first off, i do not judge... but i do speak my mind...

what if you were browsing profiles and ran into one from your wife/husband? how would you react? how would you feel about that?

i get irritated when i see profiles stating married but looking for sex. wow! if things are that bad, i suggest either A) to try to work things out with your marriage. or B) end it! dont cheat, end things first then move on in the direction you choose.

id never tell someone to just end their marriage, but ive been on the other side of the fence and its not a pleasant or nice place to be.

Since she would only be here for friends, it wouldn't bother me at all.

Unless of course there was evidence of her being here for other reasons, then there would be a problem.

yes... seeking friends is a whole different thing. i guess i am more referring to those who are seeking dating/intimate encounter type of thing. i wont even respond to attempts from those. if it is a friendly email or comment, then sure i will. but i willnever take it in any other direction. its just not right. im not trying to say im a perfect person, but i am totally against the whole cheating thing. i know what it feels like to be cheated on... its not cool!

also when i was married/with someone in a committed relationship, i didnt really engage much in these sites and when i did, it was left clearly in the open so that there was no question. i never wanted to appear sneaky or i was hiding anything cuz i wasnt.

Why would a married person be here at all? There are other ways to socialize.

Because of the sincere friendships they
have made on this evolving social site.

Agree with Soufie......if I were married, I still made many friends I enjoy sharing with and speaking to.

Not sure if it is the same thing but...

Sooooo...one day I am innocently Googling "Huge Anal Dildos" and the second line down...there is my high school sweety....making money.

Yeah, she was married.

I doubt cheating means anything when the marriage it'self is a failure.

I'd check the bank account, clear the shared account and then confront them!! (not forgetting the spending spree on their cc )..

Truthfully, I'd be pretty shocked and hoped that they would have raised any concerns regarding the relationship with me and therfore act in a positive way to get things back to what they were.. its all about communication...

Also, along with others who remain in sites due to making great friends, there are those in 'open' relationships and its not an issue for them.. (though I'll never understand it myself)..

Be prepared to deal with this one bro...I will be friends with you and whatever bar slag you chose for your baby's mama. I am friendly enough to not consider the word skank.

It is easy to not understand strange marriages. What is harder is to try to understand. Any idiot can refuse to understand...I can respect that. When some idiot assumes that they know what a marriage should be.....I laugh like a lump of puppy crap is trying to lecture me.

This is fine. However, there are men who will see the category "Married" and read no further. They will figure she's here to play.

I have no idea if the OP gets propositions from men but this could be a huge flashing invite sign though not welcome.

I guess I've always had the opinion that married equals delete the account. Friends made can correspond in other ways, but that's just my opinion.

Staying away from even the "appearance" of evil.

That would put me in the same place as they were...browsing profiles. What could I say about that???

As a single person, however...I read the profiles and stay away from married men. But once I was fooled. "Divorced" is not the same as separated, no matter how much they try to justify it. I hope I've got a better filter now..

Hey I'm divorced seeking marriage (to the right woman).

How will I know she is right?

Haven't a clue, but it will just hit me.

Beware of heating seeking missiles with smart bomb capabilities.

well, hopefully those who hook up with 'married and seeking' read their profiles well so that they know what they are getting into.

i'm married....NOT seeking...and am very up front with my status with whoever i talk to. you'd be surprised at how many do NOT know that and have to be told....

I think if you are married and see a spouse on here you don't have a leg to stand on so you would pretty much have to just deal with it.

I know it would depend on what they were doing and how they wrote the profile but what would be more important would be to have the computer passwords or at least be told since it would take no rocket scientist to figure out I don't expect my partner to be fooling around on any site or in real life. Doesn't mean I would turn a blind eye if it was clear they were fooling around but life is too short to waste time trying to trap anyone breaking faith. I used to tell my late husband I wasn't much of a believer in Divorce but I would never deny him one if he wanted it . But if he wanted his cake and eat it too I did belifve in Homicide. lol

I have to say I have been hanging out on this site for nearing a decade and I am mot about to leave just because my focus has shifted in my personal relationship area. I enjoy the forums and coud really care less if what I post attracts or scares away a potential mate or a mate I have because I write what I really think. Anyone that knows me enough to date me would know I Mingle. I have poems and pic and art, as well as freindship cards all over my house.

And while I don't becessarily post my personal bussiness all over the Web enough of my Mingle friends would know if I was serious about someone that it would be no secret.

I met my hubby on here, but still love coming in and seeing what is happening, what the people I have come to care about are up to.

And even though I am always faithful and would never consider being unfaithful, I still muck around with the men on here who I consider friends.

My hubby is still on here as well and I wouldn't have expected him to go off when he has friends here, I have no reason not to trust him. Thats what our relationship is built on.

Hmmm forgot to answer the question,
If I found my hubby on here looking for someone, then he wouldnt be my hubby anymore. Simple.

i totally agree with you on this /

people dont all take marriage (other peoples) so seriously

they want what they want and they convince themself there is no harm being done, ,, they feel secure that no feelings will be developed and things will be simpler with just sex,,,