Topic: Taboo
eileena9's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:16 PM



Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship?



because if you're truly in love
then all other needs should be met.

Sex is physical so it has no place
in love, with love you share an emotional
bond and if you're not getting that
then you can't call it love.

If you're needs are not being met
continue looking, do not simply
add more people.





So sex isnt Emotional? So what is the big deal when your partner has sex with someone elese?


For some people, no sex, is not emotional. It's just a body function/need. If my partner was out looking for sex from someone else it would mean that we are having issues that must be dealt with or we need to break up.

RainbowTrout's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:24 PM
If you find one that wants an open relationship then wouldn't you and the other be considered insignificant others? Closed relationships have significant others.:smile:

no photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:28 PM

Fair enough a relationship is hard work no matter how many ppl are in it, but in most relationships it ends due to the fact that either someone cheated or someones needs are not meet. So why not take that out of the issues you have?


So you're assuming that everyone is going to cheat?

Ruth34611's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:29 PM

If you find one that wants an open relationship then wouldn't you and the other be considered insignificant others? Closed relationships have significant others.:smile:


Hey, you said something I understand!!!! :thumbsup: :wink: flowerforyou

yellowrose10's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:32 PM
Just my 2 cents...an open relationship is with consenting adults (on all sides)

Cheating implies secrecy, deception and betrayal

The open thing isn't for me and I can't really say I understand it, but if everyone is ok with it and honesty about it, then go for it....none of my business

RainbowTrout's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:32 PM


If you find one that wants an open relationship then wouldn't you and the other be considered insignificant others? Closed relationships have significant others.:smile:


Hey, you said something I understand!!!! :thumbsup: :wink: flowerforyou


Wow. I am amazed. :smile: flowerforyou :wink:

lowdrag79's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:32 PM




Also why does it always have mean your having sex or thats the only need that is being fill with a second or third relationship?



What need is it that you and your significant other need filled that is not being filled by each other?

Humans have many needs and one person cannot fill them all. Men usually have a need for "guy time" and whatever recreation they enjoy and that may or may not include his wife. People have relationships at work that fill needs for professional recognition. Is that what you are talking about?


Yes!!!! :banana: and of course for every one it's different needs. differnt social groups,and different activites.


Maybe you should explain exactly what it is you need that you are not getting.

Is this a hypothetical question or are you currently in a relationship where your needs are not being met?

You brought up sex outside of your relationship first. That is very different than having friends and social activities that do not include your wife/girlfriend.


True i did bring sex and other relationships, also jealousy is part of most relationships in some form. I also know that relationships are created when you have common interest. Also there are some out there who have sexual likes that are not meet. i read a post about friends with benefits, is that not a need to be filled?

Totage's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:34 PM
No, it's more of a desire.

no photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:35 PM



True i did bring sex and other relationships, also jealousy is part of most relationships in some form. I also know that relationships are created when you have common interest. Also there are some out there who have sexual likes that are not meet. i read a post about friends with benefits, is that not a need to be filled?


If you are looking for an open relationship, it's probably best to find women who are also into the same kind of thing, rather than trying to talk people into thinking the way you think. :smile:

eileena9's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:36 PM
"Friends with Benefits" are just about sex and not a relationship. Most times, one of the "friends" develops more feelings and wants it to become a relationship and then it causes problems.

Ruth34611's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:39 PM



True i did bring sex and other relationships, also jealousy is part of most relationships in some form. I also know that relationships are created when you have common interest. Also there are some out there who have sexual likes that are not meet. i read a post about friends with benefits, is that not a need to be filled?


Okay, so you have a sexual preference (thing you like) that is not gonna happen with your girlfriend. So, you want to go outside the relationship to get it. Is that it?

Let's try and focus on one thing at a time. I am easily confused.

Ruth34611's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:40 PM

"Friends with Benefits" are just about sex and not a relationship. Most times, one of the "friends" develops more feelings and wants it to become a relationship and then it causes problems.


Yeah, FWB is not the same as having an open relationship.

yellowrose10's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:40 PM
wait....is the wife/girlfriend on board with this?what

Ruth34611's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:41 PM

wait....is the wife/girlfriend on board with this?what


I don't even know if there is a wife/girlfriend or we are just speaking hypothetically. I'm so confused.

lowdrag79's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:42 PM


Fair enough a relationship is hard work no matter how many ppl are in it, but in most relationships it ends due to the fact that either someone cheated or someones needs are not meet. So why not take that out of the issues you have?


So you're assuming that everyone is going to cheat?


Not at all. I just beleve you should be true to who you are. There are some people who know that they cant be with one person for the rest of there life but they dont want to be without some one either.

yellowrose10's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:43 PM


wait....is the wife/girlfriend on board with this?what


I don't even know if there is a wife/girlfriend or we are just speaking hypothetically. I'm so confused.


So in other words...I shouldn't cheat off of your paper huh? laugh

Totage's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:44 PM
Edited by Totage on Sat 02/11/12 04:50 PM


wait....is the wife/girlfriend on board with this?what


I don't even know if there is a wife/girlfriend or we are just speaking hypothetically. I'm so confused.


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no photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:47 PM




True i did bring sex and other relationships, also jealousy is part of most relationships in some form. I also know that relationships are created when you have common interest. Also there are some out there who have sexual likes that are not meet. i read a post about friends with benefits, is that not a need to be filled?


Okay, so you have a sexual preference (thing you like) that is not gonna happen with your girlfriend. So, you want to go outside the relationship to get it. Is that it?

Let's try and focus on one thing at a time. I am easily confused.


I would think that if there is a sexual need that is not met in a relationship and the person feels it's important enough to want to go outside of the relationship to get it, that particular relationship isn't working.

Ruth34611's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:47 PM



wait....is the wife/girlfriend on board with this?what


I don't even know if there is a wife/girlfriend or we are just speaking hypothetically. I'm so confused.


So in other words...I shouldn't cheat off of your paper huh? laugh


:thumbsup: laugh laugh

lowdrag79's photo
Sat 02/11/12 04:47 PM
wait....is the wife/girlfriend on board with this?what
I don't even know if there is a wife/girlfriend or we are just speaking hypothetically. I'm so confused.
So in other words...I shouldn't cheat off of your paper huh? laugh
yes, yes, what paper?