If he has low T, they have a cure for that; it's called T. He could be all over her like a duck on a junebug!!

PS She does want to kiss him anymore. He has flown the coop!

Men are like animalls , old men ...like me are bulls put out to pasture , young men are like puppies love to be pampered & petted , those inbetween are brainless & think with the head between their legs , Women are either over sexed & never satisfied or fridgid , The former a ***** in heat , the later a spayed kitty ... LOL

I just discovered this topic. I haven't read more than the first two replies on the first page.

Here goes.

1. You are gorgeous.
2. Most men will find you attractive.
3. Your main attraction, so to speak, is your mind, not your looks, although your looks are incredibly sexy too.

Therefore you'll always get the males that want your mind because you got one, as well as your body.

Some will only want your mind.

Some will only want your body.

Some will want both. (I'm in this category, but never mind.)

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A lot of men do develop health problems after 50-55 that stop them from having sex. Partly it's a lack of ability, but that can be helped these days. A larger part is fear of embarrassment. Yes.

Most older men have some gross things about them. Please do not allow me to go into details. To imagine them, think of the women who have embarrassing details. Mammoctomy. Baldness. Scars. Some women find hysterctomy so effeminitating, that they can't get over that. Some find even sagging skin on themeselves horrible, so horrible, that they never undress in front of a man.

Men may have scars, from prostate procedures. Maybe a testicle or two missing. Maybe other stuff. There are skin diseases that are safe, and not catchy, yet makes the sufferer think too much about it. Hydrocele. (Painless, non-infectious accumulation of fluids in the scrotum, making it swell up up to ten-fifteen its original size.)

My old girlfriend and I finally kept our pants on forever when she devleoped prolapsed uterus. The incontinence was not a big problem, it only occurred at night for her. But to see a really ugly-looking penis rear its head from what was formerly known as the "Great Hall of Visitors" was not a sight I wanted to see.

So there. The guy may be very conscious of a seemingly innocent, but to him horrible blemish.

Or his disease is not innocent. He won't touch you to save you from his infection.

Or his disease is killing him. I used to have an old gf, (different from the one mentioned) who was dying of cancer. She was great in bed, but as soon as her condition got to the point where the doctors advised her against intercourse, she dropped me like a ton of bricks. She died three years later, and I only learned about her cancer then. Before that she never said anything about it. I guess she was using me for my body, but had no respect for me at all.

These are the physical reasons. There are psychological reasons.
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Psychological reasons. Any forensic psychologist will tell you that the human multiplicity of expression is the most varied in the sexual response. This means that people really are individuals in their sexual preferences. Both in practice, and in fantasy.

Most people who have deviant preferences battle this, inside, because they are decent, normal, well-meaning, kind men and women, who just have weird, socially inacceptible sexual preferences. They are deathly afraid of anyone finding out about them. So they never have sex.

There are men, also, who are asexual. Not homosexual, but men who are simply not interested in sex, and don't see the point in it. They are physically normal, nothing wrong with them. They may enjoy other physical pleasures: travel, food, drinking, intellectual pleasures, or enjoying music. They appear to be socially sound. And they don't have use for sex.

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Take your guy, there, bravalady, and mix in this cavalcade of reasons why men, some men, never touch women. They want to, they could, they know and are capable of what to do, but they are shy, or fearful, or embarrassed. Yes, I forgot, there is a slew of puritanic reasons sourced in religious dogma that will stop a man cold in his progression to sex in a relationship.

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I don't think you were blaming yourself, you sounded you were just curious what the heck is wrong with the guy you are dating.

A million and one things could be wrong, and the combinations of those exist, too, in a permutative manner, so there, you could choose from any one of 1,000,000,000,000.00 reasons what's the reason he hasn't touched you.

I say go with the old, dependable, tried-and-true love machines, and go out on a date with me.

You know I am joking, and that I am only semi-joking. I admire you for your looks and very much feel we would be incredibly compatible in the brains and personality departments. Looks, anyone can have, other stuff that's important to me now, at my age, is incredibly rare. You have it. I want you. I know this is a tango. So if you refuse, my only option after that is to respectfully accept your choice.

No pressure, you understand.

Wow...that's quite an attitude you have there about women...it's a shame you don't know what you're talking about by lumping us all together like that.

Hey , Vivian you'll note the Laughing out loud at end of my post . of course not all men or women can be labled as I said , I did that to get a responce , seeing as how nothing happening dating wise of late , So just for fun posted the " Animal" post. .....Cliff

I saw that..LOL..and I didn't mean to get'on' to ya but hey, we're all different..but there's no harm in having a little fun with the 'animal' thing. AND you did get a response

Men have sex drive up to 75. But they are not push button type like 20 year old ones. They can have very intense sexual encounters if aroused a little bit. A lovely smile, a kiss longer than 2 seconds, a hug can arouse reactions and THE FEELINGS. Try !

hello bravalady ,
i am new to this site as i only joined today.
i think he should show how much he likes you by sending you kisses
if that was me i would send you them all the time and not only that i would send email to you every day .
to see how you are also how your day as been

I have a great sex drive,just can't find a woman that likes sex as much as I do!Maybe I'm just not sexy enough!

Or maybe the women you are dating aren't smart enough to know a good thing when they have it.

I suspect it isn't the dating site but more your attitude.

Lol I just hate when men just because the attachtion isn't there call us fridgid.was in a sport bar watching the game with a guy I had met the day before he wanred to kiss me no one else was kissing I turned him down annd his whole attitude changed.... a real turn off...

Yep; those little buggars can be hard to please.

pain in the a$$e$ hehe

I'm not dating anyone right now,I guess no one wants me! Thanks for your comment!

Thanks for your comment.

Chemistry...


Your situation sounds like a man I met earlier in the year. He was an ok guy. Nothing fabulous, but hey, neither am I.

We talked on the phone and texted each other a few weeks. Had a few dinners. I was thinking the way you are but then, I had to be honest with myself.

In my case, there just wasn't any chemistry. And it was mutual.
Better to realize it up front than wasting months and months on something that feels...forced.

I sent him an email after our 3rd date. And said, '...listen, if you have any kind of interest or attraction to me, I really am not feeling it. I think you're great, but, why waste each other's time'.

He never responded and to be honest, I think he was relieved.

Sometimes it's just, no harm - no foul, ya' know?

Wow read every post on this thread and what an eye full ... or what ever full. LOL.
First time here and enjoyed reading all. To bravalady ... good luck and I hope you find someone that won't be afraid to give you a wowser of a kiss.
I turned 75 this year and still love to give a good passionate kiss. Any girls interested?
LOL

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Why would I want to date someone that's married?