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Topic: Self Control
Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24709	Sat 01/14/12 01:11 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection?

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24709	Sat 01/14/12 01:13 AM
"cliche' warning".........I "always" speak my mind no matter what... deserves a "BS Call"!!!!!!!

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 01/14/12 02:40 AM Edited by 42BlackBBW on Sat 01/14/12 02:41 AM
I think censoring yourself isn’t lying or being disrespectful, it’s more (IMO) being considerate of others...particularly if not censoring myself, causes others to be upset or hurt unnecessarily. Just because I can (say whatever I’m thinking), doesn’t mean I will. Personally, I think it’s a sign of my maturity .

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 01/14/12 04:26 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection? No, censoring one's self (exercising self control) is a dying art....I think it is a shame that "present day" attitude is " I have a right, an obligation, to say exactly what I wish to say, whenever I wish to say it"....I believe leading by example is the best way and the time investment is worth the end result....Respect means way more to me than a "desire" to always be right... Especially when "being right" comes at the expense of another....

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Sat 01/14/12 05:35 AM
I think censoring yourself isn’t lying or being disrespectful, it’s more (IMO) being considerate of others...particularly if not censoring myself, causes others to be upset or hurt unnecessarily. Just because I can (say whatever I’m thinking), doesn’t mean I will. Personally, I think it’s a sign of my maturity . Well put (maturity).

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Sat 01/14/12 06:31 AM
I think censoring yourself isn’t lying or being disrespectful, it’s more (IMO) being considerate of others...particularly if not censoring myself, causes others to be upset or hurt unnecessarily. Just because I can (say whatever I’m thinking), doesn’t mean I will. Personally, I think it’s a sign of my maturity . Very much agree with this.....

agbbieannie Joined Thu 02/21/08 Posts: 942	Sat 01/14/12 06:43 AM
I think censoring yourself isn’t lying or being disrespectful, it’s more (IMO) being considerate of others...particularly if not censoring myself, causes others to be upset or hurt unnecessarily. Just because I can (say whatever I’m thinking), doesn’t mean I will. Personally, I think it’s a sign of my maturity . Well said

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 01/14/12 07:11 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection? No, censoring one's self (exercising self control) is a dying art....I think it is a shame that "present day" attitude is " I have a right, an obligation, to say exactly what I wish to say, whenever I wish to say it"....I believe leading by example is the best way and the time investment is worth the end result....Respect means way more to me than a "desire" to always be right... Especially when "being right" comes at the expense of another.... ^^This.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Sat 01/14/12 07:39 AM
No, censoring one's self (exercising self control) is a dying art....I think it is a shame that "present day" attitude is " I have a right, an obligation, to say exactly what I wish to say, whenever I wish to say it"....I believe leading by example is the best way and the time investment is worth the end result....Respect means way more to me than a "desire" to always be right... Especially when "being right" comes at the expense of another.... 100% Agree. Just because you think it, does not mean you have to speak it. Sometimes you need to say what is on your mind, that is where honesty and communication comes from obviously, but randomly spouting off just any old dribble is a whole other story.

machug Joined Sun 09/04/11 Posts: 6601	Sat 01/14/12 08:01 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection? No, censoring one's self (exercising self control) is a dying art....I think it is a shame that "present day" attitude is " I have a right, an obligation, to say exactly what I wish to say, whenever I wish to say it"....I believe leading by example is the best way and the time investment is worth the end result....Respect means way more to me than a "desire" to always be right... Especially when "being right" comes at the expense of another.... ^^This. I have no problem with finding a way to express myself without hurting or being disrespectful to others. It can be done!! It shows lack of maturity and respect to disregard another's feelings in your quest to always be right.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 01/14/12 08:06 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection? No, censoring one's self (exercising self control) is a dying art....I think it is a shame that "present day" attitude is " I have a right, an obligation, to say exactly what I wish to say, whenever I wish to say it"....I believe leading by example is the best way and the time investment is worth the end result....Respect means way more to me than a "desire" to always be right... Especially when "being right" comes at the expense of another.... ^^This. I have no problem with finding a way to express myself without hurting or being disrespectful to others. It can be done!! It shows lack of maturity and respect to disregard another's feelings in your quest to always be right. Abooolutey Mac!!! Lack of maturity with a little narcissism thrown in for good measure....

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 01/14/12 08:33 AM Edited by msharmony on Sat 01/14/12 08:34 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection? no lying is an attempt to deceive by giving false information on purpose ,,,at least, its what I consider to be a lie,,, if we spoke everything we thought many of us would never shut up,,, so we by nature pick and choose our words,the context in which we use them and the purpose or significance of sharing them at any given time or in any given situation,,,

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24709	Sat 01/14/12 09:42 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection? No, censoring one's self (exercising self control) is a dying art....I think it is a shame that "present day" attitude is " I have a right, an obligation, to say exactly what I wish to say, whenever I wish to say it"....I believe leading by example is the best way and the time investment is worth the end result....Respect means way more to me than a "desire" to always be right... Especially when "being right" comes at the expense of another.... Outstanding!

Grim14u Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 390	Sat 01/14/12 09:46 AM
There are times when ...... Biting one's tongue....... IS the Least Painful approach!!!!!

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 01/14/12 09:47 AM
I think censoring yourself isn’t lying or being disrespectful, it’s more (IMO) being considerate of others...particularly if not censoring myself, causes others to be upset or hurt unnecessarily. Just because I can (say whatever I’m thinking), doesn’t mean I will. Personally, I think it’s a sign of my maturity . agreed and it also makes us think about what we are saying and how we say it - if we really want to be understood it is best to choose our words rather than react

pennyg281 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 4348	Sat 01/14/12 10:07 AM
My grandmother taught me that if I cant say anything nice . . . Dont say anything at all. . . Which would be why im usually QUIET. :)

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Sat 01/14/12 10:20 AM
As i've got older, i've got better at biting my tongue. I know my mum was right, when she advised to walk away from fights or arguments.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 01/14/12 10:31 AM
My grandmother taught me that if I cant say anything nice . . . Dont say anything at all. . . Which would be why im usually QUIET. :) HAAAAAA ,, me too penny, me too,,,

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sat 01/14/12 10:34 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection? Its called tact or being polite. Just because you have an opinion that does not mean everyone wants to hear it. It might be a good idea to wait until someone actually asks for it. Some things are just inappropriate according to the situation.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sat 01/14/12 11:02 AM Edited by Ladylid2012 on Sat 01/14/12 11:13 AM
Is censoring one's self out of respect "lying"? or Is censoring one's self in this way "actually" disrespectful? ...especially in these times of mass media and connection? It depends. Not censoring oneself because of the need to get even or be right serves no good, maybe some brief relief for us, usually not. Sometimes when we care for others, we need to not censor ourselves to help. It's a slippery slope. I don't ever think it respectful to spew our thoughts on others if they don't want to hear it. That's just arrogance. ...especially in these times of mass media and connection. Edit to say, self control is ALWAYS a good characteristic, just not always the appropriate action. There are times when control of the self needs to be let loose.