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| Topic: Sometimes I really wonder if I'm ready. | |
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If it's just a boyfriend and you haven't moved in together, you still have your own space to get away when you need to do so. And who says you have to cook for him all the time? If you don't feel like cooking, don't cook.  I know what you mean. But here lately I've had convictions about sex outside of marriage. Some women marry for money, maybe I can marry for sex, and send him on his way when we finish.
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I wonder sometimes if I'm really ready for a steady bf, or husband for that matter. As I get older, I become more set in my ways. I like doing what I want, when I want. If I don't feel like cooking I don't want to cook. Cleaning is a different thing, I can't stand a dirty house. But sometimes I think, wouldn't it be great if I could treat my relationship just like you would a grandchild or my neighbors kids. When I'm tired of you I can just send you home. Any women ever feel like this? I am with you girl! It seems like when I meet a man, they just want one thing, but that is not what I want. I want to just be with someone on those lonely nights, go out with when I feel like it, and just feel that compassion. I am set in my ways, and I cannot stand a man telling me what to do or try to change a channel on t.v. when I am watching it because there is a game on. NO WAY! I do want someone that I can be comfortable with but sometime I just want to be alone. Like you said, that is when it's time to send them home. No obligations whatsoever, and I definitely do not want him just for sex, there's got to be someone out there that understands, I mean a man that understands. Yes, you understand where I'm coming from. 
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I wonder sometimes if I'm really ready for a steady bf, or husband for that matter. As I get older, I become more set in my ways. I like doing what I want, when I want. If I don't feel like cooking I don't want to cook. Cleaning is a different thing, I can't stand a dirty house. But sometimes I think, wouldn't it be great if I could treat my relationship just like you would a grandchild or my neighbors kids. When I'm tired of you I can just send you home. Any women ever feel like this? I don't want a stead bf or husband as I enjoy my freedom way too much. I found relationships are too much like babysitting and with my busy schedule; I don't have the time for that. 
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Edited by
42BlackBBW
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Wed 11/02/11 03:06 PM
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To a certain extent, you are right....the longer I remain single, the more set in my ways I’m getting but that is something that I am aware of and am working on because there is always going to be a conversation, an element of negotiation and compromise(s) at the start of every relationship that I have.
I realised that if I want a relationship – and I do – I’m going to have to make some changes...and so will he! |
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To a certain extent, you are right....the longer I remain single, the more set in my ways I’m getting but that is something that I am aware of and am working on because there is always going to be a conversation, an element of negotiation and compromise(s) at the start of every relationship that I have. If I want a relationship – and I do – I’m going to have to make some changes. Absolutely; there are lots of compromises and negotations; one almost must sign a contract these days to have a relationship which I am not willing to do. Whatever your choice; I hope you find the happiness that you seek. 
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thank you
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thank you You are welcome. I think you are a great gal and lots of fun on mingles. 
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thanking ye most kindly lovely lady. The feeling is totally mutual
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thanking ye most kindly lovely lady. The feeling is totally mutual Aww thanks. 
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OK, so let me get this straight;
Wemens want a guy to "help them get through those lonely nights" But they don't want any sex. Except sometimes they want sex but then want him to leave after it's over. They want control over the remote. But the only channel they watch is the Oprah channel. They don't want to cook for him. But they claim to be excellent cooks. They want their freedom. But they don't want to go anywhere alone. They love men. But they don't really want to hang around with them for too long. Have I got most of this right so far? No wonder we men folk are confused. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Wed 11/02/11 04:22 PM
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OK, so let me get this straight; Wemens want a guy to "help them get through those lonely nights" But they don't want any sex. Except sometimes they want sex but then want him to leave after it's over. They want control over the remote. But the only channel they watch is the Oprah channel. They don't want to cook for him. But they claim to be excellent cooks. They want their freedom. But they don't want to go anywhere alone. They love men. But they don't really want to hang around with them for too long. Have I got most of this right so far? No wonder we men folk are confused. No confusion here. I don't want a man to help me through the lonely nights; I don't want to cook for him; I don't want him for sex, I like going places alone, I don't love any men other than in friendships, and I don't watch Oprah; I am a football fan. Does that clear it up for you about me? As for the other ladies; I am sure they will tell you what they want. 
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And the confusion continues.
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And the confusion continues. Nope; no confusion. Everyone has their preferences. How about guys saying they want an independent woman but when she is he feels threatened. He says he wants a relationship; and then after a few months he says he is not ready for one. |He says he doesn't want kids but then hits mid life crisis and wants kids. Says he wants to meet someone his age and then starts chasing younger women. I could go on but I think you get the idea. Each man is different and wants different things which could be confusing to women as well. |
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OK, so let me get this straight; Wemens want a guy to "help them get through those lonely nights" But they don't want any sex. Except sometimes they want sex but then want him to leave after it's over. They want control over the remote. But the only channel they watch is the Oprah channel. They don't want to cook for him. But they claim to be excellent cooks. They want their freedom. But they don't want to go anywhere alone. They love men. But they don't really want to hang around with them for too long. Have I got most of this right so far? No wonder we men folk are confused. Well let me correct you on a few things regarding myself. Yea, I want sex and I'll give it to him when he wants it but after it's over just give me my space. Yes, I want to control the remote because I like watching what I want to watch. I don't like Oprah. I hate cooking and I'm awful at it. The only reason I don't like to go anywhere alone is because I'd rather not drive. And as long as you don't get on my nerves you can hang around.
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I have so many women in my life I wonder if I could ever be happy with just one. (Insert Lay's Potato Chip Commercial here.)
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OK, so let me get this straight; Wemens want a guy to "help them get through those lonely nights" But they don't want any sex. Except sometimes they want sex but then want him to leave after it's over. They want control over the remote. But the only channel they watch is the Oprah channel. They don't want to cook for him. But they claim to be excellent cooks. They want their freedom. But they don't want to go anywhere alone. They love men. But they don't really want to hang around with them for too long. Have I got most of this right so far? No wonder we men folk are confused. There is method in behind the confusion...we need to keep guys on their toes...how else are we going to make sense of the contradictions that (sometimes) comes out of our mouths It's also to stop guys from spending too much time playing with themselves  ..Or is that only guys that I tend to meet? LOL |
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OK, so let me get this straight; Wemens want a guy to "help them get through those lonely nights" But they don't want any sex. Except sometimes they want sex but then want him to leave after it's over. They want control over the remote. But the only channel they watch is the Oprah channel. They don't want to cook for him. But they claim to be excellent cooks. They want their freedom. But they don't want to go anywhere alone. They love men. But they don't really want to hang around with them for too long. Have I got most of this right so far? No wonder we men folk are confused. There is method in behind the confusion...we need to keep guys on their toes...how else are we going to make sense of the contradictions that (sometimes) comes out of our mouths It's also to stop guys from spending too much time playing with themselves ..Or is that only guys that I tend to meet? LOL At last, an honest heartfelt answer. |
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I wonder sometimes if I'm really ready for a steady bf, or husband for that matter. As I get older, I become more set in my ways. I like doing what I want, when I want. If I don't feel like cooking I don't want to cook. Cleaning is a different thing, I can't stand a dirty house. But sometimes I think, wouldn't it be great if I could treat my relationship just like you would a grandchild or my neighbors kids. When I'm tired of you I can just send you home. Any women ever feel like this? I got to that point before I lived with Rick. But when we moved in together, it just worked wonderfully. Now that he is gone, I realised that I can still live with someone. I miss him something awful. |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Thu 11/03/11 03:50 PM
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Here is a brief quick and dirty assessment for the beginning of Man meets woman and what they want:
Men want sex. Women want relationship. If a man wants marriage then he wants sex, plus a cook, a maid and a housekeeper -- for free. If a woman wants marriage, she wants security, a house and probably children and a man who will work and stick around and pay the bills while she raises the kids. She promises sex in return. She may not keep that promise forever.  He promises fidelity. He may not keep that promise either. |
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Here is a brief quick and dirty assessment for the beginning of Man meets woman and what they want: Men want sex. Women want relationship. If a man wants marriage then he wants sex, plus a cook, a maid and a housekeeper -- for free. If a woman wants marriage, she wants security, a house and probably children and a man who will work and stick around and pay the bills while she raises the kids. What ever happened to real LOVE  Thought I'd been in love before, but in my heart I wanted more. Seems like all I really was doing was waitin' for you. |
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