parents it just feels weird. I personally will go no more than 10 years younger or older.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Thu 09/06/12 05:42 AM
If he is close to almost moving to a nursing home, I'm not so sure I'd want that type of life. It would be a bit much for me.