Do you think this is really essential in a good relationship? What if you really like someone on other levels but they have a different "sleep number"?

No idea. This is one of those cross those bridges when I get there questions. I mean, I'll not know their sleep habits for a very long time and will just know I like them.

Sleep isn't an important thing to me. When I can sleep, it's usually anywhere/way. I do have trouble sleeping at times though, but that's because of other things unrelated to bedding or anything like that.

I’m not sure what you mean by sleep number but what comes to my mind is snoring and being too close. I’m a light sleeper but I also know that habits can change. Ultimately no, I don’t think it’s essential because it’s one of those things that can be worked out in a good relationship. It’s a minor issue when it’s the right person.

Lol Lucky are those that can sleep easy.

I think I sleep better with a mate but then so out of practice I wonder. Do know I like a BIG bed so lots of room to spread out and play but like how mine is just right like the three bears. lol

Like the music of a nice even snore but I think if my mate had sleep problems it would drive me crazy. I feel sorry for folks who suffer that way. Sure no joke.

cleaning the room before sleeping, I always need a nice area to bed in

So, you're the type that would have trouble sleeping if your mate isn't sleeping with you? If I'm with someone like that, I would lay down with her until she fell asleep, if I couldn't sleep but she was tired.

At one point, I was living with my girlfriend and we lived on entirely different sleep schedules. My job forced me to be either awake, or at work at 5am, and she didn't get off of work till 2am usually. Problem was that she had issues on my days off if I didn't go to bed when she normally went to bed. (5-6am normally)

I personally find it to be an issue when I was dead beat tired at 7pm ready to go to bed knowing if I wanted to avoid an argument I had to force myself to stay awake for another 8 hours before she even thought about sleeping. :/

If and when I find someone else, I will have to apologize, but if we do have different work schedules, there will be no arguments or anger about different sleeping schedules. Gotta get the bills paid ya know?

It should be important. I know I am definitely difficult to sleep next to. I move soooo much. It was once described to me this way..

"Sleeping with you is like a wrestling match" .

I always have trouble falling asleep next to someone new. But, once I get used to them, I'm usually fine. Except if they snore... then if I don't fall asleep first, I'll never sleep.

I snore, I'm constantly jockeying for comfort and I'm a sheet hog.


3 strikes... so I usually end up sleeping on the floor I'm not sure what's worse, doing the above? or knowing I do the above? I stay awake sometimes thinking I'm cutting into her sleep time

My ex husband was a big snorer. Rattle the windows kind of snoring. When he started I would just pick up my pillow and go sleep on the couch. No biggie.

I need white noise to sleep. Usually a fan because I need air circulating too.

I'm pretty sure that a good relationship could survive sleeping differences. It certainly had nothing to do with my marriage ending.

I have to say that was a deal breaker for me. I like my own side of the bed and don't like someone cuddling up to me as I feel suffocated not to mention my arm or leg tend to fall asleep which is quite painful. I also don't like someone that tosses or snores. Now that being said; I am a tosser myself so I know it drives the other person crazy too.

I doesnt matter to me.

I cannot sleep alone, I hate it. i sleep tucked up next to my husband or cuddled up to a giant pink puppy dog.

I rarely move but if i have had a few hours sleep and wake up, thats it, I stay away and either read or jump on the computer.

If my man is snoring to loud, I roll him over and if that doesnt work I cuddle up next to him and read a book, thankfully he doesnt get grumpy or wake if I turn the light on.

If he goes to bed before me because he is working and I'm not, I just cuddle up and read, no big deal, I would just rather be near him than anywhere else, so we work it out.

And if I am tired and he isnt then I just fall asleep with my head on his lap and go to bed when he does. problems fixed.

Different "sleep numbers" can be resolved by a two things called - communication and accommodation.

If it is an issue talk about it. If the relationship is important there is always a Win/Win agreement that can be reached.

I have sleep apnea. Which means I sleep with a mask on. But it can always come off when it needs to.

It was hard getting used to sleeping alone, but I still don't like it,lol. Once I get used to sleeping with someone, the noises/movement/heat/etc., its hard to sleep without it.

I am the opposite way that it is hard to sleep with anyone. I can remember a few guys that I had to sleep in a seperate room because I just couldn't get a good night's sleep.

Apparently, I snore.....but, my woman rolls me onto my side and I stop breathing...problem solved.

Apparently, I talk in my sleep....alot....that one just creeps me out...cause no one has ever told me what I said ...just that I talk...alot.

Apparently, I fart. Sorry....ain't a damned thing I can do about it...If I was awake, I would have the common courtesy to blame the dog.

I wake myself up too early with a raging hard on that could jack up my car...anyone in the same bed just better expect it.

Are you sure your not related to my man

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