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OK, so let me get this straight; Wemens want a guy to "help them get through those lonely nights" But they don't want any sex. Except sometimes they want sex but then want him to leave after it's over. They want control over the remote. But the only channel they watch is the Oprah channel. They don't want to cook for him. But they claim to be excellent cooks. They want their freedom. But they don't want to go anywhere alone. They love men. But they don't really want to hang around with them for too long. Have I got most of this right so far? No wonder we men folk are confused. There is method in behind the confusion...we need to keep guys on their toes...how else are we going to make sense of the contradictions that (sometimes) comes out of our mouths  It's also to stop guys from spending too much time playing with themselves  ..Or is that only guys that I tend to meet? LOL At last, an honest heartfelt answer. 
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Here is a brief quick and dirty assessment for the beginning of Man meets woman and what they want: Men want sex. Women want relationship. If a man wants marriage then he wants sex, plus a cook, a maid and a housekeeper -- for free. If a woman wants marriage, she wants security, a house and probably children and a man who will work and stick around and pay the bills while she raises the kids. What ever happened to real LOVE  Thought I'd been in love before, but in my heart I wanted more. Seems like all I really was doing was waitin' for you. Ah a romantic!! Its nice to be a romantic. Real love grows between people and endures all the hormonal things going on in the human body. I of course, was speaking of the beginning of a man-woman relationship. Infatuation is not love, it is just a chemical reaction. |
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Here is a brief quick and dirty assessment for the beginning of Man meets woman and what they want: Men want sex. Women want relationship. If a man wants marriage then he wants sex, plus a cook, a maid and a housekeeper -- for free. If a woman wants marriage, she wants security, a house and probably children and a man who will work and stick around and pay the bills while she raises the kids. What ever happened to real LOVE Thought I'd been in love before, but in my heart I wanted more. Seems like all I really was doing was waitin' for you. Ah a romantic!! Its nice to be a romantic. Real love grows between people and endures all the hormonal things going on in the human body. I of course, was speaking of the beginning of a man-woman relationship. Infatuation is not love, it is just a chemical reaction. As it happens I am not at all romantic but I do know what love is and real love never dies. would have been a flower but you would pigeon hole me
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Hope this helps......
  
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I wonder sometimes if I'm really ready for a steady bf, or husband for that matter. As I get older, I become more set in my ways. I like doing what I want, when I want. If I don't feel like cooking I don't want to cook. Cleaning is a different thing, I can't stand a dirty house. But sometimes I think, wouldn't it be great if I could treat my relationship just like you would a grandchild or my neighbors kids. When I'm tired of you I can just send you home. Any women ever feel like this?  We would have separate TVs.
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I find I meet men who want to be loved for themselves not their status or bank accounts and then I do and then they turn around and when I am not properly impressed with their status or what have you, they seem disappointed.
I very much when I have a man in my life it is because I WANT them in my life not NOT which I think is a much HIGHER compliment but they don't always seem to see it that way. They WANT to be NEEDED. To me, men do not serve a utilitarian purpose. If I have one around it is because I am in love with his mind, soul and spirit. I am to the point where if I don't feel that way, I'd rather be alone. My favorite book I talk about is "Quirky Alone: A Manifesto for the Uncompromising Romantics". It pretty much says if you can't find someone you love that way than don't bother. I have never "settled down" in my entire life. I have been faithful and true always but to get me to "settle" for anything I always say would require lead weights. |
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OK, so let me get this straight; Wemens want a guy to "help them get through those lonely nights" But they don't want any sex. Except sometimes they want sex but then want him to leave after it's over. They want control over the remote. But the only channel they watch is the Oprah channel. They don't want to cook for him. But they claim to be excellent cooks. They want their freedom. But they don't want to go anywhere alone. They love men. But they don't really want to hang around with them for too long. Have I got most of this right so far? No wonder we men folk are confused. Who are all these women you're speaking for? Are they all supposed to be exactly the same? I didn't realize spending the night was a requirement for men to have sex. There's an Oprah channel? Why should women always cook for men, even if some women are good cooks? Can't men make food as well? Who says women don't go anywhere alone? Who says women don't want to hang around men for too long? Sounds like you're definitely confused. |
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Edited by
PacificStar48
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Fri 11/04/11 08:27 PM
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Hmmmmmmm ....
OK, so let me get this straight; LOL Don't try to get women straight; follow the curves it is a lot more fun if you just relax and enjoy the ride. Quote... Wemens want a guy to "help them get through those lonely nights" Yea Occassionally the lonely nights it would be great to have someone to snuggle up with but right the lonely nights are probably not so much about wanting sex and maybe likeing some comfort. Quote.... But they don't want any sex. Whoa wait a minute buster Don't throw the baby oot with the bath water! Sex is great, well I at least vaguely remember it that way. Get a little something something going with that worthy fella and I think I would break out the danties and be willing to show my passion. LOL if he still has enough of his left to return the pleasure. My guess is the average guy is no more eager to be seen necked than I am until we are a little more than friends. Might take us all night to do what we once did all night but never under estimate the delight of experience and desire. Quote... Except sometimes they want sex but then want him to leave after it's over. Well only if he has a job or golf the next morning and I want to sleep in. Quote... They want control over the remote. Darn right I do. Thirty years of watching what the kids like, only half of a movie before I washed the dishes, or went to fold laundry and sixty payments on the flatscreen I am watching what I want. Well half the time or more I don't care I have kind of gotten used to playing on the computer and I can always TIVO. Quote... But the only channel they watch is the Oprah channel. Nope OPRAH channel costs too much on my cable. I do like a couple of the new programs and a good DVD movie but OPRAH nahhhhh. Quote... They don't want to cook for him. Hey I don't mind cooking. But if I am going to cook a five course dinner I better get a really great kitchen at this stage of the game. And no your Ex's leftovers is not going to cut it. And I never want to get "I don't know" when I ask what sounds good. Or my Mother cooked it this way or I think it is better with..." If you want to cook, and a grown man should have at least mastered a few laps in the kitchen I will even unload the dishwaher and rub your back. I believe in flowers for holidays and help lifting a giant turkey out of the oven but a good provider will find a traditional homemaker, as sexist as some of the stereo types can some times sound. Quote... But they claim to be excellent cooks. Hey it is your call all I know is what I am told. But I did not raise strapping boys and keep a husband happy and healthy heating Chef boyardee in the Microwave. In all fairness if you you think I am going to make five star meals seven nights a week and suddenly stop enjoying a resturant meal on a regular basis your dreaming. If you are savey enough to know how friendly a nice candle light dinner can make a mate feel I am sure the romance could go on for years. Quote... They want their freedom. As opposed to what? Being ball and chained to your hip 24/7? Is that what you want or do you want someone who chooses to be with you because you are you and when she has the small needs that others meet for her she brings the best ones to you? Quote... But they don't want to go anywhere alone. Says who? I have gotten where I kind of like haveing the bathroom to myself, going to hairdresser, and hide in my studio ideling away an afternoon now and then. But; Yea if I have to go to the Mother in laws, Home Depot, the Mechanic's, or the Doctor it would be nice to have you around for moral support. Staveing off the beggers in the grocery store parking lot wouldn't be bad. What you think we keep you around for decoration? Quote... They love men. Sometimes men are easier to figure out than a bunch of women true. And yes I like men but I only love one and I am really getting picky; but if your lucky it is you. Don't mess with success. Quote... But they don't really want to hang around with them for too long. And you don't like hanging out with your same sex friends? Women can be friends and if you like their company is it only about sex? 24/7 with a guy makes me wonder aren't you weened? And no I really don't want to hang out with your buddy's or co-workers. If they can't score their own wives friends I really don't want to have to listen to their "dribble" behind your back. Believe me if they are as desperate as some of your friends are they are going to be hitting on me and it just gets tired. Quote... Have I got most of this right so far? LOL Not even close Honey. But hey thanks for the Grins and Giggles. Quote... No wonder we men folk are confused. Yea Right Sweet Cheeks. |
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We should not be alone in our older days, We might need each other to change each others DEPENDS
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Hope this helps...... 
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We should not be alone in our older days, We might need each other to change each others DEPENDS LOL Awe such a romantic. |
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Has anyone else notice that if you out and out make a proclamation to the universe that you are through with dating that the universe will through someone irresistible in front of you to prove you wrong?
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Has anyone else notice that if you out and out make a proclamation to the universe that you are through with dating that the universe will through someone irresistible in front of you to prove you wrong? No. 
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Has anyone else notice that if you out and out make a proclamation to the universe that you are through with dating that the universe will through someone irresistible in front of you to prove you wrong? No. Oh well, maybe it's only me but it works but you really have to mean it when you say it. |
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Has anyone else notice that if you out and out make a proclamation to the universe that you are through with dating that the universe will through someone irresistible in front of you to prove you wrong? No. Oh well, maybe it's only me but it works but you really have to mean it when you say it. Actually, for the better part of this year I really did mean it. And, stayed off of Mingle for long periods of time. That helps cut down on the chances of meeting someone.
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Has anyone else notice that if you out and out make a proclamation to the universe that you are through with dating that the universe will through someone irresistible in front of you to prove you wrong? No. Oh well, maybe it's only me but it works but you really have to mean it when you say it. yes - I know what u mean but the lag time has stretched lately
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Has anyone else notice that if you out and out make a proclamation to the universe that you are through with dating that the universe will through someone irresistible in front of you to prove you wrong? No. Oh well, maybe it's only me but it works but you really have to mean it when you say it. Actually, for the better part of this year I really did mean it. And, stayed off of Mingle for long periods of time. That helps cut down on the chances of meeting someone. well I tend to get more housework done when I deactivate but that's about it.... |
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Sounds like a whole lot of stress build up or maybe a blockage some where ... Good grief there are sooooo many diff people out there and sooooo many choices but from what I have just read most have already talked them selves out of the possibilities of a true love happening.. As A good friend told me you cant get wet if you don't get in the water.. Some swims are worth it....
 
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Ok I am going to another thread before some one throws something at me.. Thought I was in love many times but stayed away from everyone for 3 years and the only person I hurt was me doing it. Took my daughter a year to talk me into even joining a dating site. I love her for her stubbornness because in the 1 week I have been here I can actually hear my heart beating again... I will leave you all with this foot note.....
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@latheman03
Thanks for the really uplifting words. If this thread sounds a little like I have a defeated attitude I really don't. Darn hormones, some times I feel like the prefect love for me is just a moment away and other times I feel like wow, I've waited so long and I'm getting older what's the use.  Just give me a HWB, (husband with benifits).
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