Thank you Trouble. It's nice to have fans out there. Just don't stalk me too much. Haha.

If they say anything about drama/games, I'm probably not going to bother to find out.

I don’t believe in the ‘Mr Right’ concept. I think that’s just an urban myth that we women have been brainwashed into believing by Marie Claire or some other clichéd girlie magazine. Shirley (my tribute to Leslie Nielson), people must get to an age where they should know better.

I just click ‘next’ if I see profile titles that contain Looking for... Mr/Mrs Right, My Soulmate or Mr/Mrs perfect as a title heading. I also tend to get disinterested if I see the words beaches, sunsets and long walks in the text...I just feel like the author’s screaming “Hello Gullible” at me.

BTW, I just love Goof’s and Lex’s responses..harsh at times, definitely a bit of cynicism in there as well, combined with a health dose of truth.

What about beaches screams gullible? I've never heard that one before.

It's the whole sitting on the beach watching the sun go down thing..even if it's true, it just sounds a bit clichéd IMO

Huh, interesting. I guess it really just depends on your interests. If you don't like the beach, I can see why you wouldn't be into someone who has that as an interest. I don't see where gullible comes in, though.

Being a tired old fart (but fighting it) I will readily concede that stupidity, laziness of intelligence and imagination, egotism, narcissism, etc, etc, recognizes no gender in it's manifestation. It was just my familiarity with the topic in THIS context is entirely female-oriented. The thought has occurred to me to sign up to one or two of these sites as a female persona just out of curiosity. However, at 52, life is getting rapidly shorter and I just feel I need to PRIORITIZE. Otherwise, I am happy to accept the word of you women on the subject.

I love beaches...I have absolutely nothing against beaches. Whenever I can get away, have the money and the weather is warm, I head straight for a beach.

IMO it’s just another lure to catch fish. In some profiles, its true, in others, it isn't. I just happen to have a healthy dose of Pessimism in me.

I've noticed!

The funniest (?) profile posting I've read recently was the one from the woman who said that shy men need not message her, repeated at least once.

What made it funny was that she had no profile picture. I guess that must have meant that she isn't shy but she does prefer to be anonymous.

I can understand not wanting to deal with shy men, though. If someone is shy online, how are they even going to get to the meeting in person part? There's no reason to be shy online at all.

Cheeky!!!

Maybe she is shy?

Maybe she's someone with an overwhelming personality that shy guys might find intimidating

It could be that Mister Right is hiding behind Mister Left. Or it could be that Mister Left Out is covering for Mister Be Right Out.

Here is the thing. In my experience, I've met women whom, when I first met them, acted as if they had it "all together". I'm sure part of it was to impress me. I mean, what man in his right mind wants to meet a woman who is looney right? And, what woman would want to meet a man who is actually a puss and can't think for himself? So, truth be told, we all do it. We all want to impress someone.

And if there is one way to impress someone, it is by writing a kick azz profile that is probably 55% solid truth, 35% slight exaggeration, 5% bs, and 5% plagerism (If they write poetry in their profile). Basically, you are selling yourself. And as corny as this sounds, a lot of chicks love to read "I'm a dude who hates drama", or "Have 10 inches baby!", or "I love to cuddle".

Yes. The classics still work. Which is why women still, to this day, will always say they want to meet Mr. Right. I'm sure that, deep down, they'd love to meet a guy who is flawed, but also only has eyes for them....and not the bimbo secretary as well. Nothing against bimbo's. I love them dearly. I'm just saying...Mr. Right will not want the bimbo too. Ok...he might fantasize about her, but that's it. Anyways....moving along here....I will surmise why Mr. Right is not usually found.

He simply has learned, via the way the world is now, that trusting people today is harder than it ever was. Think about it. We all talk about trust. We all want to trust. But when you've been burnt in the past, trusting is hard to do. Even harder when you want to trust someone of the opposite sex. It's a theory, but I feel it holds a great amount of truth to it. In a way, all of us are like lawyers. We have bent the truth so much over the years that we are now believing our own bullsh*t! Agree or not....Goof hath spoken....Go with God.

The "I hate drama," "have 10 inches baby!," or "I love to cuddle" in profiles is pretty much a clear sign a guy is writing what he thinks women want to hear.

It also often means the opposite. If someone were bragging like that (or something similar) I'd have to wonder if it were actually not true.

Ahhh. And yet, a lot of women fall for those lines. However, in all fairness here, guys fall for a chick saying "Oh no! Size does NOT matter at all...nor does the size of your checking account". And yet, a guy will marry that chick, five years later they are divorcing, and she gets more than half. Haha! A viscous cycle.

I'm not saying that guys don't hate drama, are quite large, or like to cuddle. But, when written on a profile? Probably not, as those aren't really things that need to be pointed out on a profile. You're probably right, though. I'm sure there are women who fall for those lines.

PS - Size doesn't matter if you actually know what you're doing.

It shouldn't be about

LOOKING for Mr/Ms Right

but about

BEING Mr/Ms Right...

Hello, are you folks listening?

thank you dear