I am sorry for Lexie... he was one of the smart ones. I appreciate that his conduct around little girls has required a lot of improvement. I don't condone killing and torturing baby girls.

He WAS though, spirited and smart on this site. I think there is such a thing as rehabilitation into the community. We can't really convict or condemn a man on his past mistakes if he has not re-sinned or re-entered his old sinful ways. It is the promise of the correctional system, that some people learn their lesson behind the bars.

Lex seemed like a learned, smart feller, he was rather well-spoken in the written word. He made the mistake of not disclosing his identity of LexFountaine to authorities. I can believe, while I have no evidence, that this was his private refuge. He may not have created this alias and kept it secret to plan to commit some crimes, or a crime; he may have needed some refuge, a sort of identity in which he was not a convict, a condemned man. It is this identity that brought the best out of him, and he enjoyed it, even possibly without ill will or sinful or terrifyingly cruel thoughts.

I am sorry he had to go. I, for one, don't condemn him. I do believe in the occassional success of the correctional system.

I chalk up his reluctance to offer this alias of his for the authorities' knowledge to his wanting to reform and keep on the straight and narrow. I am not saying this as fact, as I hardly had a few exchanges with him, but it is possible.

Of course the possibility exists that he was harbouring sinister thoughts, and he was slowly working his way into committing more crimes agains female humanity.

I don't know. I can't tell. I am unable to decide, but I hold the opinion that we must not condemnt him until such time that we have evidence that he again had started to torture and rape after his release from prison.

It is true that his basic sexual urges never changed. No gay man will turn straight at 45, and no straight man will turn gay after 45. No sexual sadist will become a sexual giver-lover, and no sexual giver-lover will turn into a sexual sadist all of a sudden.

These tendencies are terribly unfortunate for both society, and the criminal; it is devastating to the families of the victims, and for the victims, it is hell. I hold, nevertheless, that jail and living standards there for fifteen years will make a man think twice before he commits the same crime again, and chances are he will never again.

All I am saying is that he had been punished for his old sinning, or criminal activites. We must not assume that he has done any of that since his release seven years ago, we most not condemn him automatically, we must give him the benefit of doubt.

This is the dumbest thing I've ever read. You feel sorry for him? His conduct around little girls needs improvement?

I am sorry for Lexie... he was one of the smart ones. I appreciate that his conduct around little girls has required a lot of improvement. I don't condone killing and torturing baby girls.

He WAS though, spirited and smart on this site. I think there is such a thing as rehabilitation into the community. We can't really convict or condemn a man on his past mistakes if he has not re-sinned or re-entered his old sinful ways. It is the promise of the correctional system, that some people learn their lesson behind the bars.

Lex seemed like a learned, smart feller, he was rather well-spoken in the written word. He made the mistake of not disclosing his identity of LexFountaine to authorities. I can believe, while I have no evidence, that this was his private refuge. He may not have created this alias and kept it secret to plan to commit some crimes, or a crime; he may have needed some refuge, a sort of identity in which he was not a convict, a condemned man. It is this identity that brought the best out of him, and he enjoyed it, even possibly without ill will or sinful or terrifyingly cruel thoughts.

I am sorry he had to go. I, for one, don't condemn him. I do believe in the occassional success of the correctional system.

I chalk up his reluctance to offer this alias of his for the authorities' knowledge to his wanting to reform and keep on the straight and narrow. I am not saying this as fact, as I hardly had a few exchanges with him, but it is possible.

Of course the possibility exists that he was harbouring sinister thoughts, and he was slowly working his way into committing more crimes agains female humanity.

I don't know. I can't tell. I am unable to decide, but I hold the opinion that we must not condemnt him until such time that we have evidence that he again had started to torture and rape after his release from prison.

It is true that his basic sexual urges never changed. No gay man will turn straight at 45, and no straight man will turn gay after 45. No sexual sadist will become a sexual giver-lover, and no sexual giver-lover will turn into a sexual sadist all of a sudden.

These tendencies are terribly unfortunate for both society, and the criminal; it is devastating to the families of the victims, and for the victims, it is hell. I hold, nevertheless, that jail and living standards there for fifteen years will make a man think twice before he commits the same crime again, and chances are he will never again.

All I am saying is that he had been punished for his old sinning, or criminal activites. We must not assume that he has done any of that since his release seven years ago, we most not condemn him automatically, we must give him the benefit of doubt.

I just said we shouldn't argue lol

This is the dumbest thing I've ever read. You feel sorry for him? His conduct around little girls needs improvement?

I was gone on a day trip and came home to this news. I saw it on another thread that was just started and curiously clicked on the link. I, like you guys, am in shock. Lex, who a great deal (including myself) considered him as one of the most intellectual people of the mingle troops. I didn't read the pages inbetween the first one on this thread and the last one. Maybe I will maybe I won't. I did watch the news report and as you guys had to have, felt my stomach become sickened.

To the heads of mingle, I truely feel for you. I can sense over the years you folks have put your hearts and souls into mingle and never expected anything like this would ever happen to you. I hope it doesn't cause too much negative press for you as no doubt folks have been and are watching these pages more closely than they were a day ago. I hope that for you guys things will be able to get back to normal quickly. I think it is a brave move to make this thread open to the members and not just make a locked announcement. It shows a transparency about your character, and for myself makes me feel under these weird circumstances a little more safe.

I must be honest and say the thought deactivation came into my head while viewing the news report, and in thinking about it if younger I probably would have. The thought of Lex being here didn't bother me as much as the thought that some of my biz associates would see this and hassle me about being on a dating site with strange characters lurking. I thought Oh God I shouldn't have been nearly as open about my personal life and biz, but the more I thought about it I felt kind of proud of myself for being so open. Maybe people need to see less aliases and more real people, I don't know. Maybe the word transparency is more important to who we are and to the people around us than we think.

I have visited other dating sites and for the record Mingle is more, much more than just a dating site. For many of us it's a home away from home. As sceptical as people may be of who is out there in the shadows I feel (even now) far more safe that I spend social time on Mingle vs other sites that quite frankly give me the creeps.

As I said, I haven't read through this thread but I appreciate what ese had to say. I feel bad that Mr. Willis has this illness and hope he receives treatment in a trained facility and that these folks who do follow predators around are able to keep them away from our kids. I don't know if the justice system really works as good as we hope and I don't know if the stories we hear about people are as they really are, but I do think Mingle type social sites (if ran properly) supply us folks who desire to hang out on-line a place to gather. I might also add that I trust a sight like this a lot more than walking into the local bar or pub. To me it gives a distance to things and I don't feel that seedy feeling that I get in darkly lighted liquor smell covered no mans land where you have no idea who is sitting beside you. Now that's creepy to me.

The only thing that is still a little unsettling to me (well maybe not the only thing) is how long this has been going on in this particular case. I hope that by this being done authorities can make sites more secure for us and I really apperiate the laws efforts and the efforts of the mingle staff.

Thanks again for letting us air this out.

Was that toward me? That was uncalled for and I wasn't arguing. As you can see, I was giving my opinion as to why I didn't think anyone would think he's nice if they had met, even if just for the fact he lied about his age. But, alrighty.