hello. it was, when i was younger considered good to wait for the right person to lose your virginity to. a special event. virginity was something to be cherished, a sign of innocence.
is it in this modern era that the overall view of virginity has lost value among people?
no one appears to care when they lose there virginity these days and it seems to be a growing thought that cherishing virginity is old-fashioned.
it may be that people feel that they are missing out on life. that everyone is in the 'cool' group- so to speak- and your not. i personally feel that, that feeling of isolation is constant and that everyone feels lonely, lost and scared sometimes in the world. i digress.
is virginity still valued?

it never ends. you sit to pee or train yourself to put the seat down after every use, doesn't matter

in the end you will be accused of loading the tp to unwind from the top when she has already told you several times it has to unwind from the bottom (change the holder to vertical and now it becomes you loaded it right and it has to be left). then there is the use of the salad fork to eat ice cream with, or not looking directly into their eyes while they are telling you about their day (men being incapable of multitasking but women can apply makeup, talk to their mother and text their sister on the same cell phone at the same time, watch the children in the back seat, tune the radio, signal to change three lanes of traffic in front of a semi truck, while thinking of what you did to piss her off twenty three years ago)

but dagnabit you just gotta love 'em

(note: this post is an attempt at humor. i may be the only one who finds it funny)

Red flags, possible scammer. "Google" her screen name, email address, IM ids, any info. she has given you to see if she is a known scammer. Even if nothing comes up, she may still be a scammer, just use common sense and trust your gut.

Doesn't that tell you something about the mindset of this young girl? If she can't make her own mind without mom's influence; then it sounds like she is very immature. You are better off with out her personally. I have no doubt the odd relationship regarding age gap does work but its not the norm. I am in good health for my age but as we age; the health risks run higher. So what happens when my health fails with a younger man. Does he give up his life just to be a care giver for me? Or does he just toss me in a home? These things run through my mind. How about if he wants kids but I can't give him kids? Or that fact that you may not have the energy to care for the child? Or worse yet; you die and leave that young person alone to be a single parent? As we age; most of us are prepared for death and really don't fear it. How do you explain this to a younger person that has 30 years more than you to live. I would also wonder if that younger person truly is going to be faithful to me as goodness knows a younger woman that is beautiful and has the perfect body is going to turn his head faster than I can. What if he is just using me for sex; or a chance to clean out my bank account? I think of all the sceanarios like this and it turns me right off on the idea of dating someone way younger than me.

Do you think someone actually helped her change her mind? Could it be she may have been questioning the relationship and maybe asked her friends what they thought? Maybe; her friends were looking out for her best interest. There could have been the concern that you may develop health issues as you age, or maybe she wanted marriage and kids with a dad that wouldn't be thought of us a grandfather. Or maybe they thought you were just using her for sex. I am not trying to be mean but rather I am taking a more logical approach. As for hangups with older women; let me tell you its not just the women that have hangups as I have met my share of bitter divorced men. I think we can kid ourselves all we want about being young for our age but that doesn't make us younger which I think is the reason older people are attracted to a younger person. They think that younger person will keep them young. Personally; I would rather be with someone that can age gracefully and stay active rather than date someone far younger but however to each his/her own. We have one life and we need to live it the way we see fit.