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Let's try it this way.... lowdrag79, do you want an open relationship and your girlfriend/wife is not into the scene? In this day and age of so many STDs, people are looking for one person at a time to be involved with, sexually, to cut down on risks of catching something soap won't wash away. In my opinion, most people consider RESPECT to be a big part of a relationship and if one is willing to go out and sleep with someone other than their partner, there is a lack of respect. No respect = no relationship... IMHO. To address the STD aspect it would be the same as being single and dateing, so would you tell a single person not to date? With the issue of respect i fully aggree with you. |
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Not at all. I just beleve you should be true to who you are. There are some people who know that they cant be with one person for the rest of there life but they dont want to be without some one either. So you are saying that person A can't respect the person B they are with ( because they are not getting what they want sexually ) and leave them to move on to person C they want to be with? ( that can satisfy them sexually ) Sorry, I think that anyone that already knows that they cant be with just one person at a time, should not get into a relationship in the first place and just go from flower to flower. Other wise it just sounds like person A is just greedy and insecure. |
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DOES YOUR WIFE KNOW?
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Edited by
eileena9
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Sat 02/11/12 05:11 PM
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Let's try it this way.... lowdrag79, do you want an open relationship and your girlfriend/wife is not into the scene? In this day and age of so many STDs, people are looking for one person at a time to be involved with, sexually, to cut down on risks of catching something soap won't wash away. In my opinion, most people consider RESPECT to be a big part of a relationship and if one is willing to go out and sleep with someone other than their partner, there is a lack of respect. No respect = no relationship... IMHO. To address the STD aspect it would be the same as being single and dateing, so would you tell a single person not to date? With the issue of respect i fully aggree with you. No, but if you are in a RELATIONSHIP would you really want to take a chance of bringing something home to your partner or them bringing one home to you? As for dating, I think if you are going to get involved with someone....you should be careful. |
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It depends on what you consider cheating. Is an emotional realtionship cheating event thought there no sexual contact? Okay, here's MY opinion. That's all it is. Open realtionships are a recipe for disaster. Emotional cheating is cheating. Innocent flirtations with others are not necessarily cheating, but they can lead to an emotional attachment to someone that could be cheating. Sometimes they are just a nice little boost for the ego and don't mean anything. If you are not sexually satisfied by your partner and there is no fixing it, then you need to leave. I agree. The theory of interchangeable parts doesn't always work with all humans. While emotions are illogical the sum of a person is more than just the parts. But then love is illogical. Okay. I am going to quit before I have a melt down. But then when you factor in the sum of the other parts which in my past relationship must be x or the unknown. Yup. That is why they call them exes. Exes are unknown variables. 
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I just read your profile. You are a married guy looking for an intimate encounter. First of all, good for you for being honest with your prospective dates.  Now, does your wife know? Well yes she knows, talk about everything. |
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I just read your profile. You are a married guy looking for an intimate encounter. First of all, good for you for being honest with your prospective dates. Now, does your wife know? Well yes she knows, talk about everything. Then there's no reason to worry about what any of us think. My guess is that you do not find too many ladies willing to have a sexual or emotional relationship with you while you intend to stay with your wife. But, you are being honest with your wife, yourself and the other women. So, good luck to you and don't worry what others think.
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I just read your profile. You are a married guy looking for an intimate encounter. First of all, good for you for being honest with your prospective dates. Now, does your wife know? Well yes she knows, talk about everything. Is she for or against the idea of an open relationship? If she is the one who ignores the subject, then she is probably against it. |
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I just read your profile. You are a married guy looking for an intimate encounter. First of all, good for you for being honest with your prospective dates. Now, does your wife know? Well yes she knows, talk about everything. Then there's no reason to worry about what any of us think. My guess is that you do not find too many ladies willing to have a sexual or emotional relationship with you while you intend to stay with your wife. But, you are being honest with your wife, yourself and the other women. So, good luck to you and don't worry what others think. thank you 
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I just read your profile. You are a married guy looking for an intimate encounter. First of all, good for you for being honest with your prospective dates. Now, does your wife know? Well yes she knows, talk about everything. Is she for or against the idea of an open relationship? If she is the one who ignores the subject, then she is probably against it. honestly she was the one who first suggested it, She felt there some needs of mine that were not meet.   Also im not saying life is perfect either we still have the same issues as other couples.
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Edited by
lowdrag79
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Sat 02/11/12 05:23 PM
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With that said i do feel we are stonger for it, as she said to me it's not that we have to come home its we want to. I would like thank all of you for your input. But it still doesn't answer why this topic is so taboo.
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I just read your profile. You are a married guy looking for an intimate encounter. First of all, good for you for being honest with your prospective dates. Now, does your wife know? Well yes she knows, talk about everything. Is she for or against the idea of an open relationship? If she is the one who ignores the subject, then she is probably against it. honestly she was the one who first suggested it, She felt there some needs of mine that were not meet. Also im not saying life is perfect either we still have the same issues as other couples. Do you feel that way? Are you happy in the relationship or are you looking just because she suggested it? |
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Im truly happy and if your woundering we have discussed being exclusive in the future. Im taking this more as way to grow become whole.
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I'm not sure the subject is really taboo -- just unpopular. For the vast majority of people, sex is not experienced as purely a physical function. Young teenage boys may be an exception, LOL. But I think it's really pretty rare for people not to get emotionally invested in their sexual partners. Obviously that's why we expect sex to occur in marriage or a relationship, and when you place yourself outside those institutions, people feel uneasy because they don't know how to categorize you.
Also, I think most women (most people, but especially women) really would pick a loving relationship over pure sex if they were forced to choose. So when you make it clear that that's not what you're offering a woman, your chances of response go down. Just my opinion. |
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It depends on what you consider cheating. Is an emotional realtionship cheating event thought there no sexual contact? Depends on what you mean by an emotional relationship. a relationship where you have the "need" to stay in contact with them. That doesn't tell me much. I have a need to stay in contact with my friends. You're going to have to be more specific. |
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I just read your profile. You are a married guy looking for an intimate encounter. First of all, good for you for being honest with your prospective dates. Now, does your wife know? Well yes she knows, talk about everything. Is she for or against the idea of an open relationship? If she is the one who ignores the subject, then she is probably against it. honestly she was the one who first suggested it, She felt there some needs of mine that were not meet. Also im not saying life is perfect either we still have the same issues as other couples. If you're not looking for an emotional attachment. Why not pay for sex? Or is this the cheaper option? |
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there are many types of relationships
I dont quite get the confusion you either have a significant other who fulfills your needs or many insignificant others who have to fulfill them 'collectively' |
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there are many types of relationships I dont quite get the confusion you either have a significant other who fulfills your needs or many insignificant others who have to fulfill them 'collectively' lol get nagged at enough by 1 women, imagine 5 lol |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Sun 02/12/12 01:14 AM
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Fair enough a relationship is hard work no matter how many ppl are in it, but in most relationships it ends due to the fact that either someone cheated or someones needs are not meet. So why not take that out of the issues you have? So you're assuming that everyone is going to cheat? Not at all. I just beleve you should be true to who you are. There are some people who know that they cant be with one person for the rest of there life but they dont want to be without some one either. Sounds more like just a convenience. I know I can't be with someone the rest of my life but I am not going to be with someone merely to use them for companionship and use someone else for sex. I think it shows a lack of respect for others. JMO Incidentially; I am sure there are sites that people are just looking for intimate encounters. Why don't you try on those sites? I think most people here are looking for a relationship and not just a sex partner. |
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I'm not sure the subject is really taboo -- just unpopular. For the vast majority of people, sex is not experienced as purely a physical function. Young teenage boys may be an exception, LOL. But I think it's really pretty rare for people not to get emotionally invested in their sexual partners. Obviously that's why we expect sex to occur in marriage or a relationship, and when you place yourself outside those institutions, people feel uneasy because they don't know how to categorize you. Also, I think most women (most people, but especially women) really would pick a loving relationship over pure sex if they were forced to choose. So when you make it clear that that's not what you're offering a woman, your chances of response go down. Just my opinion. |
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