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I agree with that too. My experience is when there is a decided age difference the person wants something they think their peer age groupe will not provide.
Much younger guys are looking for a Mother figure to spoil, raise them, or provide the family they never had. They want the financial incentives or external controls because they can earn money but not manage it. Or have the body but little else. Occassionally it is getting stuck with a kid they haven't a clue how to raise. Much older guys are looking for a nurse or a purse or someone who will look the other way when they can't or don't want to get it up any more. They have been abandoned or played the field so long that their peers have passed them over and they resort to useing their shared resources to try to attract younger women who think they can't compete with peer age women. Some have "second" families that they have been abandoned with by wives, lovers, and ageing parents of their own. Or they have ageing parents that they want help careing for so they can continue to be Peter Pan livng in Mommy's house while the wife caregives for everyone. Some are just hoping to ward off adult children because they think they can control and outsmart a wife easier. |
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I can completely understand where you two are coming from, I think it is a hard gamble but in my opinion if there is a real connection its worth it. I dated the last girl i was with for 7 years ( i know I'm not that old) But since coming out of that i have tried to date and now have only had any luck with people older than me. Most people my age are floating in and our of bars with no real plan of what they want from life i personally hate that. Been working in the family business all my life and all i want to do is watch it grow and create a life with someone who had the same ideal and hopes for children. I had a great mom and she did her job well, Wouldn't ever want to be "taken" care of, a person taking care of themselves is a lot more attractive than dependance. It could only work with someone who is a good debater and has similar interests. And as you were saying before Navygirl, some girl with a "perfect body" My ex was not a walking supermodel, her body was perfect for one very simple reason, because she was the person I loved. Walking off for another woman will happen at any age, they're are just crappy people out there. Not saying through out all of this that i have my eyes set on an exact age group of women but sometimes that funny little spark can happen with anyone. I just think it would be sad to deny any possibility in this world
"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." -Thomas Edison just my O :) |
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there are some good thoughts here theron. if someone insists they are 100% right in the negative - that it can't happen - or others motives are always bad -then it won't happen and bad motives are what will be found.
I think it is smart to be wary of someone's motives but I can't imagine completely closing the door on chances....we get far too few chances in life there may be 100 younger men who are insincere or users - but it only takes one who has genuine love to give - don't care about the others 1 man is enough work  and I say younger because we were addressing an older woman scenario but what I have said applies to all ages - don't think people ones own age can't be users or not - age has little to do with that - just my .02 |
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8 years is nothing, if you both like each other than age is not relevant, as long as it upholds within legal standards. Too old for me is someone wearing depends or heart attack/stroke age.
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8 years is nothing, if you both like each other than age is not relevant, as long as it upholds within legal standards. Too old for me is someone wearing depends or heart attack/stroke age.  Darn I guess that leaves me out.
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I personally would dare someone
older but not younger ,Its personality prefferences and as long as the both hit it off personality wise and get along and both happy and not using the other as one lady said. I think age isnt a factor but me i wouldtn date anyone younger then me |
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Edited by
ShugahBee
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Sun 09/09/12 09:06 PM
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sorry double post .
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Edited by
navygirl
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Sun 09/09/12 09:15 PM
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there are some good thoughts here theron. if someone insists they are 100% right in the negative - that it can't happen - or others motives are always bad -then it won't happen and bad motives are what will be found. I think it is smart to be wary of someone's motives but I can't imagine completely closing the door on chances....we get far too few chances in life there may be 100 younger men who are insincere or users - but it only takes one who has genuine love to give - don't care about the others 1 man is enough work and I say younger because we were addressing an older woman scenario but what I have said applies to all ages - don't think people ones own age can't be users or not - age has little to do with that - just my .02 You are right that we get so few chances in life but some things just aren't worth the risk. As I said I go on gut instinct and have met lots of young men that were interested me but my instincts say not to trust guys. I also will push away a guy my age when my instincts kick in. I think we were given these instincts for a reason and perhaps my instincts are better tuned. I tried to ignore them to give a guy a chance and almost lost my life because of that. Life is too short to take reckless risks. |
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8 years is nothing, if you both like each other than age is not relevant, as long as it upholds within legal standards. Too old for me is someone wearing depends or heart attack/stroke age. So true. I have the 10 year rule as I have a nephew that is 10 years younger than me. I couldn't date someone younger than my nephew. I would feel like his aunty or mommy.
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If the attraction is there, go for it.
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If the attraction is there, go for it. Absolutely! There are no rule books on attraction. AND, attraction doesn't always have to deal with looks. I also don't buy the age gap thing. Age gap is a two way street and if a person who is older can't relate to the younger culture or the opposite than sure don't see each other, but I find open minded people don't age, and are born with a wisdom that transcends generations. Now on to something important I need your help with people! My dog has fallen asleep on my foot and I'm starting to loose blood flow. |
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personally,i wouldnt let age gap stop me from making that special person happy..its just silly rules that people made up..and . Mig..IM ALREADY THERE...HANG ON! LOL!
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Thanks, cutting the leg off is not an option though.
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La La La La La...
be young forever... its matter of heart and thought. just say urself 'I m the best" |
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Would you date a man more then 7 years older then you, I ask this because recently a woman I had met felt I was too old for her, even though there was only an 8yr gap in our ages, she didn't realize my age at the time we met, most people think I am about 7 or 8 years younger then I look. I have just recently came out of a relationship where I was 12yrs older then my former girlfriend, what difference does age really make if you have a lot in common with each other, I have also dated woman older then myself, so it's not one sided with me, when I was only 29 I dated a fantastic woman of 39, we had a really great time together. too old is being dead 
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when it comes to love,age is nothing but numbers.love looks beyond physical appearance.
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If the attraction is there, go for it. That's just it, though, age will still be a factor. I'm just not going to be attracted to men who are a lot older than me. And while men who are quite a bit younger may be attractive, they may not be mature enough. Of course it depends on the person, but age will always be a factor. |
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To me age it just a number we have attached to us from the very beginning. It starts with hours, then days, then weeks, then months, and eventually years. This number that we carry does not define who we are. I have met my share of younger and older men, some of the older men are less mature than the younger men. For me what matters is maturity, personality, compatability, and physical attraction. I believe it is possible for the person you truly connect with to be much older, or younger.
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I will date from 40 (1 year younger than me) to 57 (16 years older than me). I don't know why I picked those magic numbers. I just did.
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If the attraction is there, go for it. That's just it, though, age will still be a factor. I'm just not going to be attracted to men who are a lot older than me. And while men who are quite a bit younger may be attractive, they may not be mature enough. Of course it depends on the person, but age will always be a factor. Totally agree; I have never been attracted to a much younger man like say in his 30s. I think that boy is young enough to be my son and I find it creepy to date that young. When going out; I don't want people to say how nice it is that you are taking your mom out for dinner. Its laughable at best and I am not going to pretend that age doesn't matter just to go with the flow so to speak. I am 52 and dating a younger man simply is not going to make me feel younger. I don't kid myself that age is just a number. I for one am not in denial that I am aging and accept it for what it is.
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