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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. I think the same can be said with men too. They too are very influenced by society in many ways. |
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. ((((((SexyLexy)))))Good Lord,when do you get to strip,how long are you being punished?...      Next time, I'm gonna be a cowboy. And then a spaceman. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Unless these unmarried gals are showing up for your date in a wedding dress, then I don't think its fair to assume marriage and babies is automatically what they want. Maybe they are actually looking for a decent man to be. One that doesn't see Red Flags in everything they do. I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. I agree that it shouldn't be seen as a red flag but as myself and Sing have experienced that those of us having never been married are also labeled as not being able to commit. Again that is the way society precieves it. You would think we would have the common sense to make our own judgements but most people just go with the flow and don't try to think outside the box. Thats really sad. Stereotyping can be brutal. But At least you and Sing. seem to be women who are stong enough to handle to it. Any man would be lucky to have either one of you.  Aww thanks and I sure hope Sing will find someone worthy of her. Me, I am too old, cranky, and set in my ways to meet anyone but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy life as it is. 
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Unless these unmarried gals are showing up for your date in a wedding dress, then I don't think its fair to assume marriage and babies is automatically what they want. Maybe they are actually looking for a decent man to be. One that doesn't see Red Flags in everything they do. I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. I agree that it shouldn't be seen as a red flag but as myself and Sing have experienced that those of us having never been married are also labeled as not being able to commit. Again that is the way society precieves it. You would think we would have the common sense to make our own judgements but most people just go with the flow and don't try to think outside the box. Thats really sad. Stereotyping can be brutal. But At least you and Sing. seem to be women who are stong enough to handle to it. Any man would be lucky to have either one of you. Thank you :). Stereotyping like what has been done in here is a turn off. I know we all do it, but I try not to for the most part. I try to at least get to know the individual, rather than compare them to others in the same situation. |
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Unless these unmarried gals are showing up for your date in a wedding dress, then I don't think its fair to assume marriage and babies is automatically what they want. Maybe they are actually looking for a decent man to be. One that doesn't see Red Flags in everything they do. I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. I agree that it shouldn't be seen as a red flag but as myself and Sing have experienced that those of us having never been married are also labeled as not being able to commit. Again that is the way society precieves it. You would think we would have the common sense to make our own judgements but most people just go with the flow and don't try to think outside the box. Thats really sad. Stereotyping can be brutal. But At least you and Sing. seem to be women who are stong enough to handle to it. Any man would be lucky to have either one of you. Aww thanks and I sure hope Sing will find someone worthy of her. Me, I am too old, cranky, and set in my ways to meet anyone but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy life as it is. Thank you! |
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. ((((((SexyLexy)))))Good Lord,when do you get to strip,how long are you being punished?... Next time, I'm gonna be a cowboy. And then a spaceman. Ha Ha..It is Rodeo time!! meh, no matter you would look good nakie and holding just a scotch tape roll  *waiting* to see next one...
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. I think the same can be said with men too. They too are very influenced by society in many ways. Absolutely. The men are just as brainwashed as the women -- it's just that the women seem to be more biologically tethered to the repro-mentality. I mean, there are men like that, too, but the men I've known are less likely to consider it The End Of The World if they don't leave offspring, for whatever reason. Most of the women I've known simply aren't capable of imagining a life without reproducing. |
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. I think the same can be said with men too. They too are very influenced by society in many ways. Absolutely. The men are just as brainwashed as the women -- it's just that the women seem to be more biologically tethered to the repro-mentality. I mean, there are men like that, too, but the men I've known are less likely to consider it The End Of The World if they don't leave offspring, for whatever reason. Most of the women I've known simply aren't capable of imagining a life without reproducing. I wonder why that is with women? I never understood that. Now, I am getting the 50 year old guys that want kids. WTF? They can barely make ends meet and they want to support a child? |
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. I think the same can be said with men too. They too are very influenced by society in many ways. Absolutely. The men are just as brainwashed as the women -- it's just that the women seem to be more biologically tethered to the repro-mentality. I mean, there are men like that, too, but the men I've known are less likely to consider it The End Of The World if they don't leave offspring, for whatever reason. Most of the women I've known simply aren't capable of imagining a life without reproducing. Just curious, how many women are you basing your assumption on? Just women you've dated? |
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. I think the same can be said with men too. They too are very influenced by society in many ways. Absolutely. The men are just as brainwashed as the women -- it's just that the women seem to be more biologically tethered to the repro-mentality. I mean, there are men like that, too, but the men I've known are less likely to consider it The End Of The World if they don't leave offspring, for whatever reason. Most of the women I've known simply aren't capable of imagining a life without reproducing. Just curious, how many women are you basing your assumption on? Just women you've dated? Women I've dated, women I've been friends with, co-workers, relatives, etc. It's pretty much a universal condition, from what I've seen. Not a large statistical sampling, admittedly, but conclusive enough for me. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Wed 02/22/12 01:01 PM
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Here is a survey done in Feb, 2011 from the Chicago Tribune which I found interesting. I deleted the other info as I just wanted to focus on the one age group.
Men want babies? Women want their space?Survey busts accepted myths about what men and women want in relationships. The times, they are changing. February 22, 2011|By Heidi Stevens, Tribune Newspapers These are just a few of the findings from a comprehensive new study of 5,200 singles in America Some highlights The question about wanting to get married: In the 21-34 age range, 63 percent of single women and 61 percent of single men answered yes. 51 percent of men ages 21-34 want kids, versus 46 percent of women in the same age group. 77 percent of women in a committed relationship say they "need personal space," versus 58 percent of men. 35 percent of women want "regular nights out" with friends, versus 23 percent of men. |
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. I think the same can be said with men too. They too are very influenced by society in many ways. Absolutely. The men are just as brainwashed as the women -- it's just that the women seem to be more biologically tethered to the repro-mentality. I mean, there are men like that, too, but the men I've known are less likely to consider it The End Of The World if they don't leave offspring, for whatever reason. Most of the women I've known simply aren't capable of imagining a life without reproducing. Just curious, how many women are you basing your assumption on? Just women you've dated? Women I've dated, women I've been friends with, co-workers, relatives, etc. It's pretty much a universal condition, from what I've seen. Not a large statistical sampling, admittedly, but conclusive enough for me. I just find it hard to believe that every single women you've ever known is like that. Especially when women on here are saying they aren't. So obviously, there are some out there who aren't. |
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. I think the same can be said with men too. They too are very influenced by society in many ways. Absolutely. The men are just as brainwashed as the women -- it's just that the women seem to be more biologically tethered to the repro-mentality. I mean, there are men like that, too, but the men I've known are less likely to consider it The End Of The World if they don't leave offspring, for whatever reason. Most of the women I've known simply aren't capable of imagining a life without reproducing. Just curious, how many women are you basing your assumption on? Just women you've dated? Women I've dated, women I've been friends with, co-workers, relatives, etc. It's pretty much a universal condition, from what I've seen. Not a large statistical sampling, admittedly, but conclusive enough for me. I just find it hard to believe that every single women you've ever known is like that. Especially when women on here are saying they aren't. So obviously, there are some out there who aren't. Well, you can't go by what they say. I personally can account for at least 90 who SAID they didn't want kids, but actually did want them. So, as far as I'm concerned, someone saying they don't want kids doesn't carry any weight whatsoever. |
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I would date a guy who already had children. I'm just not in a hurry to get pregnant either. If it happens, cool, if it doesn't, i'm not gonna sit there whining about it. I prefer a lover that has talents, or can hold their own, so to speak. I prefer a guy who can be independent. I'm not bothered if they have an illness. I can overlook that. I agree that there are too many young teens rushing about to get pregnant and married. Peer pressure is just not me.
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Edited by
navygirl
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Wed 02/22/12 02:42 PM
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I would date a guy who already had children. I'm just not in a hurry to get pregnant either. If it happens, cool, if it doesn't, i'm not gonna sit there whining about it. I prefer a lover that has talents, or can hold their own, so to speak. I prefer a guy who can be independent. I'm not bothered if they have an illness. I can overlook that. I agree that there are too many young teens rushing about to get pregnant and married. Peer pressure is just not me. I am confused. What is your red flag?
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I would date a guy who already had children. I'm just not in a hurry to get pregnant either. If it happens, cool, if it doesn't, i'm not gonna sit there whining about it. I prefer a lover that has talents, or can hold their own, so to speak. I prefer a guy who can be independent. I'm not bothered if they have an illness. I can overlook that. I agree that there are too many young teens rushing about to get pregnant and married. Peer pressure is just not me. I am confused. What is your red flag? sorry.  . Oh yeah. Forgot to put them down. Instead, i just jumped straight into the conversation. lol. I'm not religious, some would find that a problem. I am a tomboy. I like to talk a lot about art, science, creative idea's. I'm a bookworm. And like some others, i've never been married. Sometimes you just break up with lovers at any given time, and time plays a big part in recovering from heartbreak, is all i even need to say really.
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I would date a guy who already had children. I'm just not in a hurry to get pregnant either. If it happens, cool, if it doesn't, i'm not gonna sit there whining about it. I prefer a lover that has talents, or can hold their own, so to speak. I prefer a guy who can be independent. I'm not bothered if they have an illness. I can overlook that. I agree that there are too many young teens rushing about to get pregnant and married. Peer pressure is just not me. I am confused. What is your red flag? sorry. . Oh yeah. Forgot to put them down. Instead, i just jumped straight into the conversation. lol. I'm not religious, some would find that a problem. I am a tomboy. I like to talk a lot about art, science, creative idea's. I'm a bookworm. And like some others, i've never been married. Sometimes you just break up with lovers at any given time, and time plays a big part in recovering from heartbreak, is all i even need to say really. Welcome to the never married club. Yeah, I think being non religous can be a deal breaker for some as there are some devote Christians that wouldn't even consider a gal unless she is religous. The rest of what you mentioned doesn't seem like a red flag but more just preferences. JMO |
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navygirl doesn't use red flags.
She uses semaphore. 
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I agree but I also blame this kind of thinking on society. Society has this idea that every woman wants to get married and have kids. In my experience, the biggest problem is that most of the women never question it and fall right in line. I think the same can be said with men too. They too are very influenced by society in many ways. Absolutely. The men are just as brainwashed as the women -- it's just that the women seem to be more biologically tethered to the repro-mentality. I mean, there are men like that, too, but the men I've known are less likely to consider it The End Of The World if they don't leave offspring, for whatever reason. Most of the women I've known simply aren't capable of imagining a life without reproducing. Just curious, how many women are you basing your assumption on? Just women you've dated? Women I've dated, women I've been friends with, co-workers, relatives, etc. It's pretty much a universal condition, from what I've seen. Not a large statistical sampling, admittedly, but conclusive enough for me. I just find it hard to believe that every single women you've ever known is like that. Especially when women on here are saying they aren't. So obviously, there are some out there who aren't. Well, you can't go by what they say. I personally can account for at least 90 who SAID they didn't want kids, but actually did want them. So, as far as I'm concerned, someone saying they don't want kids doesn't carry any weight whatsoever. This kind of thinking would definitely be a red flag to me. |
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Have been reading topics on seeing red flags in others but how about ourselves? I will go first. Me, never married; never been in a long term relationship, never had kids, very independent, being in the military, my age, a bit too tall for most men, and too muscular. So anyone else think they set off red flags when it comes to dating? I would hope that me mentioning that I'm currently in a relationship would set off a red flag. :) I think everyone will set off red flags to others, seeing how different we all are, and how everyone sees and feels things in their own way. |
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