Am I the only person to observe this.....? Does it seem individuals want their needs fulfilled-meaning likes, wants, desires, fantasies...but are unwilling to meet a counterpart? Maybe I'm totally old-fashioned-out-schooled-old schooled-half-dead-barely-alive-but I thought relationships were about give and take.

What are people looking for these days? Are you finding it on this site or elsewhere? Is it realistic? Can we find love and happiness in cyber space?

Silence....that says it all. This cyber crap is all fake..People are scared of human relationships...and themselves....

its late on the east coast

patience is a virtue


We live in a less physical world (With the exception of sex). Most things are done through technology. From finding directions, to depositing and withdrawing money, and even being plugged into iphones and ipods,, the culture has just replaced alot of what was personal and intimate with what is fast and easy.

That being said, every relationship starts first with a meeting and it doesnt really matter if that meeting occurs on an internet site or in a bar. From there people are looking for different things. Some just seek someone to talk to, which can be done on a phone or over an internet connection. Some want someone to communicate with AND have physical relations with, which requires more than an internet connection.

most sites allow people to specify whether they are seeking 'friends' as opposed to seeking 'dates', and it shouldnt be hard for people to find someone in either category.

Isn't it past your bedtime?

I dont sleep well at night,, believe it or not,,lol

I found love and happiness in cyberspace but I started in 1995. That is 16 years of building and creating in a virtual dimension. But if one is not into parallel worlds or dimensions I can see where some people would have trouble with that. It is not just for breakfast any more. Once the Arpanet became the Internet it became less of just a military venture. We got geeks from all over the world making it more realer than it ever was.

You can't tell if someone is being that real behind a computer screen. Though, if i want to find out if someone's profile pic is really them, then i know which website to go on, to truly know that. I used to work as a detective, so i pretty much just know anyway when something isn't right. There's a lot of talking, yet not enough doing. It's then that you have to ask why they bothered. I've been to my fair share of nightclubs. These days i explore different places. It's not important WHERE i find him, but HOW i find him. I've been physically ill, with quite extreme labour-type spasms lately, so i'm hardly gonna bother looking right now, given the ill state i'm in. feel too ill to bother trying, to be honest. Believe me, being on the ball is a good thing. Sometimes i see people on dating sites where i recognise some of their faces, and i think to myself (what a wonderful world) "There's that person i once had to help get arrested", which feels really odd.

I found it in cyber space and it is about give and take,

Wether it's on here or down the road in the supermarket..

No relationship that is going to last can be one sided.

I definitely had to develop a thick skin when I first started internet dating.

I couldn't believe that the amount of webcam enthusiasts, time wasters, scammers, serial shaggers (those looking for no strings affairs) out there and that didn't include those that were genuinely not compatible.

I have found love and happiness online BUT I had to learn a few things (the hard way) along the way that seem like so much common sense now...

It is what you do AFTER you meet.
Not HOW you meet.

Yeah, I think we can, but it takes work....

VERY true.

You don't got a f**kin clue about what you are talking about. (I would have answered first post immedieately, but I was at WORK)

I ain't gonna bother going into detail about my love that I met HERE. That I have flown to meet more than once and plan on spending my life and love with her, like she plans on doing with me.

And don't forget manO and I are planing to move in with you guys when you get settled.

We will adopt you.
And tell everyone you are twins.

can I babysit?

It works better for some than others. I've been using dating sites since 1998, and the upshot is that the kind of person I'm looking for just doesn't use these sites. At least not any of the 14,882 sites I've tried....

14,883rd is a charm

14,883rd is Senior Gay Jewish Architect In Pennsylvania Dating. I'm pretty sure that's not the answer.

expert say that these days it is easier to meet someone compatible to you on line than it is to meet someone like that in real life, we have become so disatached from real life that we no longer notice people around us even those that are basically undreasing us with their eyes lol