Topic: Given Up
soufiehere's photo
Wed 02/01/12 04:30 AM
'To everything there is a season..'

The journey that is life is crooked,
never straight.
You are just on one of its curves.
It is a wonderful window, to work on
yourself.
So, when the time arrives, you
arrive ready with it.

It seems to me that people most
often 'find' someone when they
stop looking.
I think it is because they put
out a different vibe, more 'Catch me
if you can' than 'Where's the ring.'
I wouldn't sweat it at all.

RainbowTrout's photo
Wed 02/01/12 04:47 AM

I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?



I am happy being alone. I don't always have to be alone. When I choose not to be alone I can be with my friends. My higher power is there for me. My job lets me know that being alone is a choice. Being contented being alone didn't come overnight. But it gets more comfortable as the days go on. Sometimes happy isn't always the right word. Sometimes okay with it is a better term for me.

pennyg281's photo
Wed 02/01/12 07:05 AM
Im in a relationship where there is like no feeling of love, we hardly ever have sex, when I look at him I dont think to myself that he is handsome and that I want to have sex with him. I have sex with him out of need and thats probably once a month if im lucky. But its just sex. I think all the time about leaving and having my own place but I am so afraid of being by myself, my children r grown and have their own lives. Im not happy in my relationship what do I do.
You have three choices. 1. Change your life 2. find a way to be happy with what you have. 3. or continue the exact same way until you die.
flowerforyou :thumbsup: I agree and i know its not easy to change things but you do have a choice. :)

navygirl's photo
Wed 02/01/12 01:23 PM
I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone.

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Wed 02/01/12 01:56 PM

I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone.


I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games...

However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me!

navygirl's photo
Wed 02/01/12 01:59 PM


I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone.


I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games...

However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me!


Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here.

Teditis's photo
Wed 02/01/12 02:04 PM

I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?



Well if you're happy in it... who's to say anything about it?
Still, in life... I prefer to use more commas than periods.
I guess that I'm fickle that way...

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Wed 02/01/12 02:05 PM

I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?




I echo your sentiment and am abivalent - not happy being single but not missing the "games"

pyxxie13's photo
Wed 02/01/12 03:03 PM
I am happy. I do have moments as anyone would. I enjoy being alone because of the freedom it brings. I have no one to answer to, no one to call and tell what I am doing or when I will be back. I enjoy that. I also enjoy having the bed to myself! laugh

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Wed 02/01/12 10:34 PM
I have people in my life (kids, family, good friends) that make me happy...If I'm honest, I do get lonely sometimes and would like to someone in my life.

Goofball73's photo
Thu 02/02/12 10:35 AM



I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone.


I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games...

However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me!


Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here.


Would a 38 year old do it for ya? :wink:


nelomelo's photo
Thu 02/02/12 10:46 AM
I hate being alone but it's worse that my ex works where I work and the guys she cheated on me with work there too.And she just flirts with them right in front of me,just depressing our son not even 2 yr old.And I doubt if i'll date for a long time but 43 yrs old and alone scares me can't change jobs good money there don't go to bars or anything of that nature,so not sure what to do like you.laugh

navygirl's photo
Thu 02/02/12 11:36 AM




I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone.


I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games...

However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me!


Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here.


Would a 38 year old do it for ya? :wink:




I don't know Goof. Could you keep up to me? bigsmile

navygirl's photo
Thu 02/02/12 11:40 AM
I hate being alone but it's worse that my ex works where I work and the guys she cheated on me with work there too.And she just flirts with them right in front of me,just depressing our son not even 2 yr old.And I doubt if i'll date for a long time but 43 yrs old and alone scares me can't change jobs good money there don't go to bars or anything of that nature,so not sure what to do like you.laugh


Goodness; that is awful. I think this is why people get into the wrong relationships though because they are afraid to be alone. I think one should feel comfortable being alone before looking for another partner. Also, there are plenty of things to do outside the bar. I am involvoed in a variety of clubs and tonight going to our local science centre with the Astronomy club to take in show and use some telescopes to check out the moon, as well as Jupiter. I don't ever feel alone as I have lots of friends and family as well as outside intersts to keep my occupied.

oldhippie1952's photo
Thu 02/02/12 11:41 AM



I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone.


I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games...

However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me!


Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here.


Hey I think you are cute!happy

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Thu 02/02/12 11:42 AM

Shoot. I was happy til I read this thread. Fooooork.


laugh laugh laugh

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Thu 02/02/12 11:43 AM

Shoot. I was happy til I read this thread. Fooooork.


laugh laugh laugh

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Thu 02/02/12 11:44 AM
oops, oh well I double that sentiment.............

Goofball73's photo
Thu 02/02/12 11:55 AM





I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone.


I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games...

However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me!


Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here.


Would a 38 year old do it for ya? :wink:




I don't know Goof. Could you keep up to me? bigsmile


Well I do love a good challenge. :wink: bigsmile laugh

Seakolony's photo
Thu 02/02/12 12:08 PM

I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it.
I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out.
So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones.

I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone.

I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well.

Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone?




:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

Yes