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Wow sounds like everyone is in a real positive mood. For real, huh?  My first thought was to check and see if my profile says that, but I didn't because I don't care. Just read a person's profile, if you find something that seems real about that person and if it's of interest to you then make contact, if not then move on to the next profile. We're not experts in writing prefect profiles. People do the best they can at what they're looking for.
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when we were dating my ex used to tell her friends that she'd finally found mr. right. after we'd been married a couple years she'd tell them that come to find out my first name is always.
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then why not just say that?
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Edited by
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Sun 10/30/11 05:22 AM
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im going to defend the ladys here for a second. Sir, each one of them are looking for something specific,therefor sayin im looking for my mr right,they might even b lookin for you. My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me. Many will not be mr right and a few could be.i think the"mr right..is achievable and could even b found on thisite. - My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me then why not just say that? |
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I suspended my account here quite some time ago. I can't remember for sure why. However, Having reactivated it and had a quick look through the profiles of women searching for men I SUSPECT that ONE reason is the number of them using the term "Looking For Mr Right" as their catch-line. This is so old, tired and clichéd that it is not just boring, it's alienating. "Mr Right" sounds like some unobtainable, ephemeral being along the lines of an asexual "Heathcliffe" that I find it instantly off-putting and thus just immediately pass those profiles by. I assume, in doing so, that the women involved are emotionally stunted and sexually arid. Personally, I do not care to even think of being "Mr Right" but rather "Mr Okay", "Mr Flawed, But Will Do", Mr Will Give It All I Can But Insist On Having Fun". What is other men's take on this? Do you just find it judgementally off-putting? Are the women here surprised at such a view? If you're not, why do it? Why set out from the word go to achieve a success rate of zero? Why bother putting your profile here? Why alienate the majority of men from the word go? You've barely scratched the surface....93.8% of everything I've ever seen in profiles is nothing more than a string of trite, hackneyed cliches that should have gone out of style in the Neanderthal days. I think what happens is a lot of women read through a few other women's profiles to see what others have written. And there's such a preponderance of "Looking for my Prince Charming" and "I like long walks on the beach" and "I see the glass as half full" and "I love my friends and family" and "No game players!" and "Looks don't matter, it's what's on the inside that counts," and "I look good in jeans or the little black dress" or "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" or "I don't bite!" and so on and so on, that people actually believe this is what a profile is supposed to look like. So they make theirs look like that. You're right, it's not just boring, it's alienating. It makes them look lazy and unoriginal and unmotivated and dull and unappealing. And I don't think they care, because they're blissfully oblivious to the whole reality of the thing. And as long as they can post a cleavage shot or two, there will always be some drooling cretin who will send them an incomprehensibly mangled and garbled e-mail saying something astonishingly clever like "Nice bewbs!" And the girls will be happy with that. Because that's all most of them want in the first place. c'mon now - that's harsh do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile |
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im going to defend the ladys here for a second. Sir, each one of them are looking for something specific,therefor sayin im looking for my mr right,they might even b lookin for you. My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me. Many will not be mr right and a few could be.i think the"mr right..is achievable and could even b found on thisite. - My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me then why not just say that? Well...I think that most guys would say they are those things, just like most gals will say they look good in a little black dress. We have to get to know people to find out if they are the one we are looking for. The cliche's however, are just a waste of everyones time. I think they communicate merely a lack of interest in a real relationship. Or a lack of ability to be in one with me anyway. Im glad they do that...it means I should click past them. and to expand on what klc is saying - we DO say those things in profiles to some degree, but I know I don't put everything I could say on a profile - I just try to give some idea on it of how I think & what I look like so you (man) will have some inkling of whether you might be interested...I mean let's be realistic here on what we expect a person's profile to do for us. I've been attracted to guys who's profiles weren't all that....because I got to know them through conversation - a profile is not a shortcut and as far as the mr right thing - everyone wants mr or mrs right but obviously that is not going to be the same qualities for everyone - and ya - it's a cliche I'd interpret it to mean that the person who wrote is looking for a commitment or a relationship versus hook ups - even if things start out as hook ups - if they use that term they prolly will want things to escalate eventually...with someone |
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im going to defend the ladys here for a second. Sir, each one of them are looking for something specific,therefor sayin im looking for my mr right,they might even b lookin for you. My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me. Many will not be mr right and a few could be.i think the"mr right..is achievable and could even b found on thisite. - My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me then why not just say that? Well...I think that most guys would say they are those things, just like most gals will say they look good in a little black dress. We have to get to know people to find out if they are the one we are looking for. The cliche's however, are just a waste of everyones time. I think they communicate merely a lack of interest in a real relationship. Or a lack of ability to be in one with me anyway. Im glad they do that...it means I should click past them. Same here -- plagiarism and a complete lack of imagination are not attractive characteristics. The downside, of course, is when ALL of the profiles you see are little more than endless strings of cliches.... |
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c'mon now - that's harsh Harsh, but accurate -- at least, within my experience. do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile Then you're an exception. But most of the profiles out there are slightly less interesting than the UPC code on the Ritz Crackers box. |
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c'mon now - that's harsh Harsh, but accurate -- at least, within my experience. do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile Then you're an exception. But most of the profiles out there are slightly less interesting than the UPC code on the Ritz Crackers box. yes I understand your point about "cookie cutter" style profiles- that is kinda - bleh... I know if mine is full of cliches it is totally by accident....so I was just responding to your saying that we are copying off each other - not always true - at least , not here |
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c'mon now - that's harsh Harsh, but accurate -- at least, within my experience. do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile Then you're an exception. But most of the profiles out there are slightly less interesting than the UPC code on the Ritz Crackers box. yes I understand your point about "cookie cutter" style profiles- that is kinda - bleh... I know if mine is full of cliches it is totally by accident....so I was just responding to your saying that we are copying off each other - not always true - at least , not here I've seen so many that were blatant copy 'n paste jobs, I suspect somewhere out there is a boilerplate dating site profile document that everybody but me knows about -- The only other feasible (?) alternative is that there's some sort of genetic encoding in the DNA that makes everybody write the same things in their profiles.... |
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Edited by
justme659
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Sun 10/30/11 07:34 AM
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Cheese, I guess I look at things a little different. To me, looking for Mr./Ms. Right does not mean Mr./Ms. Perfect.
I see it as someone saying I am looking for someone that is Right for Me. As opposed to the past relationships that were so Wrong. Someone that would be a better fit for the things we could share in life that would be positive for both of us instead of being a disaster. And as to what the OP stated, "Personally, I do not care to even think of being "Mr Right" but rather "Mr Okay", "Mr Flawed, But Will Do", that statement makes me think of second best or setteling ( sp ) for something that doesn't fit. I can just see my profile if I thought of myself in that way: Hi. I am fat, divorced, stuck-at-home, old crone. Hit me up. LOL That should bring them flocking to my profile. Sure, we all have flaws, but sheesh, don't you,OP deserve better than second best (Ms. Flawed), just to be with someone? JMO |
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I keep seeing the same questions and responses over and over and over.
Is this Deja-vu, Groundhog Day or Re-runs? 
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c'mon now - that's harsh Harsh, but accurate -- at least, within my experience. do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile Then you're an exception. But most of the profiles out there are slightly less interesting than the UPC code on the Ritz Crackers box. Oh and BTW - I'd rather have the ritz crackers most times
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c'mon now - that's harsh Harsh, but accurate -- at least, within my experience. do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile Then you're an exception. But most of the profiles out there are slightly less interesting than the UPC code on the Ritz Crackers box. yes I understand your point about "cookie cutter" style profiles- that is kinda - bleh... I know if mine is full of cliches it is totally by accident....so I was just responding to your saying that we are copying off each other - not always true - at least , not here I've seen so many that were blatant copy 'n paste jobs, I suspect somewhere out there is a boilerplate dating site profile document that everybody but me knows about -- The only other feasible (?) alternative is that there's some sort of genetic encoding in the DNA that makes everybody write the same things in their profiles.... or just not knowing what to say what is sad, to me anyway, is that I think a lot of people are afraid to show themselves...peeps UR BEAUTIFUL - let that profile show it....this is my thinking anyway - afraid or lazy....or don;t care I know when I first started online I was afraid my profile was going to turn someone off who I'd be interested in - so I changed it & shortened it and made it pretty generic (but not clichced - I don;t think anyway) then I said w/e....can't be all things to all people |
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c'mon now - that's harsh Harsh, but accurate -- at least, within my experience. do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile Then you're an exception. But most of the profiles out there are slightly less interesting than the UPC code on the Ritz Crackers box. yes I understand your point about "cookie cutter" style profiles- that is kinda - bleh... I know if mine is full of cliches it is totally by accident....so I was just responding to your saying that we are copying off each other - not always true - at least , not here I've seen so many that were blatant copy 'n paste jobs, I suspect somewhere out there is a boilerplate dating site profile document that everybody but me knows about -- The only other feasible (?) alternative is that there's some sort of genetic encoding in the DNA that makes everybody write the same things in their profiles.... Not all of us women have the same profiles.  Though, I don't think most guys read mine anyway. I am often told it's too long. |
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c'mon now - that's harsh Harsh, but accurate -- at least, within my experience. do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile Then you're an exception. But most of the profiles out there are slightly less interesting than the UPC code on the Ritz Crackers box. yes I understand your point about "cookie cutter" style profiles- that is kinda - bleh... I know if mine is full of cliches it is totally by accident....so I was just responding to your saying that we are copying off each other - not always true - at least , not here I've seen so many that were blatant copy 'n paste jobs, I suspect somewhere out there is a boilerplate dating site profile document that everybody but me knows about -- The only other feasible (?) alternative is that there's some sort of genetic encoding in the DNA that makes everybody write the same things in their profiles.... Not all of us women have the same profiles. Though, I don't think most guys read mine anyway. I am often told it's too long. I haven't read every woman's profile -- although it sure seems like it -- so I can't say they're ALL the same. Just the 24,883,092,117 I've read so far. On the other hand, women always say men don't read the profiles, they just look at the pictures. If that's true, then there's really no need for a profile at all. Maybe it should just be a picture gallery, with no text whatsoever. I can say that women do read men's profiles. I've certainly had a whole lot reading mine. Although they rarely pay any attention to what I wrote. |
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I have thought about removing my profile just for that reason! I'm sure there are men out there who do read them, but not many, it seems.
Though, I often get emails from guys saying they like my profile. When I ask them what they liked about it, they either say the pictures, or that it was interesting. When I ask them what was interesting about it, I don't often get an actual answer. |
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im going to defend the ladys here for a second. Sir, each one of them are looking for something specific,therefor sayin im looking for my mr right,they might even b lookin for you. My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me. Many will not be mr right and a few could be.i think the"mr right..is achievable and could even b found on thisite. - My mr right is compasionate kind caring intelgnt and emotionaly mature and wont mind to have a child with me then why not just say that? |
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c'mon now - that's harsh Harsh, but accurate -- at least, within my experience. do you know that I never read another woman's profile - never even been on any except once or twice when I wanted to PM someone - and no - didn't read their profile Then you're an exception. But most of the profiles out there are slightly less interesting than the UPC code on the Ritz Crackers box. yes I understand your point about "cookie cutter" style profiles- that is kinda - bleh... I know if mine is full of cliches it is totally by accident....so I was just responding to your saying that we are copying off each other - not always true - at least , not here I've seen so many that were blatant copy 'n paste jobs, I suspect somewhere out there is a boilerplate dating site profile document that everybody but me knows about -- The only other feasible (?) alternative is that there's some sort of genetic encoding in the DNA that makes everybody write the same things in their profiles.... |
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The best profiles (that chicks write) start out by saying..... 1. No Drama (Which is code for she herself loves the hell out of it) 2. No FWB's (Means that she wants sex but only if she sees the bulge in your pants is AWESOME!) 3. I Know What I Want (Means she has no clue what she wants) 4. No short men (Means Mini Me is so 1999) 5. I pay my own bills (Means she does, but if you would like to pay them, then that means more money for purses, so SCORE!) I think you get the gist of what I'm saying. Or maybe you don't. But whatever the hell it is I am saying, if a chick does say she is looking for Mr. Right, then chances are if you have that AWESOME bulge I mentioned earlier....well...you'll suffice. That's funny, because I think the thing I see the most in mens' profiles is also the no drama/no games thing, which to me says they're already surrounded by drama and play games often. Ok...but do they also have the AWESOME bulge?
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